My IVF Success Story

Kokura

Member
This is an e-mail on 'Victim Vs Creator' outlook & how it can affect our fertility.




Hi, I hope you are well. Welcome to the new subscribers!





Finish this statement: Life is a…


We bring our thinking about life and ourselves in to our fertility journey, we don't create new beliefs within it; the emotional roller coaster generally shines a spotlight on the thinking we had already.

When I look back, that is one of the things I am grateful for about our journey. I learnt so much about myself, my limiting thoughts and beliefs which being aware of them has enabled me to change all areas of my life for the better. It doesn't mean life's a breeze, but it means I am able to be more me, doing something I love and being far more self aware which makes life a continual journey of growth and development rather than being dead to myself in many ways as I was before. I'd shut myself off in an emotional cave to protect myself from being hurt by people and life. It was a prison of thinking and as a result I thought my happiness was dependent on external forces and powers, the prison guards who I had to keep on side with, as they had the power. Life felt like a struggle and I felt powerless.

You may have seen the bumper sticker 'Life is a bitch and then you die'. This is a classic example of the powerless, victim (prisoner) of life mentality. Let's explore this philosophy a little more.

If we were to agree with the first statement, life is a bitch, or any variation of it such as life is a struggle, or life is unfair then why is dying and getting out of the prison of struggle such a bad thing? Surely it should be 'Life's a bit…but then you die!' with a positive inflection at the end! Otherwise it is a contradiction and creates what is called a double bind. It binds you into a circular argument that you cannot escape from.

Many people live life by this philosophy, without being consciously aware of it. I used to. I spent many years in a job that didn't inspire me whilst at the same time was scared I may be laid off when we went through rounds of redundancy. Many people feel the same about their life, their jobs, their relationships. When I finally took the step to leave out of choice to find a job that's more 'me' I lost count of the people that said to me they wished they could do the same. What was different to me from them? I had no super-powers or shed loads of money to fall back on! It was their victim mentality that kept them prisoner there.

The brain is an amazing biological computer. Its purpose is to create and it cannot cope with closed loops that don't go anywhere. We feel energized when we are inspired, when we send our brain something inspiring. That's a creative energy.

In a poll of middle managers, the most common response to the request to complete the statement 'Life's a…' was life's a battle. The most common response for business owners and executives was life's a game.

Things happen in life that we don't have control over. Life is a contact sport but we can see that as being a battle or a game. When things happen to us, without us having any choice we do have a choice as to how we respond to it. The victim thinks they are powerless. The creator asks themselves 'what would I like to create from this situation'.

When we get stuck in traffic I can easily be frustrated and annoyed, telling myself there is nothing we can do, we are missing out on what we could be doing if we weren't stuck in this traffic. Talk about being a victim! So now I ask myself, what do I want to create from this situation? If I am with the family it can be a time of playing some games, or making up stories or if I am on my own it could be a time to listen to an audio book or dictate some more of this book!

At the lowest point of our fertility journey, we decided we can create a happy and meaningful life with or without children. Our preference was absolutely with, but it doesn't mean it cannot be done without. When we believe our well-being and happiness are dependent on external circumstances, we get caught in feelings such as anxiety, depression or hopelessness, and that is because we are looking in the wrong place.

So we created our plan. To pack up and go travelling, with the dog, in a camper van. Have an adventure. We chose to use the freedom and flexibility our situation had provided to create something, an adventure. As it tuned out, we didn't get to go on the big adventure as we became pregnant naturally before we went - but before the shift in mindset from victim to creator.

Do you want to be more of a creator? Do you want to turn your life in to an adventure? Due to technical problems some people couldn't get on to my last webinar on how to stop life being on hold and give birth to a life you love. To be more of a creator. You can see it here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZjE10wpplI

If you want to be more of a creator and turn your life in to adventure, if you sense your heart and soul calling you to be more 'you' in life reply to this email. I have two programmes starting soon that might just be what you need. Hit reply to this email if you would like a conversation to explore whether I can help you give birth to a life you love, even ahead of having a baby. When I became the creator of my life, that's when Project Baby took care of itself.




