This morning, my 14 year old son snuck out of the house at 1am and returned at 5am. I have no idea what he does outside. I checked his phone and he was apparently at the park with some friends. (Is it illegal for them to be out so late in Singapore? Can the police do anything about this if I inform them?)
I also noticed some very disturbing things in his phone. He messaged a social escort agency about the rates for a girl. He is way too young for this. Is it illegal in Singapore? I am not sure how to bring it up because I dont't think he would like it if he knew I checked his phone. Is it possible to request for SMS records from SingTel or something?
He seems to be very obsessed with sex these days. I always catch him staring at pictures of girls on Instagram and chatting to them on Facebook. I also found some extremely inappropriate pictures on the computer once. He is not the brightest kid so his grades in school are not that great and he doesn't have much interest in learning or doing homework. Most of the time he plays games like LoL and AuditionSEA. I have set parental controls on the computer so he can't use it too late at night but he refuses to sleep and keeps using his phone.
His father isn't at home most of the time and doesn't care much or has any authority because he has his own problems. What should I do? This behaviour is probably going to get worse when he gets older and is exposed to things like clubbing and alcohol. He is quite easy influenced and not very street smart.
Can I get some kind of police intervention like a house visit? Or am I limited to sending him for counselling? It is difficult for me to get him to go because I am working and there is no one at home to monitor him. His school seems to be filled with people who are bad influence but his grades didn't allow him to go to a better school. Is it possible to transfer him to a better school or something?
Any suggestions or recommendations for counselling centers that are experienced in counselling teenagers like these? Most of the counselling centers I have been to have very young and seemingly inexperienced workers.
Thanks for reading and I would really appreciate any advice because I am really at my wit's end.
You can ask the school for help as there is counsellor,you can go to www.youthinmind.sg for help too.Perhaps,is a growing stage and he needs to be counselled