annawt
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staying with in laws , really give lots of problems.
I stay with my in laws too.
Starting was alright, I didnt care much and my parents in laws were pretty fine.
But then, when times goes by things started to stir especially the period after I gave birth to my girl.
My husband was the eldest with a younger sister and brother. He love his family very much and he always stood by them, i am not asking him to take side actually but sometimes it just hurts.
Especially his mother, I could not tolerate her at all and seriously i hate her a lot.
When I was pregnant, our relationship is still fine. I just basically thought that helping her with the housework, buying her food and chatting with her was part of a daughter in law job. But then I realised she took me for granted.
I was 5-6 months pregnant and she insisted I changed the bedsheet when I said when my husband come home then change.
I was working part time throughout my pregnancy and my job requires standing, so during off day I wished to nap but she forbids me to do it by saying if I sleep alot my child will become very lazy. When I nap and i closed my bed room door she asked my father in law to come in and wake me up to eat or do other things. And when I locked my bedroom door,they complained say I keep lock my door.
Then she promised to do confinement for me and it was totally a mess.
During the first night home with my baby, my husband went to sleep in with them saying tml he need to report to camp and she didnt even bother to help me. I was so restless and with my newborn I only slept 30mins that night and woke up by her insisting that I should wash up and eat breakfast but I was really very shag. Then my mum told her do not cook liver for me as research shows if I going to bm, liver should be avoided. But she still cook and a huge bowl of 2 dishes and a big bowl of rice which she asked me to have it for lunch and dinner, I said I could not and tears are going to burst already she still insisted ended up I felt so breathless with a pale face I went to my gynae. Then, nvm every morning instead of helping with my meals she helped her precious youngest son even pouring a cup of water. And everyday, I have to wait for my mum to rush down from her work to help me along, I felt so terrible that I cried all day and night. She cant even bathe my new born properly, she took a long time bathing her and blow at my girl belly button saying this can get rid of the water. I was so shocked then after I made milk she open the bottle of milk and then say by doing that the air will go out. The first 2 weeks, I looked after my nb for 24 hours alone till she offered to help in the night. So everyone around me said I have to let her tc before I collapsed, thus I agreed. But it was worse.there was once, my nb happened to be having slight fever as it was spread by my husband. She dont even know she say my girl very cranky, then say very tired. Straight after the next day, when my nb just recovered, she asked me go eat lunch and she seize the chance to bring my just recovered newborn to the other end of corridor to talk to another neighbour.I was so afraid when I could not find my baby. My confinement period was the world cup period too, she gamble nvm but she carried my nb and watched soccer from 2am- 4 am in the morning. We asked why she dont put her in cot she said she too anxious on the match. There was a morning , she carried my nb over to me and said she very cranky and been crying for a hour and so when I can already smell the odor of my nb poo from a distance just because she wants to make milo for her godson who came out from malaysia. Then everyday she woke up around 11 am plus and then went to market for around 2 hours. I always chewed on bread that my mum helped me bought and I have to make my own bathing water. During these 3 weeks, it was hell and due to poorly taking care of myself, I ended up in the hospital for serious backache which led me unable to bm anymore. I felt so depressed that I asked my mum to bring my nb and me home straight after my girl first month celebration.
And the idea of her tc my girl was totally tear off.
When my girl grew older, every weekend she will go there.
She played with her and she asked her to kick her doll head. I was surprised. Then she let her played with coins after much warning she still repeating and said nvm later can wash hands. She asked my girl called those "tiko" (pervert) uncles whom she know from downstairs "korkor" (brother). Then she happened to quarrel with my husband, she asked my girl beat her own father and say ur dad is so noisy. And etc. . .
So I was so pissed off with her, that now I even moved back to my parents' house and go over only on weekends.
Her house was also ever dirty and messy.
Till now, I will always nightmare about the whole period and wake up crying. I could not know what to do?