With love,


Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife's 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell's experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
Hi everyone, in this issue of the Fertile Mind newsletter, Russell talks about relationship- how we can move on from a place of stress & tension to a place of warmth & connection in this journey. Please click on the short video link below. :)



Hi, I hope you are well. Welcome to this weeks newsletter and welcome to the new subscribers. We have been having some lovely sunny days here in the UK even as Autumn is creeping up on us. I both love the autumn colours but getting up in the dark to go for a run takes some getting used to again! I love it when I am out there but I've got to be honest I have been struggling to adjust and the duvet feels so much more appealing that the time! I have to remember the phrase 'what feels comfortable in the short term feels uncomfortable in the long term and what feels uncomfortable in the short term feels comfortable in the long term'.

Staying under the duvet feels comfortable in the short term but I know without the benefits running gives me, doing something I love, moving my body etc. I will begin to feel more uncomfortable in life in the long term. It is about getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. When you do that you can do anything! (because the uncomfortable feeling is coming from our thinking and not actually the thing we are thinking about!).

I have been reflecting on how much I love my clients and our time together. I posted a video on Facebook the other day to explain something I shared with the client and I was overwhelmed by response I had from it. You can see it here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ee6bMOlDBEs

Let me know how you find it by posting in the comments below the video or reply to this email. I respond personally to every email I get.

I am putting together a new webinar on Visualisation. Everything you need to know about it. How it's helpful, how to do it, why it works etc. and how ultimately it could help you on your journey to having a baby. The webinar date is Thursday 13th October, 8pm UK time.Secure you place now by clicking this link:
https://app.webinarjam.net/register/499/422289a12d

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife's 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell's experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
Hi everyone, in this issue of the Fertile Mind newsletter, Russell talks about feelings - How does it affect us as we try to conceive; physically, socially & emotionally.






Hi, I hope you are well. Whilst writing an article on communication in relationships I was just reflecting on my own relationship with emotions. I used to think so much to stop feeling my feelings - this was totally unconscious behaviour. I was so disconnected from my feelings I wasn't able to share them or really understand my wife's, in fact I used to be scared of her emotions.


So what is an emotion/feeling? Here's a summary of what I've learn't over the years!

An emotion is a spontaneous reaction to an situation. It is neither right or wrong, good or bad. It just is. You cannot control what you feel, it is spontaneous.

The problem is that we have a mis-understanding of what a feeling really is. We think it is telling us something in the physical world we live in. We think we are feeling our circumstances. The truth is we are only ever feeling our thinking.

Your thinking paints a picture of 'reality' that is not true, however it is convincing and believable and we forget it is just thought. It is so believable that we start to think about what we need to do about that 'reality' and before we know it one thought has led to another and we are telling ourselves all sorts of stories that are not true.

For example, if your boss is short with you, you may think that you have done something wrong or that they are angry with you. You don't actually know that is the case. Perhaps they have just had an argument with their partner on the phone before coming to speak with you. We can often tell ourselves all sorts of things that are plausible and believable. Before you know it you are feeling rubbish because you think you are in trouble or you think your boss thinks poorly of you.

So what is real? What is truth? Our thinking creates a separate reality that is so realistic with this it is reality. In this place when others don't think like us we think there is something wrong with them. In this place we are the reason people are upset or have not replied to the text we sent two minutes ago. In this place we can feel like a victim. In this place life can feel like a struggle because what we think we need to be OK we can't actually control.

When we understand what's behind our human experience, that thoughts and feelings are not created by life circumstances, or anything outside of us, we don't waste time being in this separate reality. We can see it for what it is. We can come back to the here and now, with clarity and perspective.

