If you cane with controlled strength on the palm, it's not as painful as you think. That's why we only cane after reasoning with my boy (give ourselves time to cool down so we won't hit so hard also).ouch! isnt canning too young for your boy?
We used to hide the cane at home, and when my mum starts threatening with cane we ( me n siblings) will burst into giggles knowing she will be looking high and low for it!
I rather use a cane than to use my hands. I've seen the effects of parents who hit their kids with their hands compared to with the cane. When their parents wanted to 'sayang' the kids, then kids shrink away in fear.
Anyway, we hardly cane now because he knows we mean what we say. If we are outside in public, we do give warning and if he misbehaves, he'll be punished when we get home.
I've a few friends who told me to use the soft-approach and after 1 day with my boy, they agree that soft approach will not work. Hahaha.