I become SAHM when my #1 is 4mths (now 26mths), cos i believe i am the best person who can take the job of looking after her...later my #2 (now 8mths) came by...i plan to wait till both of them are big enough to stay with the maid, then i go back to work...hmm...mayb another 2-3yr...
I am in dilemma now whether to be SAHM. So long never work, not worry cannot find job or pay cut and gotta start all over?
Hi, I have a girl, 8 yrs old. And a baby boy, turning 1 yr old next week.hi there, im also new to this forum.. tomorrow i will be officially SAHM.. hope things goes well for me.. as for you.. how old is your kid now?
Hi, I'm very new to this forum as well. But I have been a SAHM for more than 6 years now. I'm so bored at home. I felt that I'm always facing my children all the time, I just dun have the time for myself anymore.During that 6 years of staying at home looking after my children, I went on a part-time course for 3 years. So at least time just flew by quickly. But now, I'm at home 24-7. I'm just going insane.
I love to be there for my kids, but I would also love to have time for myself. I also hate to be a burden to my husband. I have been trying to look for ways to earn extra cash for myself. I dun need to earn alot, but enough for me to spend on myself n kids. At least I got something to do n to socialise. I feel so lonely at home.
dump at childcare centre? hmmm...i thought that was too strong a word to use.imagine i work to get paid in excess of $3k......then i give it all up to stay at home.....next time my boys better dont't dump me at the old folks home cos i didn't dump them at childcare centre.
Hi TumiMummy,Hi babyk2003, i can fully understand how u feel! i'm also new to this forum... i used to be in a corporate job but gave up my job recently. now in my last trimester now & had a 19mth old.
You feel more better to take care of your own children rather than maids or in-laws/parents/ hired nanny.... yes it does get BORED at times but you make arrangements to go out to take a breather while your hubby take over the kids... Money can always earn back... for now, let urself to enjoy being pamper by hubby as a SAHM.
hopefully, he'll listen. Sometimes, i jus felt like whatever i say is not important to him.Hi babyk2003,
it'll be good if your hubby is willing to have a heart to heart talk with you....yes he deserves a good rest after a long day at work...but gently remind him..being a SAHM is a 24/7 job.... u r still working when he is off work.. with no compensation and benefits... once a while he take over is reasonable.. u can go to have a good spa massage or meal with your old frens... when u're refreshed and recharged... isn't it better for your hubby & your children?
Job-wise... shld not be a worry if u dont hv too high demands / expectations... some companies prefers women who decided to re-enter the workforce... more willing to work than existing working women / fresh graduates...
Hi TumiMummy,Hi babyk2003, dun bother abt those working frens.... those who said SAHMs are lazy ; they are just ignorant and narrow minded. which mother dun want to have her own income and buy whatever she wants. Each of us is in different situations and not all can continue working. These working frens are not in the right position to critise u. Time will tell that u hv made the right decision to nurture your children on your own instead of focus on working full time.