This puts us in the place of respecting people who think differently to us. A place of knowing we are OK and we cannot make anyone feel anything as they are feeling their thinking A place of knowing whatever happens in the future you are going to be OK as you're innate well-being is with you, you were born with it. It's a birth right. You see it in children.
That's how we come in to the world uncontaminated with our habitual thinking.

It's a place where we fall in to a more healthy psychological state and thus physical state. It stems the tide of fear and negative thinking that allows you to harness the mind-body link far more effectively and powerfully. When I 'got' this, we became pregnant naturally having been told it would be a 1 in a billion chance of it happening.

Do you want help to spend more time in that place? If yes, hit reply to this email.

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife's 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell's experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
Hi readers,



Today I like to share one of Russell's client's testimonial. She was skeptical about hypnosis & never believed it would work for her. Burdened by failed cycles & a suite of health problems which affected her fertility, she decided to reach out to him to see how he could help. What she first thought impossible became possible & now, she is a mother of twins. Happy news!!! So here is the newsletter from Russell. :)








Hi, I hope you are well. I recently heard from a previous client and I wanted to share her story with you, which she has given me permission to do so.


Jess had twins after a failed IUI and IVF, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis, protein S deficiency and hormone imbalances. She has never ovulated regularly and has had problematic periods since puberty. She was spending most days in bed feeling deeply depressed and she reached out by sending me an email and our journey together started from there.

Next week I am sharing everything I know about the power of visualisation that is at the core of my hypnosis programmes that helped Jess so you too can harness the power of your mind on your journey to getting pregnant. Register for your spot here:
https://app.webinarjam.net/register/499/422289a12d

Over to Jess…

“Since March I have been listening to Russell’s The Fertile Mind mp3 program, before now I have never really been one for self help forums, books or believed that hypnosis works. In all honesty I believed I was one of those people who cannot be hypnotised. But so deep was my despair, and so desperate was I to find something to turn to that might make a difference after my last failed cycle that I figured – what the hell, I may as well give it a go – after all, it can’t hurt.

“And at the time everything else did hurt – from the moment I opened my eyes to the moment I finally managed to sink into the disturbed, pitiful and temporary escape from reality; offered me by my elusive sleeping patterns. So I started listening to this download every night, so quietly I could barely hear it – and at first I did not feel relaxed, or comforted or in the least.

“But looking back I realise I was so full of anger, disappointment and bitterness that I’m not sure anything could have immediately penetrated the fugue of misery that enveloped me. But I persevered, and I now know that this was when the smallest of changes began to happen, it has taken months to get to where I am now, and what with the injections and the side effects on my mood and emotions, it really has been a very difficult time for those around me as well, and it continues to be so – but whenever I feel particularly anxious, worried, or am just hit by the hormonal blues, I turn to this mp3 and i put it on so it is playing in the background – at night it lulls me into sleep, and during the day it soothes the troubled seas of my emotions when they threaten to erupt into stormy waters.

“I am on a board of women who are all on different stages of this IVF journey, I think I have lost count of the times someone has asked ‘Is there anything I can do to improve my chances of success?’ Very often the answers are very practical, eating certain foods that contains nutrients that are favourable in terms of nutritious qualities and may encourage, even aid implantation to the colour of the pants worn on the day of ET or FET – I do not dispute any of the things I have read, the one thing I believe in more than anything is the power of the mind.

“Sometimes I see it when I look back at my own behaviour in certain situations – I can clearly see how I am influenced and affected by things I am not even aware of at the time, but in hindsight can understand are a result of the way my brain works and influences me without my conscious knowledge.

“So I do believe that listening to Russell’s soothing and relaxing way of speaking and what he talks about in regards to preparing my body, my mind, about my eggs, my embryos and the way in which I relate to and am connected to the natural world is one of the things that made the difference on this latest attempt – along with serendipity, eternally springing hope, providence, prayer, gratitude, love and endurance – all these are the factors which have carried me this far along in my quest for motherhood – No god given right, but a blessing, a gift and something that I treasure and value beyond anything else in my life up until this point.

