I have a major problem accepting my hb's first daughter of 10yo.
i am w him for 8yrs and married for 3yrs.. I do not know what is my problem n why i just have the major hurdle in accepting her. cut story short, she stays w the mom as the mom got full custody of her. the father (my hb) fetches her back to our house on Saturdays nights and she spends the Sundays with us. every time I see her,I will get so unhappy w my hb cos I always feel that the hb is spoiling her way too much. he gives her whatever she asked for when she was young and I know that's his way of making up to her. but he bought her expensive toys and she never learnt how to cherish it cos probably she was "trained" since young that her father is loaded. FYI, my hb and me have a 2yr old daughter and a newborn baby coming soon. his monthly maintenance fees to the step kid is $1200 monthly. and after paying that, we have little money for myself and my 2 kids left. the step kid only wishes to eat I'm air-com places during weekends with us as his father brings her to restaurants for meals every weekend.
I am so torn inside as I hate the way he spoilt her. wherever I try to show my displeasure, he will end up showing me his black face n we will not talk for days. this is badly affecting my weekends. the stepkid's mom's already remarried with 2 of her own kids too and lucky her, she is a SAHM whereas I have to work even during my confinement. i did ask my hb to take back the custody but i donno if i can take it. what can I do now?
i am w him for 8yrs and married for 3yrs.. I do not know what is my problem n why i just have the major hurdle in accepting her. cut story short, she stays w the mom as the mom got full custody of her. the father (my hb) fetches her back to our house on Saturdays nights and she spends the Sundays with us. every time I see her,I will get so unhappy w my hb cos I always feel that the hb is spoiling her way too much. he gives her whatever she asked for when she was young and I know that's his way of making up to her. but he bought her expensive toys and she never learnt how to cherish it cos probably she was "trained" since young that her father is loaded. FYI, my hb and me have a 2yr old daughter and a newborn baby coming soon. his monthly maintenance fees to the step kid is $1200 monthly. and after paying that, we have little money for myself and my 2 kids left. the step kid only wishes to eat I'm air-com places during weekends with us as his father brings her to restaurants for meals every weekend.
I am so torn inside as I hate the way he spoilt her. wherever I try to show my displeasure, he will end up showing me his black face n we will not talk for days. this is badly affecting my weekends. the stepkid's mom's already remarried with 2 of her own kids too and lucky her, she is a SAHM whereas I have to work even during my confinement. i did ask my hb to take back the custody but i donno if i can take it. what can I do now?