Simple Mum21
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Dear all,
PLease bare with me and my story. I dont know from where to start but lets begin...
I am a stay at home mum for past 2 years+. I got married at the age on 19 and have my 1st baby boy at the stage of 20. i knew my hubby so called bf before the marriage so later we decided to get married and start a new life. In other way i wanted to run away from my problems related to my parents. I did not wanted to stay with them.
My parents are divorced and have a really bad experience for my 19 years of life. In short My Ex father is a womanizer and my mom just wants more and more bfs. And i have 2 other younger brother who is now 18 and 11 and i am22. So after the divorced we all stay together with my mum in a one room flat which is a HDB subs flat.
My hubby and i wanted to save money by staying with my mom. we thought this would reduce the amount of spending and save more. but its the opposite. My hubby has to pay for all the utility bill, phn bill, house rent,foods, baby items etc ect. Now our son is 20 month old and i am becoming crazzy... coz we need the saving for our babys future.
I want to work to help my hubby but no one to take care of my son. cause my mother wants to work. She dnt wnt to stay at home so i am left with no choice but to take care of my baby.
Sometime i feel so frustrated that i beat my son if he does something which irritates me. I seems to become a crazy woman. I dont know how to control my anger. I have tolerated so much in my life that now i cant tolerate anything anymore. In dont have a helping hand. From morning to night only i am the one who is doing all the house cores and taking care of baby but when my mother comes home at night, she can do little bit of the work to help me out. but no she is like a queen. and i am the maid to do all the work by my self.
so saterday and sunday i wish to get some help from my hubby to take care of the baby and i do rest of the work. but sometime hubby also complain that i dont give him time to rest. what i expect from him is that either saterday or Sunday for sometime he can bring the baby out so tht i can review myself of what i am doing and what should i do. but i cnt coz he dnt wnt to help me.
before our marriage he had made so many promises to me but now it seems like he has forgotten all.
Even nowadays he says that i am mad. he hates me. the whole day i wait for his sms but he wont. he says he is busy with work. he dnt even buy me gifts on valentines day or anniversary day or birthday! i love gifts but i dnt receive anything! when i am angry with him, i expect him to console me but he dont. in other way he would say i behave like my mom. i am like my mom. as if he got a chance to blame me linking my parents...
what should i do ? you tell me? sometime i become so depressed that i cry out myself when i am in shower or later at night when all are sleeping. i cant find any solution.
I dont have a house. Dont have a proper family, nobody to help or listen to my problems, mentally sick , i have no source of income, no fun in life...what am i supposed to do? sometime when i am alone at home, i feel like commit suicide coz nobody loves me noone cares about me. i just want to die...
PLease bare with me and my story. I dont know from where to start but lets begin...
I am a stay at home mum for past 2 years+. I got married at the age on 19 and have my 1st baby boy at the stage of 20. i knew my hubby so called bf before the marriage so later we decided to get married and start a new life. In other way i wanted to run away from my problems related to my parents. I did not wanted to stay with them.
My parents are divorced and have a really bad experience for my 19 years of life. In short My Ex father is a womanizer and my mom just wants more and more bfs. And i have 2 other younger brother who is now 18 and 11 and i am22. So after the divorced we all stay together with my mum in a one room flat which is a HDB subs flat.
My hubby and i wanted to save money by staying with my mom. we thought this would reduce the amount of spending and save more. but its the opposite. My hubby has to pay for all the utility bill, phn bill, house rent,foods, baby items etc ect. Now our son is 20 month old and i am becoming crazzy... coz we need the saving for our babys future.
I want to work to help my hubby but no one to take care of my son. cause my mother wants to work. She dnt wnt to stay at home so i am left with no choice but to take care of my baby.
Sometime i feel so frustrated that i beat my son if he does something which irritates me. I seems to become a crazy woman. I dont know how to control my anger. I have tolerated so much in my life that now i cant tolerate anything anymore. In dont have a helping hand. From morning to night only i am the one who is doing all the house cores and taking care of baby but when my mother comes home at night, she can do little bit of the work to help me out. but no she is like a queen. and i am the maid to do all the work by my self.
so saterday and sunday i wish to get some help from my hubby to take care of the baby and i do rest of the work. but sometime hubby also complain that i dont give him time to rest. what i expect from him is that either saterday or Sunday for sometime he can bring the baby out so tht i can review myself of what i am doing and what should i do. but i cnt coz he dnt wnt to help me.
before our marriage he had made so many promises to me but now it seems like he has forgotten all.
Even nowadays he says that i am mad. he hates me. the whole day i wait for his sms but he wont. he says he is busy with work. he dnt even buy me gifts on valentines day or anniversary day or birthday! i love gifts but i dnt receive anything! when i am angry with him, i expect him to console me but he dont. in other way he would say i behave like my mom. i am like my mom. as if he got a chance to blame me linking my parents...
what should i do ? you tell me? sometime i become so depressed that i cry out myself when i am in shower or later at night when all are sleeping. i cant find any solution.
I dont have a house. Dont have a proper family, nobody to help or listen to my problems, mentally sick , i have no source of income, no fun in life...what am i supposed to do? sometime when i am alone at home, i feel like commit suicide coz nobody loves me noone cares about me. i just want to die...