nesshermes
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I never imaging I will need to let off my stress or agony in this forum. My purpose of joining this forum before was to learn and get myself ready for my baby no 2. But it seems like it going to be more than just learning.
I married at very young age don’t have much friend and don’t dare to complain too much to my husband. And I don’t really talk to family or friend about my problem. I usually try to setter it myself or cry alone at night to get over it. But this time round, something happen to me again and again and I really cannot bear with it anymore. Readers please bear with me.
I married young and due to my naive, I thought staying with my in law will be fine. So i never intend to looking for a flat or a house to call my own. My marriage was also under court consent due to my family disagreement. Mean I’m married but only can get my marriage certificate only when I turn 21.Actually my in law families, (as well as my husband sibling) hate me a lot and believe it a not i never even know about it until i accidentally came across my sister in law blog.
I was totally heartbroken after reading her blog about how they talk behind my back. I tell u anybody who is in my position will have confronted them and pack their bag and go back home. But i still pretend nothing has happen and still put on smiling face whenever i see them. I never told my husband about it because i know my husband will quarreller with them. What if they chase me out where am i supposed to go? I cannot go back my parent house as my dad don’t let me go back anymore due to i goes against him.
Soon i give birth to my first girl and they hate me even more. I understand why they hate me so much because they actually have to give up one of their room for me and my husband. This is unfair for them. I try my best to keep my cool due to staying at their house and i told myself once i get my marriage certificated, i will try my best to move out and give them back their room.
Finally year’s passes, i finally get my marriage certificate release from court. By then my dad had already pass away due to cancer. I manager to apologize to him for going against him and before he pass away he finally agree to my marriage. Life move on, i become closer to my mum and sister again but no to my 2 elder brothers.
I try my very best to look for a house for my small family but nothing seem to work. I cannot buy resale as COV is too much for me to fork out and i cannot even think of BTO because it takes too long. My in laws can’t wait to see me move out. They have been bombing me with question like how is it. Have you try looking for a house? And a lot of other way they do to indirectly chasing me away.
I went to MP and social worker and they cannot even help. I write in to HDB hoping they will help but it always turns out to be sad result. After so many time of failing, i convert myself from a full timer to a part timer staff from my company so no CPF will be contributed and i can try to apply using my husband income for a one room flat from HDB to move out first. To make this choice mean i have to give up my 4 month maternity leaves. My company is more than happy to convert me to save the maternity leaves. And as day pass no reply from HDB until today i call them and they told me i cannot apply for a rental unit due to im one of the benefaction from my parent flat. Can you imagine how disappointed i was? i nearly give birth on the spot after hearing that. Now my selfish brother don’t allow me to sell away my share of that house which mean i cannot get a house of my own. Im tired of looking high and low for a house. Seriously, im giving up. I don’t know how to tell my in laws that i going to stay with them until my BTO ready. (4 Yrs down the road) i don know how much longer can i pretend nothing is happing around me. For this pass few yrs nothing seems good to be happen around me. I really cannot take the humanity from my in laws anymore. That is a lot of worst thing happen that i do not want to mention here. Can someone teach me how to survive?
I married at very young age don’t have much friend and don’t dare to complain too much to my husband. And I don’t really talk to family or friend about my problem. I usually try to setter it myself or cry alone at night to get over it. But this time round, something happen to me again and again and I really cannot bear with it anymore. Readers please bear with me.
I married young and due to my naive, I thought staying with my in law will be fine. So i never intend to looking for a flat or a house to call my own. My marriage was also under court consent due to my family disagreement. Mean I’m married but only can get my marriage certificate only when I turn 21.Actually my in law families, (as well as my husband sibling) hate me a lot and believe it a not i never even know about it until i accidentally came across my sister in law blog.
I was totally heartbroken after reading her blog about how they talk behind my back. I tell u anybody who is in my position will have confronted them and pack their bag and go back home. But i still pretend nothing has happen and still put on smiling face whenever i see them. I never told my husband about it because i know my husband will quarreller with them. What if they chase me out where am i supposed to go? I cannot go back my parent house as my dad don’t let me go back anymore due to i goes against him.
Soon i give birth to my first girl and they hate me even more. I understand why they hate me so much because they actually have to give up one of their room for me and my husband. This is unfair for them. I try my best to keep my cool due to staying at their house and i told myself once i get my marriage certificated, i will try my best to move out and give them back their room.
Finally year’s passes, i finally get my marriage certificate release from court. By then my dad had already pass away due to cancer. I manager to apologize to him for going against him and before he pass away he finally agree to my marriage. Life move on, i become closer to my mum and sister again but no to my 2 elder brothers.
I try my very best to look for a house for my small family but nothing seem to work. I cannot buy resale as COV is too much for me to fork out and i cannot even think of BTO because it takes too long. My in laws can’t wait to see me move out. They have been bombing me with question like how is it. Have you try looking for a house? And a lot of other way they do to indirectly chasing me away.
I went to MP and social worker and they cannot even help. I write in to HDB hoping they will help but it always turns out to be sad result. After so many time of failing, i convert myself from a full timer to a part timer staff from my company so no CPF will be contributed and i can try to apply using my husband income for a one room flat from HDB to move out first. To make this choice mean i have to give up my 4 month maternity leaves. My company is more than happy to convert me to save the maternity leaves. And as day pass no reply from HDB until today i call them and they told me i cannot apply for a rental unit due to im one of the benefaction from my parent flat. Can you imagine how disappointed i was? i nearly give birth on the spot after hearing that. Now my selfish brother don’t allow me to sell away my share of that house which mean i cannot get a house of my own. Im tired of looking high and low for a house. Seriously, im giving up. I don’t know how to tell my in laws that i going to stay with them until my BTO ready. (4 Yrs down the road) i don know how much longer can i pretend nothing is happing around me. For this pass few yrs nothing seems good to be happen around me. I really cannot take the humanity from my in laws anymore. That is a lot of worst thing happen that i do not want to mention here. Can someone teach me how to survive?