“I am now have twins, it is my belief that Russell Davis’ mp3 program, and the support he gave me, was a big part of my success story, I would not be without it – in fact I do not think I could be without it.

“Thank you Russell, from the bottom of my heart, for helping me make my dreams come true.”




Remember to register for your webinar spot and access to the replay if you cannot make the live call here:

https://app.webinarjam.net/register/499/422289a12d

Feel free to send me any questions you have about visualisation and the power of the mind.

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
Hi ladies, if you like to have more peace of mind & well-being on this journey, I am pleased to announce that Russell (Fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, Coach, Author & Speaker& a registered member of the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC) & The National Council of Hypnotherapy (NCH) Fertility Specialist Advisor) will be holding a small group coaching session (aka Butterfly Programme) especially for women in Singapore! Yes!!! You heard it right! The maximum group size is 4 for the weekly phone calls to take place. Yes, everyone will dial in LIVE at a timing which is convenient for everyone. In this small group coaching session which will last about 12 weeks, you will also have access to audio recording & a whole suite of hypnosis tracks (they are really relaxing!) to listen to AND you will also have a few useful self-help books sent to you. Each call will not last more than an hour & everyone will get their turn to speak, although not everyone may get to speak every week. During the phone calls, you can bring up whatever is bothering you (not necessarily fertility-related) & you can experience his coaching LIVE. And you may even get the chance to undergo therapy in which you will go back to a point in your painful past & learn to let go of those thorns... I did & wow, my eyes were tearing as I recalled how I was unfairly physically disciplined as a child. Do PM me if you are interested in this exclusive group coaching. He will not take in too many women as it will affect the amount of time he can spend with each of us.


There is also another option for women who may not have the financial resources. He has an online Mind-Body programme which you can do at your own pace. Modules include Acceptance, Insight, Fear & Expectation, etc. You will be able to have access to him via e-mail for any help you need. He is also committed to this programme. Again, he is limiting this to not more than 20 women worldwide at any time so that he can give his attention properly. This programme is definitely wallet-friendly! :0) I took part in this too!


Last but not least, there is also a 1-to-1 3 month mindset makeover programme where he will
do quite a fair bit of therapy on thinking patterns from childhood & helping client to understand the inside-out nature of the human experience. On top of that, clients will also receive customized & general fertility and healing hypnosis downloads. This is the most expensive programme as it is 1-to-1. So please do have a conversation with him to see which programme is most suitable for you. This conversation will be available at no cost.




Remember to let me know if you are interested in the group coaching programme! Only about 4 places are available & are on a first-come first-served basis.
 
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Kokura

Member
And here is an e-mail from Sarah Holland from UK. She is a very experienced EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) practitioner with 15 years behind her. See which works for you & your fertility! She is offering free consultation to only a few women who are trying to conceive! Get in touch with her!




I love keeping in touch with you via social media, videos and emails. It blows my mind that my fertility support blog posts and short tapping videos can easily be viewed by thousands of woman all over the world in need of fertility support. And from the positive feedback I receive each time I post something new I’m guessing you like them too!
However nothing is quite like real-life connection and conversation, is it? In our technology driven world we mustn’t lose touch with the positive impact of human interaction.
Can you remember having a conversation with someone where they had set aside time just to listen to you? The exchange of ideas between you and the sense of hope and strength they left you with was remarkable and couldn’t ever be replicated by an email or Facebook message..
This is exactly the kind of conversations I have been having this past week with you lovely Fertile Mindset subscribers. I’ve been jumping on Skype (and sometimes the phone!) to spend 30 minutes, one-to-one with women in need of emotional support on their fertility journeys. I’ve been hearing about their fertility journeys thus far, listening to them share what their greatest needs are, and discovering how they can move forward in a positive way towards their goal of having a baby.
I’ve been offering these 30 minute “get to know each other” consultations free of charge to anyone who may be interested in fertility support with me (you can read about my fertility support here).
Whether you are certain you want fertility support, or are still deciding, I’d love to invite you to hop on to Skype or the phone with me too. Let's talk about you and your fertility journey and how we can make it better.
I hope that just this 30 minute chat is valuable to you, and if you want to continue with my support that's great too. I have a couple of spots remaining for new clients, but there's absolutely no obligation to work with me further by taking up this free consultation. :)
Visit this page and scroll to the bottom to request your free 30 minute fertility support consultation with me. It could be the best thing you do for you and your fertility this week.
With love,


