crystalpink
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I strongly agree with PinkDiamonds! My hubby has been travelling for many yrs since our courtship days till married. I don't think he has the time to build a new relationship in such a short period of time like 5 days or a wk. Plus minus off the 1st 2 days of travelling time left abt 3 or 5 days..but frankly speaking i will only get "a bit" concern if he is to travel with his female colleague 2gether. But most of the time he is travelling alone..n some more is for work not holidays. Maybe i hv already got use to this lifestyle so now im not in doubt with him, since he always has a "clean record" unless i discover any unusual sms..then that is another story.Gem, I think perhaps you can start changing your mindset a bit. From reading your posts all I saw was, "I can't do this, I can't do that." You are a mom now and your daughter relies on you, so you need to start telling yourself, "I can do this, I can do that." I am seeing a lot of negativity and doubt.
If you are going to doubt your husband, thinking what if he stray, go out with his guy colleagues and do "evil things," then honestly I don't know why you chose to get married with him. Like a PP said, if he really wants to stray, even if he stays in Singapore he will do it. And I want to emphasize that you shouldn't let your fear and "what ifs" control you and make it lose trust in your husband. So what if other people end up in divorce because the wife trust her husband too much? Does this mean the husband have an affair because it's the wife fault? There are also couples who end up in divorce because the husband feel that his wife control him too much, even though he never do anything unfaithful. You are only digging a hole for your own marriage for something that hasn't happened.
He has not even done anything unfaithful to you yet. If he has done before then I would understand your doubts and worries. Marriage is all about trust, loyalty and communication.
I know it's not an overnight thing, but do make an attempt. I think as time goes by and you slowly gain more confidence in being a mommy, you will believe you can. You can constantly remind him that now his role is not only as a husband, he is also now a father and things will change.
Don't forget that all mommies here have a superpower, we're all very strong people! With the right mindset, I'm sure you can do a lot of things too!