Can't believe that you still can bother to entertain her by going for lunch! Goodness, if I were you, I would have gone mad! Next time she repeats, tell her to ask her friend's daughter to take her as a godmother and ask her what kind of daughter actually encourages her mother to gamble? That daughter is wishing for her mother to lose all her money at the casino is it?
My mother-in-law, Mdm L rom hell
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peppermint
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I have no choice but to go back even so it is only 1 1/2 hour of contact time, it is a torture. My husband misses his grandparents and they cook for us, so have to go back. And when I'm there, I talk to the grandparents most of the time or play games on my phone, I ignored Mdm L but cannot not greet her. So usually when we arrives, I will greet my MIL very loudly, so next door also can hear. Hee hee.
That 1 1/2 when we are there, Mdm L can do a lot of funny things or pull her son to a corner and whisper into his ears and it's not like her house is very big. So she deliberately pull him to a corner within my sight and WHISPER?!! Bitch.
peppermint
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I think Mdm L frequents the casinos. She told us proudly that she is not a hardcore gambler. She got to know this old ah por at the casino who actually gambled away her 3 room flat. So she is not that bad after all. *roll eyes*
So I said, where in the world is that ah por goi going to stay when she gambles away her house?? Mdm L said "She stays with her son lo.". OMG, she better not even think about it!!
So I said, where in the world is that ah por goi going to stay when she gambles away her house?? Mdm L said "She stays with her son lo.". OMG, she better not even think about it!!
I'll ask her in her face if she's talking bad stuff about me in front of me! And if not, why must whisper?
peppermint
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She even whisper into her son's ears at the table, during wedding or birthday dinners. Very rude. She will feel lost if she's not seated next to him and no relatives would like to talk to her and she doesn't talk to my FIL, oh well.. my FIL is also another weird breed. One of those occasion, I was mean. I actually went to sit between her and her son. On one hand, I was uneasy sitting next to her, on the other hand, I was amused to see her getting uneasy because her son is seated away. But still she managed to whisper to him... From my back. Hiyo.
LOL! Umbilical cord was not cut off properly at birth?
LOL.. As you see from the brighter side, they are all quite funny MIL.. It is good to take them as a laughing stock and forgive and forget about them.. That will make us feel better and happier..
My MIL and FIL also like to say how important it is for the sons and daughters to support the parents back with some money.. They always emphasise that they have taken care the kids from birth to adult and the kids must know how to repay the graditude by supporting with some money..
My parents never said such things to us. It's the responsibility of the parents to take care, send to school/university and provide the necessary. But My parents will never expect us to pay back money and support.. As long as we are happy and doing well with our futures, they are happy also..
Of course, as the children, we will do our part in supporting them as much as we could... But I was shocked to hear such type of repeated comments on each of their sons must support them monthly is rather like a Robbery....I don't understand how can the parents expect something back from their childrean....
Anyway, I take it as a funny thing after hearing thoes comments several times.. Whenever we came back from MIL house, me and my hubby will laugh.... may be his parents really have no other things to say and we laughed...... how poor thing are they...
My MIL and FIL also like to say how important it is for the sons and daughters to support the parents back with some money.. They always emphasise that they have taken care the kids from birth to adult and the kids must know how to repay the graditude by supporting with some money..
My parents never said such things to us. It's the responsibility of the parents to take care, send to school/university and provide the necessary. But My parents will never expect us to pay back money and support.. As long as we are happy and doing well with our futures, they are happy also..
Of course, as the children, we will do our part in supporting them as much as we could... But I was shocked to hear such type of repeated comments on each of their sons must support them monthly is rather like a Robbery....I don't understand how can the parents expect something back from their childrean....
Anyway, I take it as a funny thing after hearing thoes comments several times.. Whenever we came back from MIL house, me and my hubby will laugh.... may be his parents really have no other things to say and we laughed...... how poor thing are they...
peppermint
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LOL!!! I think the only thing Mdm L did for her son is to give birth to him. Heard from his cousins that she never has to take care of him or even so change his diapers when he was a baby. It was grandma who did everything and grandfather who drove my husband to school. Well, obviously she is not well-liked by the relatives that why they bad mouthed her to me.
peppermint
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Nah, i may forgive her on some of the things she has done to me....or maybe not but I will never forget what she has done. If you have time, do read the beginning of this thread started my me about her and her nonsense. Then you will know what I mean. She is just so scary, like a devil. Sometimes I wonder if she is human.
