mich_liu82
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As above. What do you think tell tales sign will be like if ur partner strays...
Sorry...i dun agreed u should chat wif your hubby first. However...I do agreed that u should observe. It's pointless to confront them when u hv no evidence. U just put them on their guard. In the meantime, don't argue...and voice your suspicion.Since it's only the past 1 month, you should quickly have a chat with him. Tell him what you observed & ask him to be honest. If it's true, at least the other relationship was short & would be easy to end (if you are willing to forgive him).
Or you can get a PI to follow him first, then confront him about it.
At the end of the day you must ask yourself:
- Your purpose of finding out -> to confront or just to know?
- What will you do IF he really is straying?
If u r not the suspicious kind, trust your instinct. Do not quarrel or confont your hubby first cos that will only drive him out. Instead, try to treat him nicer...hee...hee...the guilt method.I dont know, lately my hubby abit funny...
at first I never suspect bcoz I trust him alot and have faith he will not stray...
But I dont know why I suddenly suspect...
1. He has calls dat comes in and he dont wanna ans when im around but he tells me its sum insurance agent dat have been pestering him or one of his old friend dat is a little "13 O' clock" which I have seen before...
2. Last night he suddenly have to go out urgently and he did not even tell me the place, just tell me gotta meet his boss and colleague. I onli found out wer he was when I asked him.
3. Today I just wanna check his phone, I saw phone lock but he tell me its to prevent my #2 dear daughter from deleting his stuff which its true , bcoz she accidentally deleted
our #1 dear daughter video which he didn't back up.
But sumhow I just feel sumthing not right... Oh ya, and lately to add on, he keep snapping at me which he seldom does. But this 1 month, he snapped at me almost 10 times. I dont know is it bcoz he is stressed up or what as now we have no maid coming to 1 month and i have been nagging at him to help...
you see, for every movement or action he makes me suspect, I will sought of have a reason or excuse to cover up. I dont know if its me worrying too much?
I think your hubby could be having stress of... work... the 3 kids... n the wifeSpiralng,
Yup... I will observe first... Me treat him nicer? Haha, now I dont know how, I'm angry with him still for snapping at me...
agree strongly!I think your hubby could be having stress of... work... the 3 kids... and the wife
Human behaviour...
- If you snap at me... I will snap back at you.
- The hubby wants to take a break when he comes back from a day's work.
- The wife expects the hubby to help out and attend to the kids when he comes back from work.
- The kids get nottier... the parents get angrier.
Mis-match expectations and mis-communications...
i agree cos being a FTWM sometimes after work i go home and still got so many things to do i tend to feel stress and irritated too...I think your hubby could be having stress of... work... the 3 kids... and the wife
Human behaviour...
- If you snap at me... I will snap back at you.
- The hubby wants to take a break when he comes back from a day's work.
- The wife expects the hubby to help out and attend to the kids when he comes back from work.
- The kids get nottier... the parents get angrier.
Mis-match expectations and mis-communications...
I also buay tahan ppl nag at me... just say it once... I not stupid ok?agree strongly!
sometimes my mum also like that when we were younger.
she will keep on nag at my dad til he bth then end up quarrel.
lol, but on my side, is my bf do everything for me n nag me!!!!!I also buay tahan ppl nag at me... just say it once... I not stupid ok?
and the expectation for immediate action... duh... call 999 also have to wait...
Aiyo! *shakes head*urm...
you know why he snap at me at times, bcoz when I nag at him to help, I am disturbing his GAMING session!
Hi Spiralng, actually that sounds like a good one. But what if instead of passing you the hp straight, he presses some buttons first? (To unlock, press 2 buttons right? He can just as easily & quickly delete some numbers first before passing hp to his wife...)Sorry...i dont agreed you should chat with your hubby first. However...I do agreed that you should observe. It's pointless to confront them when you have no evidence. you just put them on their guard. In the meantime, dont't argue...and voice your suspicion.
If you want to check his hp and he set his password, make sure your hp low batt when you guys are outside then tell him you need to make an urgent call. when he unlock his phone, go to message. But you have to do it very fast or else he suspect.