Chewysee
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hello mummies, I've just gave birth to a baby boy a week ago. the conflict between mil and I has worsen since. although I am the only one unhappy and don't really like her. I really don't like his mother, because she is very stubborn and like to talk big. everybody also want to control, ego very high. before giving birth, I was very relaxed, nobody come over to our hse and disturb my rest or what. but now she everyday want to come over, open and close my door so many times to see bb then talk for so many hrs to me, I know this is inevitable, but I cannot get enough rest, then she keep asking me to rest. how to? because of the cl she hire who has serious hygiene problem, I become more and more stress, so I ask my mother to come over to help, since mil's back got problem cannot keep banding down and change diapers or bathe baby. but anyway even if she was healthy I also scared she take care. she always talk like she know a lot. but actually she don't even know how to take care of bb I think. that day let her take care one night, she put bb in air con room then never wear booties or mittens. she say it's okay, Walau, I never argue then just help him wear after she left. problem is, she hint me and mother that my mother keep coming over to her hse. like she told my mother this morning " the cl lady say why u everytime come here, disturb until ppl" I was very angry, cause I think she say de, anyhow use ppl's name. I think I've changed a lot since bb came to this world. I finally saw the reality, not everything just complain to my husband is Good. now all we want to focus is on our finance, as we are young and pregnancy wasnt planned. I'm a sahm for now, and husband told me I could tell him everything I'm unhappy abt his mum to him. but I know his character, those unhappy just keep in the heart, everything he suffer alone. so I don't wanna stress him so much already. later he go work, or when he drive, cannot concentrate. but this morning what his mum told my mum, I really not happy. I don't know if I shld tell him. I really want his mother to leave me alone. I really don't want anything to do with her. I really wanna just tell her off. how? for the past week, I feel like I keep things to myself until me and my hubby become not close, although he does on me and thinks everything is okay. but if I tell him, I scared he stress. any advice? let me know abt ur experience too.
