TTCing/MTB married to 'Ang Moh'

[chrish]

TTCing/MTB married to spouse of different cultures/background

hihi!

will be nice to connect to other TTcing/MTB Singaporean ladies married to spouse of another culture/background thru here in MummySG

A short intro, im married to a norwegian way back in 2007 and now TTCing..no news yet though

 

[meiteoh]

Re: TTCing/MTB married to spouse of different cultures/background

Hi girl...

I'm not Singaporean; am Malaysian-Chinese and married to a French in 2007. Got preggers in 2008 and gave birth to my daugther in 2009.

Don't get stressed out, ya? Your turn will come!

 

[chrish]

Hi MeiTeoh!

Thanks! Saw your blog. It was great with nice wedding pictures, i love your wedding cheong sam btw! Hehe..how old is your bb girl now?

 

[chrish]

hehe i just saw your signature that your bb is 7 mths :shyxxx: LOL...so what are the challenges raising a child in a dual language environment? Do you guys speak french at home?

 

[meiteoh]

No worries! We speak English at home but my hubby talks to Eva in French. Well, it CAN be challenging but only if you want your child to speak several languages; otherwise, it can be just like any other non-dual language family. My hubby's friend who is French and married to a Malaysian speaks to his five yo daugther in Singlish-French. She can understand basic French but will not answer and my hubby's friend doesn't see the importance in changing the status quo (the daughter holds a French passport but doesn't speak French - funny, no?).

 

[chrish]

I suppose also children will learn language fast giving the right environment anyway im really feeling homesick these days *sigh* hope my sis will come soon...she's coming by in may to august! Im really looking forward for some 'sisters time' It's nice that you're living in SG not far from Malaysia..hehe actually very near! That's good cos familywise, near to visit each other comes CNY or just a quick visitation, and foodwise, can satisfy food cravings too hehe ;P

 

[Amulet]

hehe i just saw your signature that your baby is 7 mths :shyxxx: LOL...so what are the challenges raising a child in a dual language environment? Do you guys speak french at home?

i thought singaporeans all grew up in dual/multi language family? wat's there to worry..

 

[meiteoh]

i thought singaporeans all grew up in dual/multi language family? wat's there to worry..

There's a difference!

For my family, we grew up speaking rojak language, learning mostly at home.

With most angmoh families, they learn a single language at home and most of other languages in school - which is optional.

So with the case with the TS and myself who are both married to angmohs, the challenge is how to balance both without any problems for the child.

Was told by linguistic specialists for kids to have one parent speak one language and another parent speak another language. This was confirmed again by my paed - to lessen confusion when picking up words from either language.

 

[BeingSingle]

hi hi,

i am singaporean, partner is canadian, living in Shanghai mostly but i travel back to SG every couple of months. i grew up in a 100% english speaking home coz i am a peranakan and before i came to work in Shanghai, my chinese is almost zero..nearly failed chinese in school...

the people in shanghai not only speak chinese but they speak the shanghainese dialect, so my daughter will be exposed to many languages and also the local dialect..which i think is a good think coz this way, she can learn many cultures and languages..

it is sometimes challenging to try to incorporate different languages and cultures and sometimes i get really torn between which is the main culture i want her to adopt. the singaporean chinese way or the 'ang moh' way...what are your views?

 

[meiteoh]

hi hi,

i am singaporean, partner is canadian, living in Shanghai mostly but i travel back to SG every couple of months. i grew up in a 100% english speaking home coz i am a peranakan and before i came to work in Shanghai, my chinese is almost zero..nearly failed chinese in school...

the people in shanghai not only speak chinese but they speak the shanghainese dialect, so my daughter will be exposed to many languages and also the local dialect..which i think is a good think coz this way, she can learn many cultures and languages..

it is sometimes challenging to try to incorporate different languages and cultures and sometimes i get really torn between which is the main culture i want her to adopt. the singaporean chinese way or the 'ang moh' way...what are your views?

Honestly, I don't see why we have to separate the "Singaporean-Chinese" or "Angmoh" way. In this day and age of globalisation, can we really say that there is any difference? In my family at least, there isn't - in fact, my hubby's family is much more close-knit, modest and respectful of each other than my own family and my relatives!

I prefer to teach my children good values from both cultures - independence, passion in life, consideration of others, and so forth - rather than just limit myself to "Chinese-Malaysia" or "angmoh". That's the beauty of being in a multi-racial/ethnic relationship.

 

[pixie]

Pardon my ignorance. What is TTCing?

My spouse is British but has lived in Australia long enough to become a citizen. My baby is now 2.5 months old.

 

[mamapenguin]

TTC= Trying to conceive.

My 2yrs 9mths daughter speaks a mishmash of English, Malay and Danish, and she learns Mandarin in school. She speaks different languages to different members of the family. Main language is English though.

 

[pixie]

Thanks for the explanation. I am kind of bad in guessing acronym.

 

[chrish]

hey ladies...wow..long time since i'm here..how is everyone?

im expecting my 1st Edd 25th August 2012!! A dragon bb! anyone have any good interesting sites online to share for buying maternity clothes esp suited for cold weather?

 

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