pink_daisy
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hi all,
does your mil stay with u n sometimes, your hubby n u fall out becoz of her?
does your mil stay with u n sometimes, your hubby n u fall out becoz of her?
I think for me is the other way. My husband and MIL fall out becos of me. Bascially, I am quite a netural person. So whatever method or ways MIL wan, I just follow. My husband hv his own way of thinking. If I am caught in the middle, will get husband to go and thrash out with his mum and just let me know the conclusion.hi all,
does your mil stay with u n sometimes, your hubby n u fall out becoz of her?
i dun stay with my inlawsbut your hubby sounds juz like my hubby, will side me but hackcare type, when i complain abt his mum, he can say'aiya shes like tat 1 la' & no action taken. his mum knows my hubby is very easy-going & chin chye type, & she can tel him cannot everything give in to me & complain im so fussy!HI....i am stayin w/ mil..... problems after problems. my hubby n i always fall out bcoz of her. my hubby is those hackcare type, he stil will stand by my side(but w/ no action taken). he will ask me to ignore his mum al tat but stt his mum is too much. Actually i oso didnt wan him to confront his mum or wat, i juz nd a listening ear. coz his mum always nag or do certain things when he is nt ard, so i cant expect my hubby to do anythin too (if nt she will noe i complain) haiz... is reali hard living w/ her...
i oso quarrelled with dh over my mil till almost divorce.. even if his mum is in the wrong, he oso cant do anything. tat time, i was in confinement period after delivering dd.. i told him to choose between his mum n me... he didnt take any actions so i smsed my sis-inlaws tat dh n i r divorcing coz of their mum...in the end, they brought mil to stay with one of mil's daughters (she stays next blk across the street)... nw dh feels he's an unfillial son n things haven been gg well between dh n me.. there seem to hv some thorns between us.We r staying wif my in laws so it is unavoidable to quarrel wif my dh over my mil. Especially during last yr, i even almost wan to divorce wif my dh bcoz of my mil~
To be frank even though i am in the same shoes as u but i would nt ask him to choose between his mom or me. How to choose? 1 is wife tat is giving him children while another 1 is sum1 who gif birth to him n even raise him up. Of coz he will feel unfilliali oso quarrelled with dh over my mil till almost divorce.. even if his mum is in the wrong, he oso cant do anything. tat time, i was in confinement period after delivering dd.. i told him to choose between his mum n me... he didnt take any actions so i smsed my sis-inlaws tat dh n i r divorcing coz of their mum...in the end, they brought mil to stay with one of mil's daughters (she stays next blk across the street)... nw dh feels he's an unfillial son n things haven been gg well between dh n me.. there seem to hv some thorns between us.
OMG tt's TOO DANGEROUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!sometimes these mother-inlaws n father-inlaws very stubborn one..they feel they had been thr b4 thus able to handle things better than us so they do not accept watever we said... when my ds was abt 6mths old, mil took care care of him..one day, while preparing for his morning bath in those traditional red colour 'bath tub' (especially for babies type), she dropped ds in the toilet n my ds got a big 'bun' on his forehead!!!! she said that as ds was crying, she couldn't leave him in the playpen or the babycot so she had to carry him in one hand n on the other hand, she was carrying a hot kettle of hot water... the older folks like to boil water over the gas stove n use the hot water to prepare hot bath for baby instead of using the water from water heater... u see la! wat if she slipped n fell n the hot water poured onto both of them????!!! brainless old woman!!always assuming she's right..........after tat incident, how to trust her to handle things well?? she told dh she hugged ds n cried (wat's the point of crying??!!!) dh didnt blame her or anything... he didnt say anything!!!!!!
To be frank even though i am in the same shoes as u but i would nt ask him to choose between his mom or me. How to choose? 1 is wife tat is giving him children while another 1 is sum1 who gif birth to him n even raise him up. Of coz he will feel unfillial
yup! i was so stunned n upset when i saw my ds's big bun.... he's only 6mths old....... i really wan to strangle her then! so brainless....... it doesnt hurt to let him cry for a while.....juz go prepare the bath then carry him up.... btw, she keeps saying her leg pain here n there...u noe la, old folks usually got leg pain or knee problem so the possibility that she might dropped the hot water kettle is not zero.OMG tt's TOO DANGEROUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:nah: u should tel yr mil off!yup! i was so stunned n upset when i saw my ds's big bun.... he's only 6mths old....... i really wan to strangle her then! so brainless....... it doesnt hurt to let him cry for a while.....juz go prepare the bath then carry him up.... btw, she keeps saying her leg pain here n there...u noe la, old folks usually got leg pain or knee problem so the possibility that she might dropped the hot water kettle is not zero.
sometimes these mother-inlaws n father-inlaws very stubborn one..they feel they had been thr b4 thus able to handle things better than us so they do not accept watever we said... when my ds was abt 6mths old, mil took care care of him..one day, while preparing for his morning bath in those traditional red colour 'bath tub' (especially for babies type), she dropped ds in the toilet n my ds got a big 'bun' on his forehead!!!! she said that as ds was crying, she couldn't leave him in the playpen or the babycot so she had to carry him in one hand n on the other hand, she was carrying a hot kettle of hot water... the older folks like to boil water over the gas stove n use the hot water to prepare hot bath for baby instead of using the water from water heater... u see la! wat if she slipped n fell n the hot water poured onto both of them????!!! brainless old woman!!always assuming she's right..........after tat incident, how to trust her to handle things well?? she told dh she hugged ds n cried (wat's the point of crying??!!!) dh didnt blame her or anything... he didnt say anything!!!!!!