Any working mum Taking care newborn baby yourself at night ?

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honeydonut

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Hi mummies,
any working mum are sending the baby to babysitter for day time only and take care the baby yourself at night time?
mind to share your experince? will it b too tired as we need to wake up mid night to feed baby? or any better time management to watch out? as will be a first time mum end of this yr still considering whether to send bb to bbsitter only at day time.

thanks
 
pixie

pixie

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I am a working mom who is also a first-time-mom. I had 16 weeks of maternity leave plus 2 weeks of medical leave from my gynae stated that I was unfit to work. By the time I returned back to work (that there were some public holidays during my maternity period), my baby was almost 6 months old. Of course, I am very blessed to have a baby who started to sleep through the night by 3 months old. So taking care of her during the night was not really as tedious as I thought.
 
woofy55

woofy55

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Hi.. I took care of my baby myself together with my hubby at night. It can be tiring.. Cos my baby wakes up every 3hrs.. I rmber we hope for the very best every night. :) but at 2.5yrs old now, he still wake up for milk at night. So we somehow also gotten used to it.

Although is tiring.. We still want to take care of him ourselves. It's a blessing he's born into our family. Actually.. More of it is our mindset.. If our mind is strong... We can overcome tiredness.. Believe me.. Look at him so cute when he's hving his meals.. :))

Also Don't worry too much.. Maybe yours will sleep thru the night.. :) yeah..
 
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honeydonut

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woofy55 said:
Hi.. I took care of my baby myself together with my hubby at night. It can be tiring.. Cos my baby wakes up every 3hrs.. I rmber we hope for the very best every night. :) but at 2.5yrs old now, he still wake up for milk at night. So we somehow also gotten used to it.

Although is tiring.. We still want to take care of him ourselves. It's a blessing he's born into our family. Actually.. More of it is our mindset.. If our mind is strong... We can overcome tiredness.. Believe me.. Look at him so cute when he's hving his meals.. :))

Also Don't worry too much.. Maybe yours will sleep thru the night.. :) yeah..
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Hi Pixie,
That is so nice that your baby can sleep thru out the night, last time i was talking to Aunty that she mentioned some confinement lady can train the baby sleep thru out the night too...and i was amazing how they did that and to train the baby...sound like there's a way to take care the baby peacefully haha.

Hi Woofy,
Yeah , i think even though tire but when you seeing your baby growing up and that's the sastification.... Agreed with you that mind set is very important..i hope can cope it with husband together :) Actually husband also mention that if take care our own also good cos can spend more time with baby.
 
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honeydonut

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cherrycheery said:
Honey donut: how much is a baby sitter nowadays?
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Hi cherry,
I've called to ask few of baby sitter recently to check around too, for Day care (7am-7pm) is range from 600-650 , if take care a toddle that can eat solid food is 750 ....


for Day & night - 1k-1.2k (so far what i heard is 1.2k)

It's really not cheap to hire a baby sitter nowadays :(
 
missyqiqi

missyqiqi

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Me full time working mom but i put my baby in infant care, not comfy with baby sitter.

Normally i will bring her home after work or together with my hubby if he got no appointment. Is quite tired for me at the start coz not used to it even though my baby sleep through the night since 3months old. After a few weeks I'm get used to it so ok for me now.

Normally i put her to bed at 8pm, so that i can wash her clothes N do my online shop stuff/blog. If u can train ur baby to sleep early it will be a lot easier. I started her since birth eg like dim the lights on the music when i feed her after 7pm. Then 8pm must put her in bed tell her is sleeping time, then slowly she will understand n she's a breast milk baby but i used bottle to feed her when i went back to work.
 
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honeydonut

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missyqiqi said:
Me full time working mom but i put my baby in infant care, not comfy with baby sitter.

Normally i will bring her home after work or together with my hubby if he got no appointment. Is quite tired for me at the start coz not used to it even though my baby sleep through the night since 3months old. After a few weeks I'm get used to it so ok for me now.