Robbery?!! You can say the same about my parents in law. Its daylight robbery!! Have you read about how she wanted my previous condo access card? What about going through my stuff and taking it away without asking permission? What about my husband's Rolex that his dad insist on having just to match his gold chunky ring?? How about her wanting half of my husband's pay because her friend's son who is a doctor, is a very good boy as he will give his mother half his pay.
peppermint
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It's been awhile. How is everyone and your MILs?? Any improvements?
Btw, did you all watch the current Ch 8 TV drama - Pillow Talk? I am not a follower of local productions but I must say this is one drama that I follow closely.
Anyhow, whatever MILs portrayed in that drama is not as terrible as what some of us have, agree?
Btw, did you all watch the current Ch 8 TV drama - Pillow Talk? I am not a follower of local productions but I must say this is one drama that I follow closely.
Anyhow, whatever MILs portrayed in that drama is not as terrible as what some of us have, agree?
peppermint
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Iqa, read this if you have time. Stay away from the MIL. You are already getting the bad signs from her.
Good luck!
Good luck!
sweetflame
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hi everyone,
I read all your post about how you deal w/ your mother in law and its crazy to have that situation.
I read all your post about how you deal w/ your mother in law and its crazy to have that situation.
peppermint
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Yes sweet flame. She's crazy! I hope you are not on the same boat as us.
peppermint
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His parents are really terrible!
Yesterday they came over to our new place. Although they sat for an hour or slightly less, it was a very painful ordeal for me.
His mother just kept whispering to him even when me and my FIL was just seated by their side in the living area.
Beside the other nonsense that she did yesterday, this is what pissed me the most.
Both his parents are retired and always patronize gambling dens; yes almost daily they are out gambling. If you read my first thread, they also secretly sold their HUDC and claimed that those $900 thousand are for their retirement use. Then they bought a HDB opposite my apartment that cost about $230 thousand. Every month, my hubby gives them $2000 allowances. While her mobile and SCV bills are paid for by my hubby. But still his mother always complain indirectly about being very poor and that she needs to save for her retirement or drop hints like her friend's daughter (who is a lawyer) very good, bought her mum a casino membership because her mum retired and nothing to do; that her friend's son (who is a doctor) also very good, pass his mum half his monthly salary for his mum's safekeeping. That she needs to go QB house to cut hair because she needs to save money. That she no longer use shesido products so she switch to loreal products.
Yesterday his mother ask my hubby if he has enough in his medisave. Hubby said should be ok and why. She then ask my hubby to photocopy his IC to pass her so that she can use it for his dad's medical expenses. Which is not a lot, it's just maintenance follow up for his post op heart bypass which he did years ago. But still?!!! Hubby said ok but still have not pass her his IC.
I'm very disturbed. Because this year, I went through two rounds of IVF and both we used his medisave. We are still deciding if we should opt for another try. All these IVF procedures, none of his family members are aware.
But as parents, I don't see them caring much for their only child and his well being. They just want to dig as much money as they could. Then what happens to their balance from the sale of the house??
I'm so pissed!!
Yesterday they came over to our new place. Although they sat for an hour or slightly less, it was a very painful ordeal for me.
His mother just kept whispering to him even when me and my FIL was just seated by their side in the living area.
Beside the other nonsense that she did yesterday, this is what pissed me the most.
Both his parents are retired and always patronize gambling dens; yes almost daily they are out gambling. If you read my first thread, they also secretly sold their HUDC and claimed that those $900 thousand are for their retirement use. Then they bought a HDB opposite my apartment that cost about $230 thousand. Every month, my hubby gives them $2000 allowances. While her mobile and SCV bills are paid for by my hubby. But still his mother always complain indirectly about being very poor and that she needs to save for her retirement or drop hints like her friend's daughter (who is a lawyer) very good, bought her mum a casino membership because her mum retired and nothing to do; that her friend's son (who is a doctor) also very good, pass his mum half his monthly salary for his mum's safekeeping. That she needs to go QB house to cut hair because she needs to save money. That she no longer use shesido products so she switch to loreal products.
