I am a mother of 2.
Katytan, are you a mother? Not to feel offended but i have to say all kids are differ and the growing pace also differ. you can't say "she 8 years old already, confirm know how to use the toilet one." We as mother we all want our kids to be good and we also want them to be a better person. If your kid's friends laugh at them in school, hw you feel?
I am a mother of 2.
My eldest daughter had a bedwetting problem. Initially she wet the bed 1-2 times a week. After I brought those goodnights pampers for her to wear at night, she started wetting the bed every night! After 1 month, I got fed up and told her that she was a big girl and dont't need to wear pampers. No more pampers for her and I also made her clean up by herself. Her bedwetting stopped within 2 weeks...
This is why I say that in order to train your daughter, you must stop allowing her to wear pampers!
With pampers on and all your support in helping her to hide them, she can pee/poo without consequences. There is now no reason to use the toilet now is there? In fact, even I am tempted to wear them provided that they are totally undetectable on an adult. :tlaugh:
Anyway, Mum3, any progress on getting your daughter potty trained? I think she is what? primary 4 now? Definitely way past time to stop wearing pampers.
Every child is different. You removed the diaper from your daughter, she manage to overcome bedwetting in 2 weeks. Similarly, try the same thing before - remove all her diaper. Unlike your daughter, she could not train herself to use the toilet. Please keep in mind that this is not merely passing urine on the bed at night. She could not control both during the day and night. Furthermore, after failing on repeated attempts on training and possibility of incontinence, can you imagine how demoralised she is? Do you think letting her wet and soil herself again and again would magically help her gain control? No, I dont't think so. It will only increase the emotional burden on her.
Also, no 9 year old child will happily 'pee/poo themself without consequences'.
She is primary 4 now, and still require diaper, but so what? Even if she have to wear diaper, it does not mean she is less of a person. She has relatively good grades, has good friends, and is respectful towards others. That's much, much more than what I expect from my daughter.
Hi Justina. Thanks for your concern. My daughter still need to wear, but she is coping well. We are still trying hard but there is no noticeable improvement. She has been very positive about the situation though.hi mum3, it's been a couple of months since you first post. how are things? any improvement on your daughter? hope you're copping well too....
Ha, see, someone else agrees with me...Yes, i agreed with other mommies. In the long run, she is going to suffer in terms of emotionally. Will other kids laugh at her? How will she feel? Yes you have to let her learn it the hard way... Thats why when young you dont train, when they grow up its even harder.