waterbearergoddess
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“What’s up with your daughter so nice meh so must take care of her…...” spoken by MIL
Mummies & Daddies,
I am feeling very disappointed and moody this very morning or shall I say this very day onwards. I am not sure what is going on. Things don’t seem to be right in the house. Both my husband and I are feeling very unhappy and distorted.
Lately, things have been going on bad and maybe worse. I am in the mid of getting my new apartment and things just seem to go haywire. Currently we are staying with PIL for almost 7 years. Things were all right before I fell pregnant in 2008. I was hoping to get my own place but MIL seems to be not happy. Every time my husband and I went to look around for a place MIL seem to be blowing her air all over the place and neighbourhood.
I am really thinking hard what seems to be a problem. Nothing seems to be all right. I don’t deny that MIL is a nice old lady and I do salute her for really working hard to bring up and taking care of her two sons although both of them are adults now. What actually making me wonder is that why she is so confident that both her sons can’t make it outside the moment they step out of her house or start living apart? I do not have grudges against MIL but I feel that the way she thinks is simply bad for her future generations.
Why must she always think that this is bad and that is bad? Everything must go accordingly to what she say and assume. Even when my SIL (whom I described earlier on regarding wanting my DD’s baby clothes) doesn’t seem to get along fine with MIL. Reason for wanting to be here was simply PIL was a loaded couple. What’s up with all these people?
My relationship with MIL is pretty all right although I can say it is not so stable right now. Each time I try to make an explanation to her, seems like the world was about to explore. I do care about my MIL and I am hoping that I am able to give her an easier life meaning giving her a chance to enjoy her retirement but she is thinking that we are deserting her.
Another occasion which is making me very very disappointed is about caring for my 8 months old baby girl. From the day, I married my husband…I hold back of having a child simply because of MIL does not want to help caring for the child and also both my husband and I does not have a place of our own. When I suggest getting our own place, DH keep saying his mother is old and who will take care of her when we go because his elder brother will never do his part.
Due to that, I hold back of getting a place. I am thinking right now am I insane to do that? Am I crazy to follow and bid by my MIL’s instructions?
Mummies and Daddies…Please do share some advice on these issues. It is getting out of hand. I do not know where else to turn to. I am not washing my dirty laundry online but I would like to share out my problems. Hope these can be a lesson to others. Never judge a book by its cover but to read through its contents and then decide it from there.
I have no hard feeling towards anyone regarding the above that I have written down. I do understand that these issues will create some problems due to the reasons that I am having a relative at this very same site. I am preparing to take the risk but if it does not involved that person at any case, I hope that the person could just mind he or she very own business.
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Mummies & Daddies,
I am feeling very disappointed and moody this very morning or shall I say this very day onwards. I am not sure what is going on. Things don’t seem to be right in the house. Both my husband and I are feeling very unhappy and distorted.
Lately, things have been going on bad and maybe worse. I am in the mid of getting my new apartment and things just seem to go haywire. Currently we are staying with PIL for almost 7 years. Things were all right before I fell pregnant in 2008. I was hoping to get my own place but MIL seems to be not happy. Every time my husband and I went to look around for a place MIL seem to be blowing her air all over the place and neighbourhood.
I am really thinking hard what seems to be a problem. Nothing seems to be all right. I don’t deny that MIL is a nice old lady and I do salute her for really working hard to bring up and taking care of her two sons although both of them are adults now. What actually making me wonder is that why she is so confident that both her sons can’t make it outside the moment they step out of her house or start living apart? I do not have grudges against MIL but I feel that the way she thinks is simply bad for her future generations.
Why must she always think that this is bad and that is bad? Everything must go accordingly to what she say and assume. Even when my SIL (whom I described earlier on regarding wanting my DD’s baby clothes) doesn’t seem to get along fine with MIL. Reason for wanting to be here was simply PIL was a loaded couple. What’s up with all these people?
My relationship with MIL is pretty all right although I can say it is not so stable right now. Each time I try to make an explanation to her, seems like the world was about to explore. I do care about my MIL and I am hoping that I am able to give her an easier life meaning giving her a chance to enjoy her retirement but she is thinking that we are deserting her.
Another occasion which is making me very very disappointed is about caring for my 8 months old baby girl. From the day, I married my husband…I hold back of having a child simply because of MIL does not want to help caring for the child and also both my husband and I does not have a place of our own. When I suggest getting our own place, DH keep saying his mother is old and who will take care of her when we go because his elder brother will never do his part.
Due to that, I hold back of getting a place. I am thinking right now am I insane to do that? Am I crazy to follow and bid by my MIL’s instructions?
Mummies and Daddies…Please do share some advice on these issues. It is getting out of hand. I do not know where else to turn to. I am not washing my dirty laundry online but I would like to share out my problems. Hope these can be a lesson to others. Never judge a book by its cover but to read through its contents and then decide it from there.
I have no hard feeling towards anyone regarding the above that I have written down. I do understand that these issues will create some problems due to the reasons that I am having a relative at this very same site. I am preparing to take the risk but if it does not involved that person at any case, I hope that the person could just mind he or she very own business.
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