Yesterday his mother ask my hubby if he has enough in his medisave. Hubby said should be ok and why. She then ask my hubby to photocopy his IC to pass her so that she can use it for his dad's medical expenses. Which is not a lot, it's just maintenance follow up for his post op heart bypass which he did years ago. But still?!!! Hubby said ok but still have not pass her his IC.
I'm very disturbed. Because this year, I went through two rounds of IVF and both we used his medisave. We are still deciding if we should opt for another try. All these IVF procedures, none of his family members are aware.
But as parents, I don't see them caring much for their only child and his well being. They just want to dig as much money as they could. Then what happens to their balance from the sale of the house??
I'm so pissed!!
xiaodaisy
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cool down peppermint ! what to do , they are ur hubby's parent .. but for me , if my in laws come ask for money when they go gamble , i cfm say them ..
so far for me , mil have nvr come over for 3mths + , the last time she came over was my baby's full mth and not even 5mins she left cos i told her , ur ex hubby coming and she scare the shit out of her pants and faster left LOL !
confinement she came for the first 3 days after i discharge but i was unhappy on how she cook my meals n bother abt how i breastfeed .. u know how rude can she be ?
when i bf-ing in my room , she knock my door n open without i say ok and she say she wanna take my boy's uniform to wash .. its like seriously ? i told her i gonna go bf my baby so why she cant wait till i finish bf den she wash which take less den 1hr will die meh .. or simply she love staring at my breast? =.= she dont have meh !
so i scolded her in facebook purposely to let my bil see and told hubby to ask her not to come else i will make a food strike of not intaking food she cook and his daughter will be hungry bcos of no breastmilk , lucky it work ,she didnt came after that .. LOL !!
so far for me , mil have nvr come over for 3mths + , the last time she came over was my baby's full mth and not even 5mins she left cos i told her , ur ex hubby coming and she scare the shit out of her pants and faster left LOL !
confinement she came for the first 3 days after i discharge but i was unhappy on how she cook my meals n bother abt how i breastfeed .. u know how rude can she be ?
when i bf-ing in my room , she knock my door n open without i say ok and she say she wanna take my boy's uniform to wash .. its like seriously ? i told her i gonna go bf my baby so why she cant wait till i finish bf den she wash which take less den 1hr will die meh .. or simply she love staring at my breast? =.= she dont have meh !
so i scolded her in facebook purposely to let my bil see and told hubby to ask her not to come else i will make a food strike of not intaking food she cook and his daughter will be hungry bcos of no breastmilk , lucky it work ,she didnt came after that .. LOL !!
peppermint
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She very smart one. Of course she wouldn't say she take the money to gamble mah. She will use all sort of excuses or quote her friend's kids etc.
She is aware that she's not welcome at my place. But she's thick-skinned. She kept saying, "this is my son's house, why i cannot go up!" But hubby and I ignore her comments. She doesn't has the keys except for my condo's card then. Now that we shifted to a new place, I shall see how she is going to make up stories again to get hold of my new condo's card.
She's scary, she seems to know people all around Singapore. Now that at our new place, which is in central Singapore, she also has friends who stay near us and that she goes there to play mahjong.
What a kapo bitch she is.
peppermint
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This is lots to read and I may not read it all but I am facing those who you are experiencing it. For those so cool, I am sure you have a good Parents in Law and just because you aren't in the situation. Of course, I wish you Dont and Dont mess up with this difficult in laws indeed. My way of coping is first thanks to my biological parents and siblings full support and also friends, in another way, forum too can tell you all experienceS and solutionS. I was also being "cunned by " so called nice Parents in Law and Sister in Law. Luckily my husband is the only son and one sister, otherwise, I am getting sick all the time or I might as well disappear in the world and will make them [Killer Parents in Law] for good sake! I sure tell my husband I will make his whole family very famous as they seems to me like to show off ma! They are indeed will say help out my hubby to buy things and that but it seems like bringing more troubles! I GOT TO USE MY WAY to cope with it! I PRETEND I AM BLIND, no eyes SEE, I PRETEND I AM DEAF, heard nothing bullshit to keep my mind peace. THEM TO ME is only make me more stronger and I am solution provider BETTER than them ( in laws, whatever, just like the name sound, in laws, really think they are lawyers, but yet only very lame, suaku, I agree, hahaha!) so I always tell my husband you wont won me ever as I always have my method to against you all! Salute myself as I always use to be mama girl or papa girl! I should thanks this IN LAWS indeed for they show me they are not as good as my biological parents! However, to my hubby side, I am NOT going to influence him as he should think better and not anymore papa boy or mama boy! For example, she helped out to bought stuff for my husband cause my delivery coming soon, but I dont wish to use the same brand stuffs as she is using for her child UNLESS I am not staying together with them. It will mix up and not hygiene and I believe they will sure do it on my back. Bet I am WRONG TO THEM! but i cross my finger ba! I appreciate her good will but nope, in fact, people matters! It will only make me no longer have a good rest! Whatever my husband pity me or love me, I should thank him but somehow, I aint going to show out! We daughter in law just have to be strong, careful, keep quiet which mean use your way to cope with it with no guilty, cause good things we soon come to you! No need to curse, cause my in laws also like to curse people, but got sick after that! Of course, if she awake from her mind then good, but if she is not, she is bringing trouble to my husband only. However, I assure my husband and his family dont give me and my baby trouble, otherwise, I will start fighting war just like the times they ever scolded their mother in law, right! There is nothing wrong when you protect your child from being harm! I wish and pray everyone who is not meeting good in laws, dont bother them, even they talked, JUST LIKE LISTEN TO THE DISGUSTING MUSIC and you will change to your favourite channel! Blessed us all!
