What makes u decide to be a SAHM and any regrets?
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jeSsie_Dz
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the acheivement and closeness of my kiddos .. so when im preg wit number 2.. makes me even have to be a SAHM.. cox if i go work also not worth it liao.. pay all goes to infant care /nanny for TWO.. so i rather look after by myself since i dun reali trust someone i dunno.. but wil start work once my no.2 reach 18mths.. 
I become SAHM when my #1 is 4mths (now 26mths), cos i believe i am the best person who can take the job of looking after her...later my #2 (now 8mths) came by...i plan to wait till both of them are big enough to stay with the maid, then i go back to work...hmm...mayb another 2-3yr...
huiling
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agree to wat DZ say,giving my pay to e nanny/childcare.me stop work since i get married,then e 2nd yr have my 1st bb(going 3yr old).nw my 2nd bb going 8mths liao.the acheivement and closeness of my kiddos .. so when im preg wit number 2.. makes me even have to be a SAHM.. cox if i go work also not worth it liao.. pay all goes to infant care /nanny for TWO.. so i rather look after by myself since i dun reali trust someone i dunno.. but wil start work once my no.2 reach 18mths..
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Ting
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i agree with mae n julee.. it's really fulfilling to be a SAHM..though is tiring la..but it's so great to watch her grow n do silly things.. then get all excited calling everyone up to tell them wad she did~ hehe.. but i wud like to go out n work too..so tt i can earn more money to buy her more things...sumtyms go shopping see so many things oso cant buy...sadz...
jeSsie_Dz
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imagine i work get paid only 1.2k per mth ..then minus off 1st kid-childcare $400 then 2nd kid-nanny/infant care $600.. duhz.. i only left $200 for my own expenses lor.. daily transport to work n lunching out.. i spend more than tat liao.. plus all the stress frm work,cant watch kiddos thru their milestones.. unless i have a $2k above job.. then at least worth workin for the expenses and helpin in household lor..
jedamum
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imagine i work to get paid in excess of $3k......then i give it all up to stay at home.....next time my boys better don't dump me at the old folks home cos i didn't dump them at childcare centre.
jeSsie_Dz
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:tlaugh::tlaugh::tlaugh:imagine i work to get paid in excess of $3k......then i give it all up to stay at home.....next time my boys better don't dump me at the old folks home cos i didn't dump them at childcare centre.
i tried being SAHM, end up cancelled my leave after 2 days n went back to work plus e fact tt i had maid at tt time some more....oopppss....
v fulfilling to see his first times, but i dun have e patience to look after him, esp since i would prefer some 'alone' time to do my own things like surf web, read books....
i prefer working, mayb cos for me i can come home @ 3pm daily, onli gone to work for half e day? n work can b quite relaxing
plus e fact tt i had maid at tt time some more....oopppss....v fulfilling to see his first times, but i dun have e patience to look after him, esp since i would prefer some 'alone' time to do my own things like surf web, read books....
i prefer working, mayb cos for me i can come home @ 3pm daily, onli gone to work for half e day? n work can b quite relaxing
XiaoXue
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I was a SAHM since skye was born till he's 14 mths. During this time I still went to private sch to study during the daytime.. It really wonderful to see his 1st step & 1st try in everythings.. But after i gradz.. of cos I gonna find a job to support the family too.. Finally now almost 4 years of hardwork.. my salary is above $2k+.. DH & mine salary combined is of reasonable amount and we have only a kid.. thus not so stress.. but in SG.. money is always not enuff.. being a parents is nv easy.. =D
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Whether full time working mother, or stay at home mother. Neither is better than another. Important thing is enjoying your duties, and give your best to the choice you made.
Ting
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imagine i work to get paid in excess of $3k......then i give it all up to stay at home.....next time my boys better don't dump me at the old folks home cos i didn't dump them at childcare centre.
LOL..awww...noble mummy..must always remind ya boys when they get big~
Ting
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i totally agree...i really wanna go out work! *sobs*
Ting
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yes sir!~:tlaugh::tlaugh::tlaugh:
I am a SAHM with first born 5+ months bb girl.
From the beginning I always wanted to work not because I prefer work, but the fact that I always have been independent, I help my family a lot and happy about it and can do whatever I please with my own money.
Now that I am with bb, I feel useless, and my life is not productive.
Not a day go by without me checking out the job search for any good position out there.
Once I went to Interview last month and had mixed feelings about leaving bb with someone else care.
I will miss her a lot and all her milestones.
Now even the interview wasn't a success, I feel I am not missing out that much, because I can spend more time with my bb.
being both SAHM or FTWM is hard, sacrifices either way. Sometimes I have to remind myself to stop worrying and live the moment, take advantage of the time that I have with the bb and make it productive.
It is very hard, when money is the constant reminder.
I just hope all the sacrifices doesn't go in vain, just like we all wish upon our kids.
From the beginning I always wanted to work not because I prefer work, but the fact that I always have been independent, I help my family a lot and happy about it and can do whatever I please with my own money.
Now that I am with bb, I feel useless, and my life is not productive.
Not a day go by without me checking out the job search for any good position out there.
Once I went to Interview last month and had mixed feelings about leaving bb with someone else care.
I will miss her a lot and all her milestones.
Now even the interview wasn't a success, I feel I am not missing out that much, because I can spend more time with my bb.
being both SAHM or FTWM is hard, sacrifices either way. Sometimes I have to remind myself to stop worrying and live the moment, take advantage of the time that I have with the bb and make it productive.
It is very hard, when money is the constant reminder.
I just hope all the sacrifices doesn't go in vain, just like we all wish upon our kids.