Who went in with u to the labour room?

trendy

New Member
I'm gg thru divorce now as my hubby beat me when i'm 4mths pregrant not only tat he took all my $ and he got women outside! I'm now 35wks really dun hw i stay on till tis long.. Hve been crying since till nw... Veri veri depress..Anyway i will cut short my painful story. Right now i was thinking of gg thru birth alone cos my mum will faint if she see blood!! I was thinking can i handle by myself or do i really nid someone by my side when i'm giving birth?
 

sugarcookie

Active Member
I'm sorry for what happened to you trendy... but focus on your bundle of joy for now! You will see him/her very soon!

I'm due in early April and will most likely be in the labour room on my own. My husband works overseas and as the EDD is just an estimation, he can't take so many days of leave to wait for me to pop. My mother is just like yours; she will faint if she sees blood too!!

So I'm wondering if it is possible to go through labour alone as well...
 
my mum pass away when im abt 1 week pregnant and bf is in jail -.- so haf to go thru alone bcos mum is no longer there. been reading abt all the story of birth experience and getting scare!
 

CanCanMum

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Right now i was thinking of gg thru birth alone cos my mum will faint if she see blood!! I was thinking can i handle by myself or do i really nid someone by my side when i'm giving birth?
if u are planning to take epidural, its all fine to handle it alone coz u wont feel any pain.

if u are planning to go without epidural, it may or may not be. COz there will be senior staff nurses there to guide u thru the process.

i went thru my last most unbearable 20 mins of labour pains alone with the staff nurse coz my DH din want to see the birth process. But to me they are there for you to squeeze their hands like in movies only. But practically the companion cannot do anything except see and give u mental support only....its fine to go thru alone babe.

u + nurse + gynae = 3 pax. Plus the nurse is helpful and experienced.
 
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lis

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my mum pass away when im abt 1 week pregnant and bf is in jail -.- so haf to go thru alone bcos mum is no longer there. been reading abt all the story of birth experience and getting scare!

i pity u gal..hope everiting goes smoothly for u..
 

wenz

Member
ya if u opt for natural w/o epi u'll be too painful to know ur hubby pressence during the last 15-20mins... my hubby can only stood there and do nothing... he do feel abit helpless and see me screaming... thou he may try to console u, but seriously u r too painful find the words touching...

i believe u can do it! tat is why mums are soooo 'WEI DA'...
cos we make impossible, possible !!
jia you gals..
 

asl_6886

Member
no worry sis...

go in alone... come out in pair!

u can always use the phone in rm... thats wat i did.. i called my mom...
i think once you in pain you also dun bother who is beside you... one thing inside your mind is to quickly give birth so everything settle.. my first one i use my hp earpiece to call my hubby cos hubby stuck in traffic jam and there's nothing he can do anyway..with or without someone, the one who go thru the pain is u so dun worry ok..
 

Dave_Pearlyn

New Member
trendy u can do it alone! evrytig will be fine even without any man stand beside you! The most impt u mus had confident in urself! The moment e babies is out u wont feel anytig but happy when u heard ur baby crying ") u will be safe...
 

trendy

New Member
Tks everyone, to tell the truth i am veri scare and nw i even cry when u guys respond back. Y is my husband doin all tis to me y? y? y? I know it's bad for my baby tat i cry everyday but i cant help. I really feel so hopeless..
 

wenz

Member
Tks everyone, to tell the truth i am veri scare and nw i even cry when u guys respond back. Y is my husband doin all tis to me y? y? y? I know it's bad for my baby tat i cry everyday but i cant help. I really feel so hopeless..

Hey gal u have to be strong for ur baby, especially u r now nearing your EDD... I used to be a single mum too, and a very young one...

I raise my boy up all by myself till he was 5yrs old den i remarried and found a good hubby.... the motivation for me to handle this alone was my son... i work hard for him and raise him up and well...
he is a very independant kid cos he knows i sacrified alot for him and he loved me very much...

so u have to live for you baby... all u have to think of now is how to raise him, give him a good and proper life instead thinking of tat man who betray u... after ur baby is born u'll be busy occupied by looking after baby so you wun have time to thinking so much...

Jia You k!
 

CanCanMum

Moderator
Tks everyone, to tell the truth i am veri scare and nw i even cry when u guys respond back. Y is my husband doin all tis to me y? y? y? I know it's bad for my baby tat i cry everyday but i cant help. I really feel so hopeless..
hi trendy no worries....possible to have computer access in labour ward??? U can msn or go forum.....chat w me!!! hahaha

msn : cancanmum@hotmail.com
 
i use cry a lot when preg... end up my boy bit whiny..... hahahaha

in the olden days, man also don't go into labor with the woman.... so don't think so much........

My boy is 8 this year.... and I am still single...... but who cares? :p
 

CanCanMum

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yeah true true....my mums time she oso gave birth alone....no epidural no laughing gas practically nothing......
 

lis

Well-Known Member
i use cry a lot when preg... end up my boy bit whiny..... hahahaha

in the olden days, man also don't go into labor with the woman.... so don't think so much........

My boy is 8 this year.... and I am still single...... but who cares? :p

wow..!! ur boy oleady 8 n u're still single..? tat's great..!! hehe..

sumtyms i wish i was still single..so i can do aniting i wan..! hmm..~~

trendy,sorie to probe..but y ur hb beat u....?

pprincesslynn,y ur bf went to jail..? no offense..
 
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wow..!! ur boy oleady 8 n u're still single..? tat's great..!! hehe..

sumtyms i wish i was still single..so i can do aniting i wan..! hmm..~~

trendy,sorie to probe..but y ur hb beat u....?

pprincesslynn,y ur bf went to jail..? no offense..
hmmmm what's so great abt being single?

Just that no one interested in me.... and I got no time to go out to socialise..... too busy with family and work......

though I find having a hb can be troublesome at times... but sometime, i do wanna find a companion...... but too bad then.... not worrying bout it.... at least i still have a kid to worry about at the moment
 

asl_6886

Member
trendy, i come from a single parent family... sometimes i pity my mum cos she have to be father and mother to the two of us at the same time, then have to work to send us to school.. my father too got a woman outside...you have to be strong for ur child.. and always remember the good ones will always be blessed...the journey always full of ups and downs and now my mum she's got a new loving hubby, 2 loving children who cares about her and 1 cute granddaughter who loves her(one more on the way).. take care friend (sorry, out of topic a bit hehehe)
 

Catty

Member
Hi Trendy,

Your situation is the same as my elder sis, my sis left her husband when she's 5 mths pregnant, she use to be like you now feel depressed and keep on crying, at that point of time i also just got pregnant with my 2nd DD and not working so i will try to accompany her, planning to accompany her to the labour room but who knows when i was in the cab on the way to KKH, she had already gave birth to my niece! (Too late to see the whole procedure) :001_07:

After she gave birth, i'm also the only 1 who accompany her to helpout in her confinement, help to look after my niece all this even when she's back to work, i also help to take care of her niece by my own till when i'm going to gave birth to my 2nd DD than she put my niece under nanny care..

Now my niece is already 28 months, both my sis and her daughter now having a happy life on their own without a "guy" by their side.

So i hope you will think of the brighter side, try to forget the unhappiness once your baby is born and the time when they slowly grow up, you will feel is great as you have a darling baby to be by your side..
 
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