 
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Kokura

Member
Hi ladies if you have any inquiries with regards to Russell's online mind-body program or butterfly programme (small group coaching), please feel free to PM me. I will be glad to share my experience.



Here's the link for his recent visualisation webinar for those of you who didn't managed to get the recording. I think it provides a concise explanation as to how and why visualisation is helpful for us.



You can see it here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RS3DEKlCrSQ




Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at Fertility mind-body hypnosis & coaching to help you getting pregnant
 

Kokura

Member
It sucks to be on this journey, doesn't it? Especially when it seems everybody seems to be having it so easy! x number of children by a certain age kind of thing going for them. Grrr... A few months back, a MP doing his house visit asked when will I have a second one. My answer deep in my heart was, "Man I don't know. I really don't. Because it is not something I can control. After all, if just by having regular intercourse & charting BBT, I will get preggy, so will everyone of you. Period. " Instead, I shoved the real me underneath & smiled & said "Oh, when lady luck smiles on me". And he said "it is better to have the second one as soon as possible". Does he think I do not know that? I wish I could retort but I could not as he was with a large entourage.

Sometimes, just sometimes though, when I accept the fact that the outcome is not something within 100% of my control, I feel at peace. Yes at peace with myself. I feel calm & don't feel the anger rushing through me asking "When will it be my turn?!" I feel calm even on this fertility journey. I never knew calmness existed for one trudging down the infertility road...





Here is an e-mail from Russell on finding peace within yourself, not from outside.



Hi there I hope this finds you well. I am feeling really tired right now but am buzzing from the insights and growth I have been experiencing recently. I realised I have a habit of thinking I know something, but that prevents us from learning something new, having fresh insights. I am experiencing this roller-coaster of life with more of a beginners mind and am loving the learning and insights that come with it.

I encourage you to read this email with a beginners mind.

Fertility is often referred to as an emotional roller-coaster. But life is also a roller-coaster. The ups and downs and twists and turns of the roller-coaster of everyday life may not be as steep and high as the fertility ride, but life is still a contact sport and you never know what’s around the corner.

When we feel the need to try and control circumstances and outcomes in order to know we are going to be OK it can be like trying to steer a roller-coaster.

Firstly it is futile because nothing can predict the future, not even your thinking no matter how hard you fret over it! Trying to control outcomes and worrying about future events only bring stress, anxiety and unhappiness.

Your thinking is telling you that you’ll be OK IF you know is going to happen or IF you can ensure particular a outcome.

Many of my clients have a belief that they are OK if they feel in control. This can lead to being obsessive in finding out information or searching for the answer that is going to make all the difference. In the past they have wanted to achieve something such as a successful career they have strived, battled and obtained what they wanted. Now that strategy is not working with their fertility. Fertility is something you cannot have full control over, it is an art as well as a science, which means they feel even more particularly uncomfortable and stressed. In fact the striving is based on a fear of not achieving and the associated stress can actually be keeping you from it.

You can’t control a roller coaster. The more you try the more you resist every twist and turn, every up and every down. That can be very uncomfortable.

Your thinking is trying to control life because it thinks his well-being is dependent on circumstances. Dependable future outcomes, dependent on knowing you are in control. The thinking is telling you can relax if you know you’re in control. You may as well try and steel roller coaster because it doesn’t work. Because the thinking is looking the wrong place for peace of mind. Peace of mind does not come from controlling circumstances. If you think it does you never get to the place of contentment and peace. There’s always something else to worry about, another situation to feel in control.

