Hi,
I am a new mummy to an 8 month old baby boy.
My husband has an older sister and an older brother. When we were discussing what they should address themselves to my son, the elder sister did not say anything to us.
Out of the blue, I overheard her babytalk to my son and refers to herself as Mama. For me, i prefer the term Mummy. So she chose to address herself as Mama.
I think this is inappropriate because in the first place I am not close to her, and most importantly, she did not get our approval for that. I dont want my son to grow up thinking he has two Moms.
I think I am also a possessive and jealous mom. So when i heard her refer to herself as Mama, i feel that she is trying to take over my motherly duties to my son. The worst thing about it is, she has a 10 year old daughter whom she neglects emotionally. The girl has to constantly bug me and my hubby (her uncle) for attention and affection. Sure, i dont mind attending to her sometimes, but when im around my son, i want to give my son my full attention. and guess what my SIL would be doing? Fighting for my son's attention too, when her daughter was there almost going crazy for her attention.
The worst thing is that, she has just remarried and she wants my son to call her husband Papa. Can you imagine the nerve?! All these without consulting us.
I don't know how my husband can just ignore it. Maybe he feels that she is his sister, so no harm done.
And i dont think my husband understand how i truly feel about it. I told him many times that I am uncomfortable with her calling herself Mama to my son. In fact, i told him I do not like it. But he choose to ignore it. Maybe even thinking it's a small matter.
But to me, it's not. I feel like she is trying to take my son away from me. She is trying to be a mother to my son. Everyday i will think of ways to lessen my son's contacts with her, but there's no solution for this. Its coz she lives with my mil and we have to send my son to my mil's everyday coz we have to work. I really cant wait till the day where I can quit my job or send my son to CC. But my husband has his reservations (and I share his sentiments) abt sending our son to CC.
My SIL and I were never close before. I used to live with them before we moved out. We hardly spoke much when we stayed under one roof. And then when my son was born, she automatically wants to claim my son as hers.
Currently she is also pregnant. Another thing that made me boil and see her unfit to call herself Mama to my son is that she has been feeding him adult food like chocolates and Godknowswhatelese!!! I didnt even find out abt it until she let it slipped. How like that? Can you trust someone like that? If you are a Mummy yourself or a MTB, im sure you'd do research on babycare and know what are the foods to avoid totally to ensure your baby is healthy.
Please Mummies, any advise on how to get her to stop addressing herself as Mama to my son? I've tried talking to my husband, i've tried talking to my MIL, i've tried talking to my BIL, tried all ways, but still nothing.
How do i put it to her that I do not want her to be a Mama to my son. She is just his aunt. That's all she is ever gonna be.
Everyday i think abt this, the more stressed I become. So mummies, please advise me on what to do. Do you think I am super possessive and calculative? Should I just close two eyes and allow her to call herself Mama and then when my son is bigger, I shall teach him not to call her that? Should I?
I am a new mummy to an 8 month old baby boy.
My husband has an older sister and an older brother. When we were discussing what they should address themselves to my son, the elder sister did not say anything to us.
Out of the blue, I overheard her babytalk to my son and refers to herself as Mama. For me, i prefer the term Mummy. So she chose to address herself as Mama.
I think this is inappropriate because in the first place I am not close to her, and most importantly, she did not get our approval for that. I dont want my son to grow up thinking he has two Moms.
I think I am also a possessive and jealous mom. So when i heard her refer to herself as Mama, i feel that she is trying to take over my motherly duties to my son. The worst thing about it is, she has a 10 year old daughter whom she neglects emotionally. The girl has to constantly bug me and my hubby (her uncle) for attention and affection. Sure, i dont mind attending to her sometimes, but when im around my son, i want to give my son my full attention. and guess what my SIL would be doing? Fighting for my son's attention too, when her daughter was there almost going crazy for her attention.
The worst thing is that, she has just remarried and she wants my son to call her husband Papa. Can you imagine the nerve?! All these without consulting us.
I don't know how my husband can just ignore it. Maybe he feels that she is his sister, so no harm done.
And i dont think my husband understand how i truly feel about it. I told him many times that I am uncomfortable with her calling herself Mama to my son. In fact, i told him I do not like it. But he choose to ignore it. Maybe even thinking it's a small matter.
But to me, it's not. I feel like she is trying to take my son away from me. She is trying to be a mother to my son. Everyday i will think of ways to lessen my son's contacts with her, but there's no solution for this. Its coz she lives with my mil and we have to send my son to my mil's everyday coz we have to work. I really cant wait till the day where I can quit my job or send my son to CC. But my husband has his reservations (and I share his sentiments) abt sending our son to CC.
My SIL and I were never close before. I used to live with them before we moved out. We hardly spoke much when we stayed under one roof. And then when my son was born, she automatically wants to claim my son as hers.
Currently she is also pregnant. Another thing that made me boil and see her unfit to call herself Mama to my son is that she has been feeding him adult food like chocolates and Godknowswhatelese!!! I didnt even find out abt it until she let it slipped. How like that? Can you trust someone like that? If you are a Mummy yourself or a MTB, im sure you'd do research on babycare and know what are the foods to avoid totally to ensure your baby is healthy.
Please Mummies, any advise on how to get her to stop addressing herself as Mama to my son? I've tried talking to my husband, i've tried talking to my MIL, i've tried talking to my BIL, tried all ways, but still nothing.
How do i put it to her that I do not want her to be a Mama to my son. She is just his aunt. That's all she is ever gonna be.
Everyday i think abt this, the more stressed I become. So mummies, please advise me on what to do. Do you think I am super possessive and calculative? Should I just close two eyes and allow her to call herself Mama and then when my son is bigger, I shall teach him not to call her that? Should I?