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Please don't get me wrong. I do not stand for bullying. I don't think anyone even MILs or FILs have the right to bully their DILs. I'm very firm in what is yes and what is no. My MIL knows that very clearly and my husband is on my side. But I don't live with my in laws. I don't need their help...

peppermint, you'll have to tell your husband that he has to tell his parents that you're not the issue with fertility probs. If he doesn't say anything, they will always think that you're at fault and it's always you. And honestly, why should you shoulder the blame?

KAmum, well, you could stay away and keep a good distance but if you're going to live with her and need her help to look after your baby? How are you going to do that? My take on this, be nice if you can. You need their help. And honestly, you need their help more than they need you. So be nice...

They are probably giving you a hard time because they're mad. Try to win them over with your sincerity. I know it's hard to eat the humble pie but you'll have to eat a bunch of them now because you're living with them. Prove to them that you're going to be a good wife and mother and they'll eat...

Since you mentioned that they are religious muslims, have you considered that she's probably pissed that you guys have a baby before getting married? Maybe the way she reacts towards you stems from her frustrations. Probably bf's father and grandfather feel the same too. My advice would be for...

Of course it's wrong to compare. Everyone's marriage and relationship is different. There are wives that get a Louis Vuitton bag every month and a nice vacation every 6 months, no need to work and have nice cars to drive. And are you going to compare with that? Yes, you are a frog in a well...

Your husband is just modeling what his mother does to him. He is a grown man and his mother slaps him? The only solution that I can see, move out. Unless you enjoy being a punching bag and being hit by your husband. The reality is that nothing will change unless you decide to stand up for yourself.

1) You don't think that you'll miss home as you're quite sick of your house. Moving overseas is an adventure. It may sound fun and exciting and thrilling and all the good stuff. But it should not be an escape. I don't know what's happening in your family or what are the dynamics. But I believe...

We dated for 10 years before getting married. We got married when I was 28. And I'm glad that we had such a long courtship. I believe that if we rushed and got married early, the marriage would not have survived this long. Yes, maturity is very important. We both needed that 10 years to mature...

Mandy, have you lived overseas before? Are you the kind that's very dependent on friends? Or are you the kind that's independent and likes to explore new places by yourself? Can you even go watch movies by yourself? Do you need lots of friends to be around you all the time? Ask yourself these...

What makes you so sure that he will gain custody of your daughter? Have you spoken to a lawyer? Do you know that verbal abuse is also a form of abuse?

Isn't that better? That's the question that only you can answer yourself. No one can answer that question. You mentioned that you hate your dad for doing similar things to your mum and now, these things have happened or are happening and I don't know if they will happen in the future to you, do...

Isn't this abuse? And you allow him to do this to you? If you allow yourself to be a doormat, then he will work all over you. I seriously hope that no other ladies follow what you say and allow their husband to ask them to slap themselves. Did your parents do that to you when you were a kid? I...

So you think it's ok for your husband to make you kneel to apologize to him when you were pregnant? Aren't you giving him the sign that yes, go ahead and ill treat me even when I'm pregnant? Sorry, I don't agree with this. Makes me sick actually

Let me know if you need a contact for a pd. As long as you, husband and children are Sporean citizens, it should be easier to get into SIS but do call the sch and check first. Yes, the gp fees might be sightly higher. It ranges between HK240 to $360, rarely goes above HK600 unless you're seeing...

Mandy, Please clarify if the man is your BF or hubby? In your other post, he's your hubby. There is a difference between a BF and hubby. If it's my hubby, I will go to wherever my hubby is based at and return home bi monthly for visits to be with my dad. But if it's a BF, then, I won't go...

In my opinion, you do not owe it to your kid to work it out. You owe nobody except yourself. Are you saying that you are willing to go through verbal abuses and whatever that you are going through for the sake of your child to the extent of losing your self-esteem and sanity? Children very often...

ilovesong, that's the risk that you have to take if you forgive him. That's why I put it very clearly to my husband before we got married. Forgive and you'll be on your toes. Why do you say that his love is not with you? If that's true then what's the point of holding on to him physically but...

That's kinda strong of a statement to make isn't it? So what about couples that can't have kids and couples that chose not to have kids? They don't have a complete family? What are they then? And there couples that procreate without knowing how to raise children and the kids are screaming and...

Ask yourself if you're happy to live in the past and to accept that he had an affair. Are you able to forgive and get over it? Is he done with the woman? But you know the answer yourself. Only you can answer it yourself if you should stay or go. My point of view, I've told my husband very...