Nothing can predict the future not even your thinking. The future is an incomplete equation by it’s nature, because it doesn’t exist, it only exists in our thinking. Stop trying to complete it.

Peace of mind is a state you drop in to when you stop trying to be OK. When you stop trying to control things. When your thinking collapses and your mind quietens. You drop in to it without trying. It’s ironic we try so hard to be OK, to get pace of mind but that trying/thinking is what is preventing us from having it.

You were born with it. Look at little children they don’t have to do their journalling, affirmations, meditation to be OK. They drop back in to being OK naturally. It’s our default state within us we return naturally when we stop trying to interfere with the system.

The more we recognise this the more we begin to trust whatever happens on the outside, whatever happens in the future, wherever this roller-coaster of life takes you, you are going to be OK.

When we realise this we can create what we want in our life, achieve our goals whether it’s the promotion or the baby with a greater sense of ease and wellbeing.

Whatever happens you are going to be OK, do you know that?

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
It used to be unbearable for me around the due day whenever I saw blood instead of double blue lines. My heart would inevitably feel heavy & sink, and I would feel down the whole day & I would wonder "Why can't it be my turn sooner???" This was made all the more unbearable when celebrities broadcast their positive news and I would curse & swear. The most recent case in SG was Joanne Peh. Sighs... Some people really do have it easy huh? As for the rest of us, we try our best to pretend we did not see other young parents with their babies & toddlers in tow whenever we go out. We pretend that we don't mind. We pretend we are more interested in the latest fashion fads & jet-setting when the truth is, the TRUTH (of our Infertility) hurts! Add to that sarcastic comments from people around us "you should have babies quickly you know. You are not getting any younger". YES, auntie, we certainly do NOT need your kind reminder.

That is why on an almost daily basis, I tell my daughter 'thank you for being borne to me. Mama is so grateful & happy to have you as my daughter. Thank you for fighting through all the way to the end. You were the only egg which survived." For a good 1 year, I said it with tears in my eyes because truly, my heart was full of gratitude. Had she given up the fight before egg retrieval, I would be at my second/third/.... cycle. Even though she is almost 3 years old now, I still say it frequently though my eyes are no longer teary.


In this journey, when we feel so physically lonely & emotionally devoid, we can reach out to hold the hands of professionals who truly understand our feelings & our sense of wanting.
Russell Davis, a Fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success. Perhaps you too can be one of them. He has taken out some time from his busy schedule to make a short video clip introducing himself & his work to all couples in Singapore who are trying for a baby. You can view it here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sKnUSB6YJKM
 

Kokura

Member
Hey ladies there's a free webinar by Russell going on. Please feel free to register and receive the recording. How many of the fertility myths do you believe in? For me I have to say it is at least 4.





Hi, I hope you are well. Welcome to this weeks newsletter! Welcome to the new subscribers as well.

This afternoon I have been planning the webinar tomorrow night exploring the principles behind peace of mind. I’ve identified what I call the 7 Deadly Myths that prevent us from having peace of mind. They are:
1. Thinking is useful
2. X makes me feel Y
3. I’m OK if/when…
4. I must have more positive thinking
5. I’m broken and need fixing
6. Negative emotions means something is wrong with me/life
7. I have to strive to get what I want in life

Join me as I debunk these myths and align you to the reality of where peace of mind comes from and how you can have what you want in life with greater ease and well-being!

I client the other day said “…the clarity I was searching for was always there for me, but I just didn't realise it…I can now see that I really can trust myself and let go, with the secure knowledge that things will work out as they are supposed to.”

Join me for this free webinar tomorrow evening, if you can’t join us live you will get the full recording. Register your place here:
https://app.webinarjam.net/register/499/ab7374f309

I’m also going to be sharing a new programme to help you connect with your innate well-being, stop life feeling on hold and have your mind and body fall in to the optimum physical and psychological state for you to get pregnant.

