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xiaodaisy

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maybe u can start by letting her to change her diapers herself ? she's big enuff to wear clothes n change herself , so let her do it herself so she wont feel paiseh when u change for her
 

Justina

Member
does she face any issue at school since she has to bring her own diaper to change? i think it has become more like a psychological rather than a psychical issue...
what happens if she outgrown all the diaper sizes in the market?
 

cookie77

Member
YOu mean she is in primary 2 and wears diapers to school? I think you need to take the radical step and just get her out of that diaper. She will get used to it.
 

matty

New Member
Hi. I thought id share my interest as i we had a child in the family went through the same stages as you are. I completely agree with you re your previous post, It would be very difficult to suddenly just to take the diaper away. Does she just wet in the diapers or does she soil in them too? Do you know roughly how many diaper changes she will need during school? and how many she has during a day in the weekend?
 

matty

New Member
Ok you have done the right thing in getting advise from specialists 1st. It sounds like that she could be using the diapers as a security blanket.

When she does wet or soil in them, does she let you know by making any body movements i.e babies sometimes squat down to soil?

If she is in diapers 24/7 and both soiling and wetting in them then this is what I would try:

In one evening next week after school when her diaper needs changing. Change her diaper then for an hour or so, let her run around in the house without a diaper. Put the diaper somewhere in view so that she knows where the diaper is. After the hour or so, give her lots of love and attention to say well done. If you have a sticker chart give her a sticker. Continue to do this every evening at an hour and 30 mins at a time. continue this step for approx 7 days. Also you could gradually increase the time she is without the diaper. Please let me know how you get on?
 

Chewysee

Member
Why dont you start training her by not allowing her to wear diapers when she is home, and tell her whenever she wants to pee or poo, speak up. Tell somebody to bring her to the toilet?
 
Hi,

I think it will take a lot of determination on your part to get her off the diapers. I agree with what chewysee said about not letting her wear diapers at home. But i will make it a point to bring her to the toilet every 30 minutes or so. It may be true that she doesn't have the 'feel that she needs to pass motion or pee but it sould also be that she is too used to having her diapers on and that it is convenient.

Hang in there and try it out.
 

matty

New Member
at 1st try for 30 mins without the diaper on. before trying my suggested technique explain to her what your doing to try with her. lots of positiveness when she does go without the diaper for 30 mins. if she does wet or soil with the nappy off try not to make a big fuss or even say anything. if she is sitting down during this process, get some large nappy changing mats (the absorbable ones) and just let her sit on that whilst shes watching tv.
 

matty

New Member
hi, i wouldnt put a skirt on her, your daughter would feel insecure especially if she feels tht people are watching her. with normal bottoms her clas mates wont be able to see anythng. also at school does she use plastic pants over the top of her diapers? might be a good idea just incase they leak at school
 

HazelN

New Member
Hi, I developed urinary incontinence in secondary school and had to wear diapers all day and night since then. I didn't have any help then and had a hard time. So, I would be glad to help someone else with any questions regarding hiding diapers in school and incontinence in general :)

Mum3, you said that your daughter is having trouble don't know how to sit properly in skirts/dresses? I think you need to teach her how to. Just point it out to her and help her practice a bit? Also, maybe you could point our how embarrassing it would be if she didn't see properly and some boy finds out. I'm sure the embarrassment would spur her to sit properly very quickly.

I don't think wearing shorts under her skirts is very comfortable. Skirts + shorts + diapers would be very warm. Plastic pants would be even worse. It will be too warm!

Also, out of curiosity, how does your daughter hide pooping her diapers in school? I think the smell would give her away instantly?
 
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HazelN

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Hi, thanks for your comment :)

I've been trying to slowly teach her how to sit properly when wearing skirts. She doesn't seem to understand the 'embarrassment' though, maybe she is too young? Yes, wearing shorts under her skirt would make it very warm, furthermore it becomes very bulky, so not very possible to wear pants underneath. I have been trying to find those diaper covers though.

As for school, I think she is able to go get changed immediately when she poops, so her classmates can't smell anything. I guess she is lucky :)
You might want to consider letting her wear the mammy poko xxl diapers instead of the pull ups. They are cheaper and after all, she doesn't even use the toilet at all. They are also more absorbent, so less chances of embarrassing leaks. Just let her change into pull ups for PE lessons.
 

cookie77

Member
I also want to! But sadly she has TOTALLY no control... So very difficult to just take away her diaper...
You definitely can... you just have to go through the initial inconvenience ... but it will force her to exercise more control on her bladder. Definitely can...

I don't want to sound insulting... but if a dog can be "potty trained", how much more can an 8-year old?
 

matty

New Member
The many pojo xxl diapers only fit between 15 and 25. The pull ups generally fit a bigger wrist because of there elastic fit. Re above post you can't compair a dog with a child
 

HazelN

New Member
Hello, thanks for the tip. Do you know if they make a xxxl size for the diapers? I couldn't find them online. I'll get some xxl to see if they fit her. :)
I think the largest size is xxl only.
I''ve seen them before and they are quite big. Almost 2/3 the width of adult diapers. They should fit a primary 2 girl.
 

HazelN

New Member
You definitely can... you just have to go through the initial inconvenience ... but it will force her to exercise more control on her bladder. Definitely can...

I don't want to sound insulting... but if a dog can be "potty trained", how much more can an 8-year old?
Don't you think that is a bit cruel?
It's like she cant even control and you take away her diapers. How about school? Everyone will find out and she will be embarrassed. Also, this kind of pants wetting reputation will stick to her even when she moves to secondary school. People will remember.
 

MeliviaL

New Member
Not really. She is 8yro, parents should have removed her diapers since 4-5? That's what my mum did to me though.

She needs to be trained asap before she gets even more reliant on pampers. She will blame the papers when she grows older and can't kick of the nasty habit of diapers.
 

HazelN

New Member
Not really. She is 8yro, parents should have removed her diapers since 4-5? That's what my mum did to me though.

She needs to be trained asap before she gets even more reliant on pampers. She will blame the papers when she grows older and can't kick of the nasty habit of diapers.
Hmm, is that really the only way to get her out of diapers?

Maybe can leave her in her pull ups and keep bringing her to the toilet every 30 mins?

Honestly I don't feel comfortable making her go cold turkey without diapers. It will be an absolute nightmare for her.

Maybe the fact that I am incontinent and also wearing diapers is affecting my judgement because I keep imagining myself urinating all over the place and being horribly embarrassed.
 

matty

New Member
Mum3 I think your doing ok? you shouldnt be doubting yourself. Every child is different. Keep up the hard work and eventually she will go 1 - 2 hours without needing to goto the toilet. How did you get on with my suggestion today? did she have any accidents without the diaper being on?
 
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