if uncontested divorce, you shouldn't have to worry about the receipt. Usually they wont bother to look at them. Looking at your situation, you'll have a hard time processing divorce...the milk powder all is buy from a shop.. n they don't give u anything.. den when i was preg with my 2nd Ds.. my Dh only follow me to check up 1 or 2 times, den the rest i paid by myself.. why am i so stupid to let them control everything? haiz.. i really don't know myself..
ur mil siao issit? Ur bb is urs not by her lor. In the eye of law she cannot stop u frm bringing ur child out lor. ANyway how did u tell ur dh why he scold u? Wat he said?i got think of this before also.. but my husband dun let me to.. n my mother in law dun let my husband to move out.. she make me feel tat she wan his son n her grandchildren.. den if i wan to move out i move out myself.. i cannot even bring my own children out lei.. she will just give me a face n see lo.. i really don't know why they so scare i bring my children out.. like i will kill my own child? omg.. i don't know what they r thinking.. i told my husband that i wan to move out.. but he just scold me n that all.. i really very stress.. i really don't know i can stand until when.. really very tired already..
ya.. i got lack of experience.. but i can get better job outside other dan helping them.. i dun learn anything being with them lo.. n i dun need them to paid me money so tat i need to see their face lo.. my parents just dun wan to have anything to do with them lo.. they say dun make them angry n so on.. but i never make them angry.. n in the end she come telling me all those shit lo.. she treat me like a dog.. ask me to do this n tat without thinking for my feeling lo.. if i never listen to her den she will just tell her son tat i can't do this n tat.. as in.. housework, cook, taking care of my own kids.. but she herself carry away my kids den say i never take care of them.. i wan to take care.. but when she is at home, she take my kids into her room n close the door.. n when she is not around the maid bring my kids to her room n lock some more.. u say lei.. ya.. i noe i now dun have the money.. but my dh dun wan to save.. how to have money.. sometimes i save the money n he see my money he will ask me to pay for the bill.. how to have money? n everytime i also dun know where my dh spend his money at.. he didn't need to paid for the house things.. all is his mother paying.. i also dun know y he can't save.. aiya.. say so much also no use de la.. i'm not rush over my viewing ok.. i'm married for 3 yrs already.. n i'm not happy with this married lo.. i give him chances to change.. but i think i have enough of it already lo.. maybe next time he will change.. but i think i can't wait for the time to come already.. if i really go back to tat house, i will go crazy one day.. den at tat time i got nothing already..fiona,
seems like your dh is afraid to move out cos he seems not financially stable and matured enough to do so. seems like you are unable to move out cos you are not financially able to do so. so what happens next?
if you want a divorce, plan carefully first. Like what other mummies suggest, get a job first. Establish your self-confidence too. Don't get 'pushed' around at home. You don't have to say anything to establish your presence/stand so long that you can carry yourself well.
Give yourself some respect first...'they don't let you go out to work? and yet ask you to help out at their stall?' How to don't let you go out to work if you can show them that you got a better job offer? They can't lock you up, right? Can you get a better job offer outside with your qualifications? It seems like a case of your ILs manipulating you and trying to diminish your esteem cos (1) you lack qualifications (2) you lack will power (3) you are young and inexperience.
Your parents is scared of them?!!!! I don't understand!!!!
actually even u go outside working environment is also the same...u will need to see ppl's face to get paid n work. Anyway for ur case, if i am u i would divorce him liao. He has to pay allowance to u n ur son if ur son goes to u n if still not enuff u can seek help like mummies mention here. Juz do it n dun juz tink only.ya.. i got lack of experience.. but i can get better job outside other dan helping them.. i dun learn anything being with them lo.. n i dun need them to paid me money so tat i need to see their face lo.. my parents just dun wan to have anything to do with them lo.. they say dun make them angry n so on.. but i never make them angry.. n in the end she come telling me all those shit lo.. she treat me like a dog.. ask me to do this n tat without thinking for my feeling lo.. if i never listen to her den she will just tell her son tat i can't do this n tat.. as in.. housework, cook, taking care of my own kids.. but she herself carry away my kids den say i never take care of them.. i wan to take care.. but when she is at home, she take my kids into her room n close the door.. n when she is not around the maid bring my kids to her room n lock some more.. u say lei.. ya.. i noe i now dun have the money.. but my dh dun wan to save.. how to have money.. sometimes i save the money n he see my money he will ask me to pay for the bill.. how to have money? n everytime i also dun know where my dh spend his money at.. he didn't need to paid for the house things.. all is his mother paying.. i also dun know y he can't save.. aiya.. say so much also no use de la.. i'm not rush over my viewing ok.. i'm married for 3 yrs already.. n i'm not happy with this married lo.. i give him chances to change.. but i think i have enough of it already lo.. maybe next time he will change.. but i think i can't wait for the time to come already.. if i really go back to tat house, i will go crazy one day.. den at tat time i got nothing already..
Think so.. Try visitng their website and call tmr to ask in details..ya.. i went to aware already.. den they ask me to find a job first.. den go legal aid.. but i have to get the rom cert first.. my dh dun wan to give me the cert.. he say he dun wan to divorce.. but i say is too late already lo.. maybe i'm going to the fort canning there to get another copy of the cert.. can rite?