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at* [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at* Fertility mind-body hypnosis & coaching to help you getting pregnant. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
***LET'S MAKE 2017 THE YEAR FOR US!!!***


Russell is inviting only 10 women to to participate in a 1-to-1 personal exploration journey with him; on how to let go of self-limiting beliefs & free ourselves mentally & emotionally, and from here give birth to a life we always want. It is called Project You. Read on to find out more.







So the season of advent has begun. I am going to be doing some Facebook lives on how to survive the festive season so I won’t dwell on that here (reply to this email if you want to be added to the SECRET Facebook group focussing on the psychological and mind-body aspect of the journey to getting pregnant).

I was interviewed for an online event last night and was reflecting on our own journey. We saw the journey from every angle. Female infertility, male infertility, secondary infertility, my wife not feeling supported by me, me not expressing how I felt, life feeling on hold etc. etc. Whilst I wouldn’t wish the journey on anyone I am so glad for the things I learnt on it. Things I wish I’d know at the beginning, if we had it would definitely not have been a 10 year journey, but at the same time it was things that enabled us to get pregnant naturally against all odds. It is sharing these things with others that makes me passionate about what I do. Helping people to see things differently and open up new possibilities for them and their journey.

My biggest realisation on our journey that was THE turning point was me realising I felt like a victim in life. That is really wasn’t fair we couldn’t have children. I was so angry at God/life. F**king angry. All my life I had been the ‘good boy’ and done the right thing, worked hard and here was life slapping me instead of rewarding my hard work and ‘goodness’ whilst I saw others who didn’t really care as much get pregnant and things they wanted in life so much easier. Where’s the justice in that?

Before I say anything else, it's OK to be angry. It's OK to feel anything, you don't have to be fearful of your experience. How would you be if you were not fearful of any experience? I guess it would be quite freeing.

Well it was what I did with this realisation that changed the course of my life and our journey.

I want to share that with you in all it’s detail so you too can learn what I learnt and make 2017 the year you remember. For me it was 2006. Make yours 2017.

Join me on Thursday 15th December. Take some time away from all the seasons festive build up and spend some time to make 2017 your year. Click on the link to secure your spot:
https://app.webinarjam.net/register/499/f57465f6ef

I am having some great conversations with people about my Project You programme starting in January 2017 and places are starting to go. This is for 10 women only. If you are interested reply to this email with the word ‘Me’ and I’ll contact you to arrange a time to have a conversation to see whether the programme is right for you.

With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
Russell explained what his Project You is all about. If you have the financial means, I strongly recommend you to sign up. There are only 10 places available worldwide & some women have already signed up. Have an open mindset & explore what feels right for you.. After all, if trying for a baby every alternate day is all that is needed, there won't be so many women (including me!) struggling here. *To hell with unexplained infertility!!!* (Giggles) You can drop him an e-mail & he will arrange a time to have a conversation via Skype with you.





Hi, I hope you are well. Welcome to this weeks newsletter.


I am really excited to be launching an exclusive new programme starting next year. This is going to be the deepest programme I have ever done. I talk a lot about Project You v Project Baby and how the more you focus on Project You, Project Baby takes more care of itself, with or without treatment. That was definitely our personal experience and the experience of my clients.

Project You is going to be a 6 month programme that is about changing your life beyond fertility. It’s about changing who you are, your mindset from the inside out. It’s about being happy again, laughing more, being happy for others when they get pregnant, to ‘play’ more, maybe even change career or start the business you’ve always wanted to but it’s been on hold because of Project Baby. It’s not about ignoring Project Baby it’s about regaining some balance in life, creating a flow again and allowing yourself to follow your soul’s desires even ahead of having a baby.

