This is a discussion on Sob sob..maid issues again within the Domestic Helper, Nanny and Confinement Lady forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by sal I'll still send her back if I were you...even if she were to come clean with ...
just want to share 1 exp of mine, i have many maids, i always tell my maids, i may not be the best employer, but i never ill-treat them....
I was in my 5 mths preg that time and this new maid came, during her 7 days i work from home. I taught her all the timings that my 2 elder boys need to go to school, what time to cook, etc. Still everyday we have to argue over what day is it that day. She always gets monday, tuesdays etc mixed up, yet she claimed she is an experienced maid from M'sia.
On her 7th day, she didn't do any housework, but is all packed and dressed. The moment we woke up, she told me she wants to go back agt. Her reason: My boys refuse to listen to her. We called the agt, after talking plus my 2 boys asking me to give her a chance, she continued to work for us.
The following week, out of goodwill, we let her call home. After the call, she cried. Reason: Her husband had left with another women. She worried about her daughters, cos i told her most impt thing in the house is my kids.
My husband need to leave town for work, on her 13th day, she sit in the hall, refuse to work. I need to go to the office, I got my mom to come over. Guess what, that day, my mom did all the house-work for me. She even had the guts to teach my mom how to use our vaccum cleaner.
On the 14th day, I woke up, she was sitting in the bedroom, starring at the ceiling. I need to rush to work, so I left her with my mom. Mid day I came home, she was still sitting there.
I packed her things and sent her to the agt. After dat, agt told her, her reason for leaving:
1. She does not like taking care of boys.
2. She likes to take care of infants.
What kind of attitude is this?
We thank God, 6 weeks later our current maid arrive. Similarly, I would say. She is not the best maid around, but is good enof for us. She now take cares of my 3 boys while my husband and I work. What more can we ask for?
Sometimes we can give and take, some risks cannot take. I think it really all depends. Maid with the right attitude is very impt. All the best to all and myself......
after 2 bad exp with indon i'm still waiting for my new phili maid to arrv,
3 weeks , passport still not ready !!!
Hope i will not have prob with tis new maid
Now my turn to be worried. I m planning to send my current maid home once the new one arrived..which might take another 2 weeks.
This current indonesian..still doesn't know how to do her work. dont know when to feed children, dont know what is to be done..even after 2 weeks and even with a timetable written for her in her language.
N now, if we reprimand her for doing the wrong things, she'll walk away and start mumbling in her language.
I think she is under stresses and is going crazy...i'm going to call the agt to get her ut tomorrow
dont want her to wake up n the middle of the nite to start a killing spree...
Tis time i get young & inexp phili, hopefully no more prob.
she looks very innocent to mi, & the biodata, father is a teacher, mother works for govt. Hopefully is true & she has good upbringing. She is oni 23 yo, if she can really help mi & prob-free, i'll let her learn some skills in Singapore
Haizzz all tis maid issues can drive ppl crazy... Wonder y press oni interested in how maid got abused n not how we employers got abused too mentally...
I sent my 3rd maid back early tis month n now father in law asking about getting a new one again. I'm putting it off as far back as I can.... But then eventually will need to get one, old folks getting very dependent to have someone to order about... Haizzzz
Now I having the same problems with maid. My current maid was with me for 1yr2mths and recently her mum wants and insisted her to go back asap cos her mum was tired to look after her 3yo girl. My maid was from Phillipines aged 27 with 2 kids, 1 boy and 1 girl. Early this month, she got a bad news from her family saying that her boy aged 4 has passed away due to MALARIA..my family felt very sad for her and immediately I arrnged her to go back the very next day. Good enough, she was back after 7 days. I'm glad to see her back also cos I expect not to see her again. After she came back, her mum, sister, brother always sms her and call her thru my hubby's HP....Very pissed off with her family members.
Her family was quite poor so she was the eldest and for sure she need to come out to work but instead of supporting her by taking good care of her only girl now, they rushed her back. She got no earning at all cos her 1st 6months loan with took over by agency. She actually got abit saving with her but too bad she gave all to her mum and her mum aged 47 can remarried a man who aged 35..What's all this? Is it common in Phillipines??? As an employer, we also wish that she complete her 2 yrs contract so that at least she got some $$ to bring back and also support her girl but too bad she has to go within these few days.
Yesterday, My hubby and I went back to our agent and source for another replacement and there's transfer maid available there. So we interview her on the spot.. She gave me an impression that she's afraid of taking after kids but I need a maid to take care of my 2 boys and at the same time do house chores. To me, this is very common for us to employ a maid.
I started to tell her she must go to my parents house from Mon to fri with my 2 kids and after work we will fetch them back to my house. I can't leave her alone with my kids so is a must to bring them to my parents house. She nodded her head and said ok. This morning, my agent called me up and told me that the maid her work with me cos is consider 2 household chores but is not. Currently, my maid from mon to fri go to my parents house and when she came back to my house I won't asked her to do anything. Is nuetral trust and attitude also and so she usually she will help me to do some house chores....How to choose a maid????
The new maid I got also dont want to look after children..she oni wants to do housekeeping.
She says agent did not tell her must look after children.
Told her it's a norm for maids in spore to be looking either after the old and sickly or the young children at the same time do some household chores. Told my maid this is not indonesia where they can have 5 maids at home and each do different task or only 1 task.
Sigh..maids now are so different from the past.
Any good maid for transfer?Urgently.. Priority baby care,love children and independant.. can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Thks.
i thought i saw some threads on transfer maids...are you in ido as well...maybe there are threads there on transfer maid...
sigh talk about maid, i'm so ANGRY !!! Waited for 3 mths changed 3 agencies & i'm still without a maid now
I have left with no choice, ching chai selected a transfer maid last nite, hope
everything goes well & she can come over by sat. Sad Sad sad .....
Please help - I need a good Filipino transfer maid
I need a Filipino maid at the end of Nov 2011 to cook and do housework for a couple and 4 teenage children. If you know of any or have one for transferring out, I'd appreciate that you email me at email@example.com or call / sms me at 9656 7489 / 9874 0396 to fix up details of a meeting with your good self and your maid?
I can take her immediately.
Thank you very much.
I need a good maid agency, pls intro.. Pm me the detail soon.. Thanks for the help..
Hi all, i'm sending away my maid and would like to warn all of you if she ever comes back to singapore and work.
Name: Dumbrigue Vernadeth Casil
Age: 30 years old, married with a 5-6 years old boy
Nationality: Filippines, from isabella
She's a new maid with my family.
From my experience, most of the maids sign in all those date n meeting people website or sign in this kind of application.. They will put their sexy picture to lure men n they willing to have sex with whoever men offered them regardless local Sg men or foreign workers. They even bargain how much to pay for sex..They will tell all the sad stories about their desperation need money to send to their kids ,family... The best part they willing to have sex wherever n normally during their off day...