belwishupon
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Hi harrier,
You are funny and awesome. Hahaha.. I happen to see those thread too but was so long ago and many absurd things actually did happen. In fact one day we might be some one in law too but I think wat u say is right. Sometimes is not a matter of whether we want to listen or not, just that they purposely say it out loud for us to listen, irritating as its sound but I just hv to be deaf and act nth.
After I talkback last mth, we are not in talking term, God Bless and I actually think its more peaceful and happier.. Although she still talk for me to listen etc but I act blur. See NO EVIL, hear NO EVIL. It's true.. We are nv like their biological daughter son FAT HOPES they will treat us like a princess.. Yah and one thing u say that make me feel I talk back after this 5 yrs is worth it. THERE IS NTH WRONG WE PROTECT OUR OWN CHILDREN FROM HARM. Love it.
May all disgusting music disappear soon and shall see rainbow very soon.. Kudos to all great DIL here.. We survive!!
You are funny and awesome. Hahaha.. I happen to see those thread too but was so long ago and many absurd things actually did happen. In fact one day we might be some one in law too but I think wat u say is right. Sometimes is not a matter of whether we want to listen or not, just that they purposely say it out loud for us to listen, irritating as its sound but I just hv to be deaf and act nth.
After I talkback last mth, we are not in talking term, God Bless and I actually think its more peaceful and happier.. Although she still talk for me to listen etc but I act blur. See NO EVIL, hear NO EVIL. It's true.. We are nv like their biological daughter son FAT HOPES they will treat us like a princess.. Yah and one thing u say that make me feel I talk back after this 5 yrs is worth it. THERE IS NTH WRONG WE PROTECT OUR OWN CHILDREN FROM HARM. Love it.
May all disgusting music disappear soon and shall see rainbow very soon.. Kudos to all great DIL here.. We survive!!
wowww I've read n can't help sharing. I've stopped talking to my mil from hell like more than 1 year. I refuse to step into her flat n I refuse to let her see my daughter. I've stopped her n I've even fight n shouted to her telling her she's a crazy women who like to play a victimized role. I told her Ur son Is Ur blood he will listen to u he will go to Ur feet. I m not Ur blood I m not raised by u. I have my own parents n I m being brought up graciously. If I m rude it was u that taught me n I m just shadowing what u had taught me. My daughter is in my blood n I carry her long enough in my womb. As much as u don't want to lose Ur son I refuse u n I will forbid u to come close to my daughter or my life. N if u try to separate me n my husband u are one hell of a wicked witch n u are a damn sinner. When u succeed in separating us cross my body I will forbid Ur son Ur family n u from getting close n I make sure u live horribly with Ur own stupidity. I cursed her like I'm the mother she's the child. It makes my marriage horrid n we still pull through. she pulled a knife n point it to me n my husband witness it all. I even made a police report. I told my husband in front of her. I said I love u n I never want to leave u but if Ur mother is doing these horrid things u decide y in the first place u ask my parents for me to marry u. Y do u make the promise to god that u will take care of me n u will protect me. N if Ur mother is damn right divorce me right now n she b the witness of our fallen marriage.