If you feel an urge to explore this more, if you feel this could be great for you, to free you to be ‘you’ again, or even perhaps for the first time (I found ‘me’ at the lowest point of our fertility journey), reply to this email and say ‘Me’ and we’ll set up a time to have a chat.

Following your soul can feel scary, it can feel like driving in to the unknown, the familiar can feel comfortable but deep down we can feel an urge that there is more for us to explore, be and do in life. Follow that urge. You only have one life, let’s make it awesome.

Secret Facebook Group:
I have discovered Facebook Live! I am starting to do some short Facebook Live videos in the secret Facebook group. If you would like to join reply to this email and let me know. It is totally hidden on Facebook and no-one can see you are in it, any of the content or the face it exists!



With love,

Russell x

Feel free to email me directly at [russell@thefertilemind.net].

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Russell Davis, fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist, writer and speaker, believes you can find a sense of peace and control over your fertility. Whether natural or assisted conception, Russell has helped hundreds of couples all over the world move from despair to hope to success.

Russell, the Fertility Specialist Advisor to The National Council of Hypnotherapy, founded The Fertile Mind fertility mind-body programs and coaching based on he and his wife’s 10-year double infertility journey which resulted in the natural conception of their son.

Russell’s experience echoes his belief that too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and that the success rate of treatment is unnecessarily low.

Find out more about Russell and his work at www.thefertilemind.net. [http://www.thefertilemind.net]

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Kokura

Member
For those of you who have not seen how Russell looks like, you can see him in the video clip below. In fact, I think talking to someone overseas is much better than talking to someone in SG because being in a small country, you never know if this person whom you spoke to about your fertility issue is a friend of someone whom you know! (Gulps!)

And for those of you who are interested in his small group coaching, please contact me. Places are still available. You can always use a pseudonym if you are not comfortable using your real name. No one is going to know.


Emotional issues & stress from all quarters of your life affecting your fertility? Feeling jealous, angry, stressful, frustrated, disappointed, depressed, resentful, upset whenever that 'time' of the month comes? His small group coaching IS for you. Wait no more. You can experience feeling happier & more relaxed. Infertility struggle does NOT always equate to stress & disappointment. Happiness is not achieved only when we have a baby; happiness comes from now. Let Russell show you how.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sKnUSB6YJKM
 

Kokura

Member
Hey ladies! Join Sarah Holland, a EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Practitioner, as she discusses with everyone how to achieve a stress-free fertility journey. Yes!!! It is possible! Never mind what other people say.




Is it REALLY possible to have a stress-free fertility journey?
Last week I hosted a live webinar where this question was up for discussion, and yes I know it’s more than a little controversial! When you feel so overwhelmed and stressed by all the challenges you’re facing while trying for your baby, it can feel impossible to imagine there is an alternative, more positive way to experience your fertility journey.
During the webinar we explored what stress really means, how it can affect you and your fertility, and the steps you can take now to begin creating your own stress-free fertility journey.
Now in my private Facebook group, the Fertile Mindset Support Hub I’ll be sharing highlights from the webinar. In 5 posts over 3 days you are invited to join in with the discussion and exploration into the role stress is playing on your fertility journey and how you can start transforming it today.
Are you ready to join in and make a positive difference to your fertility journey? Yes? Great! I can’t wait to see your discoveries and insights as we do this important work together. :)
Come over to the Hub here to join in now, I'd love to see you there! >> https://www.facebook.com/groups/FMsupporthub
Post 1 of 5 will be up today with the first discussion point so look out for it soon…. In the meanwhile I want to share this quote with you:

I have always loved this quote and I think it’s particularly poignant for our exploration into what it means to aim for a “stress-free fertility journey”. Is it really possible to achieve? Let’s find out together what is possible for you… and if the best we do is land among the stars then that is still a huge achievement and great improvement from the start point. Don’t you agree? :)
Aim high… believe in your potential… you can do this… reach for the moon! See you soon at post 1 in the Hub soon.https://www.facebook.com/groups/FMsupporthub
With love,

 
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