Normally i put her to bed at 8pm, so that i can wash her clothes N do my online shop stuff/blog. If u can train ur baby to sleep early it will be a lot easier. I started her since birth eg like dim the lights on the music when i feed her after 7pm. Then 8pm must put her in bed tell her is sleeping time, then slowly she will understand n she's a breast milk baby but i used bottle to feed her when i went back to work.
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Hi missiqiqi,

But i thought that infant care does not provide attention 1-1 ....they normally 1 person take care to about 4-5 babys right?
And i thought that babysitter can give 1-1 attention ?
 
pixie

pixie

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Ideally if my mom could help me out, I would want her to babysit for me. Unfortunately due to health issues, I have to hire a domestic helper.

cherrycheery said:
Pixie: so who is taking care of your baby now( ie. after 6 months that now u have returned to work) ?
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Jesamine

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Hey pixie,

I heard that if you employ a domestic helper purely for infant care, she will not do other household chores? Is there something like an all rounder? :p

I've read alot about domestic helper that don't treat your babies well. Can they really be trusted? Or must I have someone at home to kinda "supervise" her?
 
missyqiqi

missyqiqi

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honeydonut: for me I prefer school coz she can learn to play with other kids, learn how to share, socialise faster and when she go to pre-school or kindergarden, she wouldn't feel the detached like going to school and cry everyday. And I prefer my girl attached to me n my hubby instead of feeling attached to the baby sitter or domestic helper.

Even though she's at infant care 8 hours, she see different teachers, so she wouldn't really 100% emotionally attached to them, but at home she going to see the baby sitter and domestic helper 1-1 longer hours than me, obviously she will even more attached to the helper than me.

And babysitter don't do housework, and price is more or less the same, of coz i will put in school at least there is a lot of teacher around, rather than one to one, which u must really trust the babysitter, hopefully they don't do anything to ur baby.

And domestic helper, sorry totally no trust in them, coz i don't have anyone at home "supervising" the babysitter or the maid. So i rather put in infant care.

But of course this is my personal and my sister point of view, she's also doing this for her 2 kids. Is still up to individual, coz some don't trust infant care. :)
 
pixie

pixie

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Jesamine, I hire a domestic helper to do housework and to take care of my baby. When she came over, my girl was already 6 months old and she slept long hours when she was younger so the maid is free when baby is alseep and she can do housework.

At first I was skeptical whether to hire a domestic helper cos heard of cases where babies were abused. I have no other choice since my mom couldn't help to babysit for me and my spouse has to travel back to Australia for work every 2 weeks. I just have to give a little trust to the helper. I check on my baby (e.g. her body to see if there are bruises and injuries) every day after I came home from work. After a period of observation, I concluded that the helper doesn't abuse my baby and in fact, she is quite fond of my girl. But I might be changing another maid because the current one is not very detailed, stubborn, careless and her command of English is so bad that she can't string up proper sentences and it caused lots of misunderstandings. To make things worst, she is telling lies on every little thing.

If you can have someone to drop-by to your place daily to watch over your helper, it would be good. Or else I will say 'give a little trust' yet be alert to watch out for some tell-tale signs from your baby and gauge for yourself if your maid is trustworthy. It's hard but when if you are not given many options, we just have to go by our gut-feeling.

I do intend to bring my girl to a daycare centre when she is potty-trained and especially now there is quite a few cases of HFMD, personally, I feel it's better to keep my girl away from daycare centre until she is around 24-30 months.

Jesamine said:
Hey pixie,

I heard that if you employ a domestic helper purely for infant care, she will not do other household chores? Is there something like an all rounder? :p

I've read alot about domestic helper that don't treat your babies well. Can they really be trusted? Or must I have someone at home to kinda "supervise" her?
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Kxmum

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honeydonut said:
Hi missiqiqi,

But i thought that infant care does not provide attention 1-1 ....they normally 1 person take care to about 4-5 babys right?
And i thought that babysitter can give 1-1 attention ?
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Actually frankly speaking, babysitters doesn't really give 1-1 attention..they still need to do their household chores, cook for their own families, run their errands etc etc...at least the teachers at infant care are working and can focus on the job..
 
pixie

pixie

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Cheery, I would love to breastfeed my girl until I returned to work. Unfortunately, I was unable to produce sufficient milk to meet the demand and I feel kind of heartache to see her crying for more milk. I switched to full bottle feed after 1 week when my milk supply finally stopped.

cherrycheery said:
Hi Pixie: so to speak how many did you breast feed your daughter? Is it 6 months or lesser?
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lovepooh79

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Hi missyqiqi

Can share which infant care you went to? Am looking out for a good one near my workplace if possible, somewhere central
 
missyqiqi

missyqiqi

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Previous one is Sunshine kids at international factors building near the lao pa sat there
Currently is at my hubby's workplace OCBC center. U better book early coz the waiting list is long for all the central infant care. I remember that time i called until siao!
 
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