Anyone have a situation like this?:wong21:
I stay with my in laws too.
Starting was alright, I didnt care much and my parents in laws were pretty fine.
But then, when times goes by things started to stir especially the period after I gave birth to my girl.
My husband was the eldest with a younger sister and brother. He love his family very much and he always stood by them, i am not asking him to take side actually but sometimes it just hurts.
Especially his mother, I could not tolerate her at all and seriously i hate her a lot.
When I was pregnant, our relationship is still fine. I just basically thought that helping her with the housework, buying her food and chatting with her was part of a daughter in law job. But then I realised she took me for granted.
I was 5-6 months pregnant and she insisted I changed the bedsheet when I said when my husband come home then change.
I was working part time throughout my pregnancy and my job requires standing, so during off day I wished to nap but she forbids me to do it by saying if I sleep alot my child will become very lazy. When I nap and i closed my bed room door she asked my father in law to come in and wake me up to eat or do other things. And when I locked my bedroom door,they complained say I keep lock my door.
Then she promised to do confinement for me and it was totally a mess.
During the first night home with my baby, my husband went to sleep in with them saying tml he need to report to camp and she didnt even bother to help me. I was so restless and with my newborn I only slept 30mins that night and woke up by her insisting that I should wash up and eat breakfast but I was really very shag. Then my mum told her do not cook liver for me as research shows if I going to bm, liver should be avoided. But she still cook and a huge bowl of 2 dishes and a big bowl of rice which she asked me to have it for lunch and dinner, I said I could not and tears are going to burst already she still insisted ended up I felt so breathless with a pale face I went to my gynae. Then, nvm every morning instead of helping with my meals she helped her precious youngest son even pouring a cup of water. And everyday, I have to wait for my mum to rush down from her work to help me along, I felt so terrible that I cried all day and night. She cant even bathe my new born properly, she took a long time bathing her and blow at my girl belly button saying this can get rid of the water. I was so shocked then after I made milk she open the bottle of milk and then say by doing that the air will go out. The first 2 weeks, I looked after my nb for 24 hours alone till she offered to help in the night. So everyone around me said I have to let her tc before I collapsed, thus I agreed. But it was worse.there was once, my nb happened to be having slight fever as it was spread by my husband. She dont even know she say my girl very cranky, then say very tired. Straight after the next day, when my nb just recovered, she asked me go eat lunch and she seize the chance to bring my just recovered newborn to the other end of corridor to talk to another neighbour.I was so afraid when I could not find my baby. My confinement period was the world cup period too, she gamble nvm but she carried my nb and watched soccer from 2am- 4 am in the morning. We asked why she dont put her in cot she said she too anxious on the match. There was a morning , she carried my nb over to me and said she very cranky and been crying for a hour and so when I can already smell the odor of my nb poo from a distance just because she wants to make milo for her godson who came out from malaysia. Then everyday she woke up around 11 am plus and then went to market for around 2 hours. I always chewed on bread that my mum helped me bought and I have to make my own bathing water. During these 3 weeks, it was hell and due to poorly taking care of myself, I ended up in the hospital for serious backache which led me unable to bm anymore. I felt so depressed that I asked my mum to bring my nb and me home straight after my girl first month celebration.
And the idea of her tc my girl was totally tear off.
When my girl grew older, every weekend she will go there.
She played with her and she asked her to kick her doll head. I was surprised. Then she let her played with coins after much warning she still repeating and said nvm later can wash hands. She asked my girl called those "tiko" (pervert) uncles whom she know from downstairs "korkor" (brother). Then she happened to quarrel with my husband, she asked my girl beat her own father and say ur dad is so noisy. And etc. . .
So I was so pissed off with her, that now I even moved back to my parents' house and go over only on weekends.
Her house was also ever dirty and messy.
Till now, I will always nightmare about the whole period and wake up crying. I could not know what to do?
Anyone have a situation like this?:wong21: