In our case I would be worried for him if he disappears for hours. I don't believe he will cheat but I am afraid of him doing something to himself. My husband is very accountable, he will always tell me who he is meeting up for lunch with. I have encouraged him to do so as he needed to socialise more to build confidence again so I have no distrust there at all. He mostly meets up with his mates anyway. He doesn't go out after work - who can after such a long day at work?? All he wants to do is come home and see me and his son and hear him say 'papa'.
I TRUST my partner!!!!
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i agree with u too. Will u trust or let him go China if he say he wish to follow his friend to start some business there. I really not sure whether to trust or not as i heard of too many stories though i know he loves the children so much.....
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You would know your husband better than anyone else. You'd know what kind of person he is and how much he values his family and marriage. Temptation will always be there for men, it's just whether they will fall for it or not...some are more vulnerable than others.
I know my husband and he's a very transparent kind of person and he is not easily tempted. He's also not exactly the type of man women will try to hit on.
I completely trust my husband. I feel the day that I start snooping around his phone, emails and checking his bag, that will be the day our marriage will end. Trust is very important in a marriage. No trust, no marriage. Oh, my husband travels quite a bit. In fact, he just told me that he'll be off the Shanghai in a few weeks for a weekend. And my first question, 'Honey, can you check that you can get time off since you're traveling over the weekend so that we can spend more time in Spore for Christmas?' No questions like,"What? You sure you not bring your girlfriend there?"
when they are having affair, they don't use their head to think, they let their head below do the 'thinking'
Agreed, small head will take over there big head. lol
I trusted my hubby and thought that the last thing he would do is do cheat on me. Alas! I discovered he betrayed me emotionally with one of his colleague through his mobile.
My family members all think that he is a faithful husband.
How to regain the trust? Still struggling with my emotions...
My family members all think that he is a faithful husband.
How to regain the trust? Still struggling with my emotions...
It depends on what's your definition of emotional betrayal. Was it physical sex or 'sms sex'. And if you can really forgive and totally forgive him. Meaning, never to bring this issue up again. If you can't then, my advice walk away from the marriage. There's no use forgiving him but for the next 20 years, each time you guys argue, you bring that issue up over and over again. And if you bring up the issue over and over again, he will really cheat on you.
angelababi
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Agree with noelsmum , you have to think you can take it plus forgive him ?? As for me although i didn divorce ,and after caught seeing my hubby looking at other woman thrice .. my trust for him has becom half of it .. and after that i had taken in control on all of his money and holding all the expenses of his in our sweet home..
cause i find that is mental betrayal .. as all guy will look at other woman as long as not physical sex , i trying to accept that but of cause i got argue about this to him.. he know how i feel.. but for me who knows ,guy usually use their below to think when they see someone sexy or suit their taste bud .. so i protect myself first..
And when ever we qurral i only aim the things that happen now and never bring up the see gal issue.. this help cause he wont feel that im aiming him and he will pay more attention to what i going to say rather then he find me nagging...
engel
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I feel it's human nature to look when we see something good or someone really attractive.. Infact btw my partner and me, we would point out to each other if we spot someone who we think is hot... He reads him mags such as fhm Uk and arena with spreads of scantily clad ladies as me with cosmo and metalhammer( yes, I find dudes with painted face and tattoos hot)..
Ultimately we know we 'belong' and love each other and needn't worry about the other lusting over someone else...
7 yrs and 2 girls on... We're still in love, and don't need a marriage cert to prove that...
Ultimately we know we 'belong' and love each other and needn't worry about the other lusting over someone else...
7 yrs and 2 girls on... We're still in love, and don't need a marriage cert to prove that...
angelababi
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i agree different ppl have different point of views It all depends on what's your definition of emotional betrayal , mental betrayal etc... and am sensitive to this a not.. while most stray is on overtrusting .. i didnt mean not to trust your spouse its just dont too trust .. just for the sake protect yourself.. so when bad things happen the impact wont be too badly..
The objective to start this thread is to show off faithful partner ?
Well Done.
Hope you are Okay and not living in your own Utopia world.
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That was a bit harsh?
It seems mamapenguin just wanted to point out that faithful partners do exist.
I sense sour grapes? Or had a bad experience? You do realise that not all men are bastards and assholes? And yes, faithful men do exist if you take time to find them. And they're not probably found in pubs or clubs or if you managed to wrangle them away from their girlfriends.
engel
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isn't this supposed to b a happy thread? I admire mamapenguin for her positive outlook in life especially her marriage. Life is too short to b full of doubts and insecurities...
Those who got cheated on by your partners... I'm sorry about your situation, not all guys are perfect, or almost perfect...
If one is gonna b scared to fall 100percent in love for fear of being heartbroken then why have a relationship at all just to add on to the stress of everyday life; always wondering if he's out with someone, etc etc..
Well, each of us will definately have different situations hence our diff mindsets; who am I to judge...but like ive mentioned, this is supposed to b a happy thread... Where we are proud of our individual partners, and voice out that we appreciate them so...
Kudos to mamapenguin for starting this thread.
That's right! Let's celebrate positives than digging and lamenting and getting upset over the negatives.
ling.er
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Hi can i join too??? I learn to trust my partner as it take time .. Yes i looking into postive way tat will make mi feel better than i anyhow thing.. I come across this when i checking on my email.. Jus wan to share out.
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，
而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，
而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
Come on.
Nobody saying her husband not faithful. How come suddenly need to declare to the whole world that her husband is a good husband ?
The title she put "I TRUST my partner!!!!".
Mamapenguin must have some problem or she try to deny something.
Someone around her real life must had told her that her husband is cannot be trusted.
Do you see rich people go around declare that he/she super duper rich ?
Her situation is very dangerous. She put so high hope that her husband is very faithful.
Let say touch wood, her husband can't resist the temptation.
What will she feel ? Some people can't take it at all.
This is life. Don't put all the "investment" in one basket.
Suicide victim said to have suffered from depression - Channel NewsAsia
Let say touch wood, her husband can't resist the temptation.
What will she feel ? Some people can't take it at all.
This is life. Don't put all the "investment" in one basket.
Suicide victim said to have suffered from depression - Channel NewsAsia