tika
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I had this discussion with hubby many times. most latest discussion was 4 hrs ago. And I haven't slept cos my brain is reeling with many many questions...(plus I can't get the tune touched by an angel by sezairi out of my head as well.)
We've heard the phrase parents/mothers know what's best for their child. How true is this? If it's really true, why do some parents end up going to jail for intentionally or unintentionally hurting their child. Were they really of unsound mind like most of us would say? And what about parents who work all day long, coming back only late nights. They could hardly spend time with their child even if they want to. Do they necessarily know what's best? Would a mother really know what's best better than the domestic helper, who takes care of the child the whole day, vs mother who only spends time after she comes back from work? Would the parents know their child better than their domestic helper? Quality time vs quantity time.. Which is better? Old experiences vs new information...If parents don't equip themselves with knowledge by reading or researching about something in particular, would they still know what's best? Should parents just rely on experiences? When should mothers truly trust our maternal instincts? How sure are you that your maternal instincts are always right?
My mother loves to say she knows what's best for me, even now that I'm a mother myself. But we had so many.....MANY disagreements when I was growing up because I felt she did not understand me. We still argue alot now because she thinks she has more experience with children so I should consult her when it comes to my child. So how true is this phrase parents, especially mothers, know their child best?
Your thoughts please.
We've heard the phrase parents/mothers know what's best for their child. How true is this? If it's really true, why do some parents end up going to jail for intentionally or unintentionally hurting their child. Were they really of unsound mind like most of us would say? And what about parents who work all day long, coming back only late nights. They could hardly spend time with their child even if they want to. Do they necessarily know what's best? Would a mother really know what's best better than the domestic helper, who takes care of the child the whole day, vs mother who only spends time after she comes back from work? Would the parents know their child better than their domestic helper? Quality time vs quantity time.. Which is better? Old experiences vs new information...If parents don't equip themselves with knowledge by reading or researching about something in particular, would they still know what's best? Should parents just rely on experiences? When should mothers truly trust our maternal instincts? How sure are you that your maternal instincts are always right?
My mother loves to say she knows what's best for me, even now that I'm a mother myself. But we had so many.....MANY disagreements when I was growing up because I felt she did not understand me. We still argue alot now because she thinks she has more experience with children so I should consult her when it comes to my child. So how true is this phrase parents, especially mothers, know their child best?
Your thoughts please.