cocraze
Active Member
Hi all,
I'm a first time mummy. girl now coming to 2.5 months. I've been her main caregiver since my confinement lady left in late Jan 2010. I'm a brand new stay at home mum as I resigned mid last year.
Just been feeling so frustrated (at others and especially at myself) the past weeks cos I've been feeling so inadequate at taking care of baby and perhaps ultra-sensitive to others' comments and actions around me. I feel as if advice given to me has the intonation/tone of someone chiding me, as if they mean "I told you so!". Initially, I also grudged that inlaws would hurry to pick baby when she fussed, cos I hated that it would become a habit which I can't keep up with eventually when me, hubby and baby move to our own place.
Sometimes, I wonder whether I flare up more because of the people (not my baby) around me. The pattern seems to be that I flare my temper or say something sarcastic/insensitive/disrespectful, and then later, I get so angry with myself for doing so... But I can't seem to get out of the pattern even though I KNOW, deep within myself, that Im WRONG to be so rude. I feel so negative sometimes about this that I cry... I feel as though things are made worse cos there is an adult around me to vent my frustrations and anger upon, rather than if I were alone at home with baby.
If given a choice, would you rather be a stay at home mum ALONE with your baby, or with another/other caregiver(s), e.g. your parent(s) or parent(s)-in-law. I mean during the daytime, assuming hubby is back from work at night.
ps: Im just posting this to see if anyone else had the same experience, and whether its something that we women feel as a result of being stay at home mum.
I'm a first time mummy. girl now coming to 2.5 months. I've been her main caregiver since my confinement lady left in late Jan 2010. I'm a brand new stay at home mum as I resigned mid last year.
Just been feeling so frustrated (at others and especially at myself) the past weeks cos I've been feeling so inadequate at taking care of baby and perhaps ultra-sensitive to others' comments and actions around me. I feel as if advice given to me has the intonation/tone of someone chiding me, as if they mean "I told you so!". Initially, I also grudged that inlaws would hurry to pick baby when she fussed, cos I hated that it would become a habit which I can't keep up with eventually when me, hubby and baby move to our own place.
Sometimes, I wonder whether I flare up more because of the people (not my baby) around me. The pattern seems to be that I flare my temper or say something sarcastic/insensitive/disrespectful, and then later, I get so angry with myself for doing so... But I can't seem to get out of the pattern even though I KNOW, deep within myself, that Im WRONG to be so rude. I feel so negative sometimes about this that I cry... I feel as though things are made worse cos there is an adult around me to vent my frustrations and anger upon, rather than if I were alone at home with baby.
If given a choice, would you rather be a stay at home mum ALONE with your baby, or with another/other caregiver(s), e.g. your parent(s) or parent(s)-in-law. I mean during the daytime, assuming hubby is back from work at night.
ps: Im just posting this to see if anyone else had the same experience, and whether its something that we women feel as a result of being stay at home mum.