hi ashbaby... my ger has a cleft palate too. but due to other medical complications, we only did the repair when she was 2+. unfortunately, she was one of the very few cases where it re-opened. with her other developmental delays and medical conditions, we are not going to do another repair as she is "too old" @ 5.5 years old.
are you seeing docs at Kandang Kerbau Hospital? they have a parent support group as well? i rem there is also another parent support group for cleft, but i did not join either cos nothing to share.