Useless Ex Hubby

carolchng

New Member
Hi mummies, I need some advises from you as I really dont't know how to help my aunty.
She is already divorced with her useless hubby but still staying together. A hubby that never work for many years, everyday take money from her to gamble, buy cigarette. If wife dont't give, he will go her workplace make trouble for her, shouting at her in public. They have 2 children, 19 and 16 yrs old. both are still studying and they are the one who persuade their mum to leave their dad.
So now the hubby want 50% of the money if they sell their house. but contribution wise, the hubby only pay 20k and wife paid 100+k by cpf when they bought the house and monthly deduction is from wife's cpf account. My aunt is still waiting for the judge decision regarding the housing matter because she dont't want to give 50% to her ex hubby and kids custody will go to my aunt.
2 days ago, while we are having dinner, the hubby went to the coffeeshop and keep shouting at her to ask her go hm to see agent and sign the agreement form to sell the house so they can split 50% each but my aunt doesn't want to sign. So he begin making a did not at the coffeeshop, i called the police and they escort him home and warn him not to come down to the coffeeshop again but 5 mins later, he came down again and shout at me saying who am i to interfere their domestic problem. I told him, they are already divorce and this is counted as harrassment so I call the police again and he ran away. When i ask the police for advice, they say they can't do anything at all!! The only thing i can do is to file a civil suit against him for threatening me in public. In this case, what can my aunty do to prevent him from harassing her again.
This morning, my god daughter called me again telling me their dad is banging their door , shouting at them and their mum is not around. So i advise her to lock their room and call the police.
Every 2-3 days, he will stalk his wife, following her around and shouting at her in public because he owe credit company and loanshark money and he want to borrow money from her to pay all the debts.
If engage a lawyer to sue him, i think it will cause my aunty to spend more money and it's also useless right?
I really hope he can just vanish from the earth so that my aunty will have a peaceful life. :shyxxx::shyxxx::shyxxx:
 
ya police usually cannot help much. A lot of times they will tell you there is nothing much they can do. They can only help you do a police report. That's it.
 

carolchng

New Member
Mu aunty can't apply for personal protection coz they are not related anymore. But i'm not sure if children can apply anot.
 

edy

Administrator
Staff member
I am sure your aunty is able to report to police as harassment and her life is endangered.

Police would be able to help.
 

hpc

Member
Why ur aunty can't apply for protection?Whenever he harass her record them down using handphone etc,prove it to family court,if not seek help from MP from ur place.As for sale of property if have that show ur aunty is paying most of the installment can fight for pay him only what he pay out .
 

Ting

Well-Known Member
personal protection order not necessary must be related then can apply.. if he is harassing her, she can apply...
 

lyra

Member
If I'm not wrong, the kids can apply for personal protection order and domestic exclusion order. If he comes anywhere within a few metres of the flat they stay in, he can be arrested immediately. But in order for that to happen, both the children and him has to go to court. Think the children can apply as they are still related. And they can prove he has caused emotional stress to them.

The best person to talk about this to is to a family service centre counsellor. Hope he wake up from his idea.
 

carolchng

New Member
She tried many times to apply for personal protection but still can't. police report made many times whenever her ex hubby stalk and shout at her in public. They are still staying together because they haven't sell their house yet. I've spoken to their children regarding on applying personal protection but I'm not sure how they gonna apply as the son have police case of hitting his dad as his son really can't take it anymore. His only mindset was to protect his mum thus beat his dad up whenever he shout and make trouble for them at home, accusing my aunty have affair with other guys outside. Once the wife was at the bank and he secretly follow her and wait outside the bank, then he saw a guy standing there and he shout loudly at the guy, saying he got an affair with his wife.. zzzzz
Sometimes when they are still sleeping, he would purposely shout and bang the door like a lunatic.
Police told his dad coz his son is only 16 years old so they can't charge him. His dad shout at his son in public saying he want to ruin his future by telling his school and everyone that he bash his own father up. he want to make sure his son go to jail.
This is the 1st time i had ever seen such a father...
 

hpc

Member
If possible record the whole scene with ur h/p whenever he make a fuss ,ofcos don't let him see u recording.Retape them to a vcd,can use them as proof of harrassment n mental torture,see wheather can apply for human protection.Jia u Jia u.
 
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