Family Problem (Porn, Incest, Stealing, Hubby Bo Chap & Parents in law stepped in!)

taniari

New Member
Hi all,

Im married to a divorcee with 2 daughters, 10.5 years (P4) and 7.5 years (P2). we have our own baby as well. so we have 3 children together.

Recently i found out that my step daughters had been watching porn for 3 weeks without failed.
i found out about the porn through their browsed history when my younger step daughter was unable to finish her homework. Her homework was only tracing, drawing a plate of vegetables and color it!

After i found out about the porn browsed history, it turned out more shocking findings that i found.

MY ELDEST STEP DAUGHTER HAD BEEN LOOKING FOR TOPIC ABOUT SEX BETWEEN FATHER AND DAUGHTER!!

i informed my husband about my finding but he couldnt take it. he just said "i didnt want to see and talk about it"

BTW his eldest is the most baobei for him. Lets call her A

actually last time when we were dating, this A wanted to monopoly the father like if we went out, or he fecthed me home, then A would time him. Papa you must be coming back about this hour bla bla bla...

Then after married, her characters at first was very jealous to me but eventually its better.

There were few times A wanted to act like she is his wife like waiting for my hubby to come home after guys'drinking session, tell us not to have another baby, cant get pregnant at all, waiting by standing by the window for at least about 20 minutes everytime my hubby worked on Saturday. She alr grew her breast but she liked to ask my hubby to be carried front side where crotch met with crotch.

My hubby also one of a kind, last time when he said good night, he would crawled on top of her then hug her then kissed her good night on the forehead and cheek. his movement like those kind of movement guy on top during ML session. Sometimes he made joke by playing his tongue want to lick or really lick her. there was once in the restaurant where A and my hubby sat side by side then suddenly my hubby hugged her neck then sticking out his tongue and play his tongue as though he did oral then slowly2 want to lick her. then A pretend scream scarily even i could tell that shes happy to play like that to my hubby. i immediately say, stop it. disgusting. its totally not appropriate to play like that.

All these behaviours were done in the past because i asked them to stop.

Now the problems because my parents in law think that what A and her younger sister did (watched porn) is OK!!!!!!

o ya i forgot to tell you that A is a manipulative girl. She knows how to manipulate her father. when she did awful things (dig her nose and rub it on my mom's body, brush her dirty teeth with her finger then wanted to pass it to my mom, threat my mom when she did naughty things, etc) then i discipline, she would gave me daring look but when the father wanted to ask her, she would wailing like HELL!!!!

Now the situation is more complicated. we (even most of the time it was me who initiated) have engaged school counsellor but it turned out that school counsellor was unable to get any information about why she keeps looking for topic about sex daughter father. she just cried cried cried like hell and zipped her mouth. in the end we went to IMH to child's guidance clinic.

Now my relationship with husband and my parents in law are very strain.

What can i do?
 
Re: Family Problem (Porn, Incest, Stealing, Hubby Bo Chap & Parents in law stepped in

How was your relationship with your in laws in the first place? I guess, A is going through puberty so a lot of time she will be curious. But maybe she does not see you as a mother figure, and you mentioned she is ur hb's baobei, so maybe that is why she is surfing those. Kids that age may not be able to totally understand the 'S' thing, parents play a big part in letting them aware and understand. Find a good time to talk to your hubby. Tell him that girls at A's age will be curious, and with his actions towards her, its not helping but harming her. As for the acting like she is the wife part, I guess, she felt jealous of you. she may think you will take her daddy away, and she don't want that to happen, so she did all those. And by asking you guys not to have baby, maybe she is afraid once a new baby arrives, daddy will stop loving her. Guess the best person to reassure her will be your hubby, and both of you should sit down and have a heart to heart talk.
 

taniari

New Member
My relatuonship with my inlaws were very very super duper good.
My eldest stepdaughter is a good storyteller and manipulative one.
Only me and my eldest sis in law that cant be manipulated by her. The rest can be manipulated easily.

A is not only jealous. She wanted to take control in my marriage too. Many things happened but this one is one of the worst.

If u habe a husband who is open minded is easy
He is not. My hubby is not open minded. Even we have a heart to heart talk, its just a useless talk. We will be meeting family services this thurs.

I will do whatever necessary for me n baby.

Thanks mommy fishermen friend.
 
Re: Family Problem (Porn, Incest, Stealing, Hubby Bo Chap & Parents in law stepped in

No problem. I hope your family will benefit from the family service. Have faith!! Jia you!!
 
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