Hello mummies,
Glad to "meet" you all here!
I am also a FTWM, with 2 young children age 3 and 1. Recently, hubby and I are considering if we should have a no.3. This is a super tough decision.
For the past few years, it has been quite exhausting... finally my baby boy turns 1 year old and things are getting better. After the birth of my boy, I had a shock of how things can be so different and difficult from 1 to 2! During my maternity leave, I was constantly in a war zone, trying to breastfeed & care of the infant and take care of every needs of my toddler.
I have always wanted to have 3, but this experience scares me out of the idea... But now, when things are getting better, I started to think about it again. My hubby loves kids and he thinks 3 is just right. But he respects me and thinks I should ultimately make the decision, because I am the one who has to go through the whole pregnancy and breastfeeding period!
My main concern is: will no.3 drive me to my limits? will I have enough time and energy to care for all three of them + I have to work full time? will it be much more difficult to raise 3 instead of 2 in Sg? for a shorter period of worries, I don't know if I have the energy and determination to go through the pregnancy while having to care for two (I had bad morning sickness up to 20 weeks for both pregnancies!) and I don't know if I can go for another round of breastfeeding, which I think is the most satisfying and rewarding thing to do for my baby, but super super tiring (with night feeds and regular pumping after returning to work!)
I must admit that I am a very fortunate one, with my very understanding and considerate MIL helping me. But she also has her hands full with all her grandchildren.
I want to make the decision soon, because I am already in my mid-30s and I do not wish to go through the whole baby thing again after my two have grown up. I think that will probably be too difficult.
So, mummies, I need your advice!! Share with me your precious experience, please! It's priceless to listen to your life experience!!
Thanks in advance!
Glad to "meet" you all here!
I am also a FTWM, with 2 young children age 3 and 1. Recently, hubby and I are considering if we should have a no.3. This is a super tough decision.
For the past few years, it has been quite exhausting... finally my baby boy turns 1 year old and things are getting better. After the birth of my boy, I had a shock of how things can be so different and difficult from 1 to 2! During my maternity leave, I was constantly in a war zone, trying to breastfeed & care of the infant and take care of every needs of my toddler.
I have always wanted to have 3, but this experience scares me out of the idea... But now, when things are getting better, I started to think about it again. My hubby loves kids and he thinks 3 is just right. But he respects me and thinks I should ultimately make the decision, because I am the one who has to go through the whole pregnancy and breastfeeding period!
My main concern is: will no.3 drive me to my limits? will I have enough time and energy to care for all three of them + I have to work full time? will it be much more difficult to raise 3 instead of 2 in Sg? for a shorter period of worries, I don't know if I have the energy and determination to go through the pregnancy while having to care for two (I had bad morning sickness up to 20 weeks for both pregnancies!) and I don't know if I can go for another round of breastfeeding, which I think is the most satisfying and rewarding thing to do for my baby, but super super tiring (with night feeds and regular pumping after returning to work!)
I must admit that I am a very fortunate one, with my very understanding and considerate MIL helping me. But she also has her hands full with all her grandchildren.
I want to make the decision soon, because I am already in my mid-30s and I do not wish to go through the whole baby thing again after my two have grown up. I think that will probably be too difficult.
So, mummies, I need your advice!! Share with me your precious experience, please! It's priceless to listen to your life experience!!
Thanks in advance!
