Hi germgerm, yes I told her I am not able to give her 4 months advance as that's too much to ask for and there is no guarantee that she will return. So now, shes saying that she will go back later instead. But ever since, she has been showing me "black face" and even when I ask her things sometimes, she gives me mono-syllabus words or very short answers like she doesn't really want to talk (like giving me cold shoulder). And even when I ask her to do things, she doesn't respond with "yes, mam" or "ok, mam" like she used to. She will just do it without a word of acknowledgement. And she's been showing this kind of attitude for 5 days already.Thunderbird, u shld not give. Ur maid is not goin to return im sure... Heard many cases like that... Promise to come back then disappear after that.
Hi Ordolla, I'm in two minds. Will see how long this bad attitude last. Her contract expires end July so I'm assessing her performance these 4 months. Her saving grace is that she's pretty good to the kids and takes good care of them, plus she's not the lazy/greedy type. That's why I close one eye. But still, such behaviour cannot be condoned. It's not like I've done her wrong. On the contrary, I've been most kind to her. She's got more to lose if she continues with her poor attitude.Thunderbird, her attitude sounds bad. Are you still considering renewing her contract?
Hi pinkcream, these are based on my experiences. I guess there's no hard and fast rule, depends on how you want to do it.first time having a maid, need some advice
1) are we supposed to give her ezlink card to use during her off day ?
2) are we supposed to buy sanitary pad for her ?
beside looking my in law , my maid is free, can I get her to do babysitter for another family ?
she dont mind doing too cause she also say she is so free hahahah
Germgerm, I'm actually pretty happy with her house work in general and how she cares for my kids. But my priority is not the house work so in that area, my expectation is not high. So in terms of taking care of the kids, she is quite on the ball and quite patient. That is why when things I don't like happen, I can close one eye, sometimes both eyes. I agree changing maids is not easy esp with the new rules etc kicking in and worse still, might get someone not as good. That's why I feel it's a give and take. And man do I give. I give her a lot of freedom, dont dictate what time she wakes or sleeps, what chores to be completed daily, when she wants to take off day, and advancing her more money to send home when she requested, fed her well, buy her iPhone as her first year reward incentive, give her wifi access, give her extra cash for her kids birthdays, christmas and CNY etc. But this latest one (asking for 4 months advance to go home) was really the straw that broke the camel's back. I only hope she realises too that she is also lucky to be working for me. As much as I risk getting a worse maid should I change maid, she also risks getting a worse employer should she change employer. Ultimately, I still feel she's worth keeping at least for another contract term.Thunderbird, my view on changing maid is if u think u can easily find a better or same maid easily,u change. But if u think ur next maid wun b as good as her, u better think twice. Nowadays v diffc to find good maid... So must think properly. If u find that u can still close one eye to her doing then better not take e risk to change maid. U might b giving urself more trouble changing maid!