This is the end of our journey together. And I'm glad, really really glad.
We met in Japan. Got married shortly after 6 months, mostly compulsiveness and naivety on my side. He is quick and bad tempered. A bang at the door and table may seem nothing to him, but it affected me greatly. I just kept quiet, all I could do was cry myself to sleep. Yet I was adamant he can change. Yet I was wrong, times and again. I began to realise my temper started to flare too. I no longer want to kept quiet and be bullied. So on one occasion I fought back, and received my first slap. It didn't stop from there, it was just the beginning. I should have left him, but I didn't coz I believe he can change if he wanted to. I didn't leave coz we were overseas, and being a housewife, I have absolutely no savings, couldnt even afford the flight ticket back.
The opportunity of getting freed finally arrived when we came back for a holiday. I took the risk. Stayed to look for a job. He followed suit 9 months later. Deep in my heart I knew, the marriage was not working. But not until the time we fought and he bare fist hit and fractured my arm, trying to strangle me, did I realised, it's not only affecting us, but the young child too. If we continued to stay together just for child, letting him witnesses all the fightings, is this better for him?
Enough is enough. Without hesitation, I filed for divorce.
Looking back, I never once regret the decision. For me, definitely the marriage has to go. My concern is just for the child. We both have our child access timing, and I realised whenever he's with me, I give him my quality time with him and the same goes with the daddy, coz subconciously we know we're not seeing the child 24x7. And the child is so much happier. And I'm very very GLAD I made the decision.
For now, I'm just a money digging tool, hopefully saving enough to buy our own flat, maybe another 1-2 yrs down the road. :shyxxx:
We met in Japan. Got married shortly after 6 months, mostly compulsiveness and naivety on my side. He is quick and bad tempered. A bang at the door and table may seem nothing to him, but it affected me greatly. I just kept quiet, all I could do was cry myself to sleep. Yet I was adamant he can change. Yet I was wrong, times and again. I began to realise my temper started to flare too. I no longer want to kept quiet and be bullied. So on one occasion I fought back, and received my first slap. It didn't stop from there, it was just the beginning. I should have left him, but I didn't coz I believe he can change if he wanted to. I didn't leave coz we were overseas, and being a housewife, I have absolutely no savings, couldnt even afford the flight ticket back.
The opportunity of getting freed finally arrived when we came back for a holiday. I took the risk. Stayed to look for a job. He followed suit 9 months later. Deep in my heart I knew, the marriage was not working. But not until the time we fought and he bare fist hit and fractured my arm, trying to strangle me, did I realised, it's not only affecting us, but the young child too. If we continued to stay together just for child, letting him witnesses all the fightings, is this better for him?
Enough is enough. Without hesitation, I filed for divorce.
Looking back, I never once regret the decision. For me, definitely the marriage has to go. My concern is just for the child. We both have our child access timing, and I realised whenever he's with me, I give him my quality time with him and the same goes with the daddy, coz subconciously we know we're not seeing the child 24x7. And the child is so much happier. And I'm very very GLAD I made the decision.
For now, I'm just a money digging tool, hopefully saving enough to buy our own flat, maybe another 1-2 yrs down the road. :shyxxx:
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