i have 2 kids - 3yrs (girlgirl), 3mths(meimei)
its getting on my nerves and consider to leave him in few years time when my kids gets older.
dont help to take care children
since the 1st kid, he dont't play or carry girlgirl. even meimei he also seldom carry. as my elder wants to sleep with me, hubby slept in other room.
so when comes to middle of the nights, i am only one who woke up to settle their milk time and diapers changing.
After reach home from work, he can play with his mobile all night and not play with kids.
Share cost
how do you handle hubby who share cost? if we are eating restaurants, for sure will be on dutch. and he is the one who suggested.
he is very calculative, even if buying fruits. in the past, he would treat me to movie, but i will have to buy popcorn set. i think its ridiculous.
only recent years, i will get his treat only on 2 or 3 special occasion. fyi, he earn much more than me.
there are more incidents that i think he should think for the family and not himself. communication doesn't work for us. i had used email, letter, sms, talked, shouted, cold war, attitude, bang table, but listen only for 1 week and become old self the next week. Recently, we had hired a maid, housework issues is temporary in peace, else it was used to be me.
i think with all the actions above had clearly shown him i am very pissed off with so many things handling alone. but seems he is like a stone or is really testing where actually my limits are?
now the last resort i may use is to leave the children and walked out, uncontactable for 2 days.
with all the above, i sometimes rather prefer that we dont't see each other as much as possible to avoid quarrels. i always say him,"eveything you want to share cost, why not you share to help take care children?! the children doesn't belong to me only!". Now, i uses alot of SMS to communicate to him, reducing face-to-face talk. becuz outcome will be quarrel.
i end with something for all unmarried ladies. dont't ever think you'll change your partner characters if marry or bear children for him. i really believe that a leopard never changes it's spots. and dont't be soft hearted.
its getting on my nerves and consider to leave him in few years time when my kids gets older.
dont help to take care children
since the 1st kid, he dont't play or carry girlgirl. even meimei he also seldom carry. as my elder wants to sleep with me, hubby slept in other room.
so when comes to middle of the nights, i am only one who woke up to settle their milk time and diapers changing.
After reach home from work, he can play with his mobile all night and not play with kids.
Share cost
how do you handle hubby who share cost? if we are eating restaurants, for sure will be on dutch. and he is the one who suggested.
he is very calculative, even if buying fruits. in the past, he would treat me to movie, but i will have to buy popcorn set. i think its ridiculous.
only recent years, i will get his treat only on 2 or 3 special occasion. fyi, he earn much more than me.
there are more incidents that i think he should think for the family and not himself. communication doesn't work for us. i had used email, letter, sms, talked, shouted, cold war, attitude, bang table, but listen only for 1 week and become old self the next week. Recently, we had hired a maid, housework issues is temporary in peace, else it was used to be me.
i think with all the actions above had clearly shown him i am very pissed off with so many things handling alone. but seems he is like a stone or is really testing where actually my limits are?
now the last resort i may use is to leave the children and walked out, uncontactable for 2 days.
with all the above, i sometimes rather prefer that we dont't see each other as much as possible to avoid quarrels. i always say him,"eveything you want to share cost, why not you share to help take care children?! the children doesn't belong to me only!". Now, i uses alot of SMS to communicate to him, reducing face-to-face talk. becuz outcome will be quarrel.
i end with something for all unmarried ladies. dont't ever think you'll change your partner characters if marry or bear children for him. i really believe that a leopard never changes it's spots. and dont't be soft hearted.