Bad confinement lady experience

mei.ling

New Member
Now that I have the time to go around the threads I want to warn everyone against this aunty. Aunty 阿珍.

1) She leaves the pork meat in the fridge for over 4 days! Is it normal?? My family only defrost meat we know we'd use the next day

2) Super skimpy with ingredients. Not like she's paying for the groceries. My breakfast consisted a bowl of noodles and few thin slices of pork meat. Worse than packing food from outside!

3) No initiative, everyday ask me what i want to eat when I am not very familiar with confinement food.

4) I didnt like her cooking so I ate very little, i tried to put up with it because i thought CL main responsibility is to take care of my baby, i thought as long as my baby is well taken care of then i can still ask my maid to cook for me but noooooo, my baby is a bit yellow that's why she fed my baby red dates tea!!! And my maid has to prepare herbal bath for me because it's heavy my maid is younger than her so "the maid should do it"

5) When I was drinking milo, she walked past and said "i heard people say drink milo will cause milk supply to stop, but im not talking about you"

6) Gossip with my maid tried to make her go against us.

She really caused so much stress for me, i had to install CCTV to watch her with my baby. She's always nasty in front of me and nice when my husband is around. She raise her voice at me but never at my husband.
I only put up with her for 7 days before my husband told her to leave. I put up with her for 7 days only because we couldn't find a proper replacement.
 
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mei.ling

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My friend recommended me Aunty Windy. She's a lifesaver.

She's the most amazing nanny I have ever seen or heard of.

1) Cooking
Her cooking is absolutely the best! Everyday different dishes, different soups. From morning until night, I was never hungry. Sometimes my mother in law drop by just to taste her cooking. Even invited her friends over to eat. She didn't charge us for all this extra cooking because we had a maid who helped her with food preparation and cleaning. We still felt bad, because we know agency do charge for extra cooking. Extra work means extra fee, that's reasonable to us. So we gave her a big red packet when she left us.

2) Baby
She never for once complain or anything, my baby cries all the time, it stressed me out so much. But she never once sighed or anything. Even at night she would get up instantly and soothe the baby. I had CCTV installed. She never left my baby unattended. If she needs to go out for groceries or to the toilet or cook, she would hand the baby to me or my husband. She also gave me a lot of advice, taught me, my husband and my maid how to take care of the baby.

3) Attitude
She never show black face, always smiling and not the traditional type aunty. Like the naggy and must follow my way type of aunty. Whatever she do, she will ask if it's okay with me first. Very easy going person, never gossip with my maid also.

4) Experience
She has 30 years of experience. and she's only 51 y/o.

Before she left she explained and showed me, my husband and my maid everything again just to make sure we will be ok after she left. She made my life so much easier, she's such a positive person, never for once say negative things, always positive no matter what. Once I broke down and cried in toilet because I dislike how I look like now. She comforted me like my own mum.

I wanted to extend her but too bad she already took up another job, also in Singapore. I heard she's booked to Australia next year for 2 months, not sure which month. Anyone interested can contact her directly. Quote my name Mei Ling say it's my friend. I really wish her all the best. +60165112218
 
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mei.ling

New Member
I also want to add, i caught 阿珍 aunty sleep with my baby in the same bed! When we told her on the first day, baby must not sleep with adults in the same bed, because we dont want accidents to happen. She never listened!

I always pump enough milk in the fridge, and told her at least twice a day, only feed the baby my breastmilk, if not enough only use formula. Still she formula whenever im not looking. My next aunty, aunty windy found a few baby bottles with my breastmilk leftover hidden behind the bed.

it's crazy how unethical some people can be.
 

mei.ling

New Member
Oh dear, thats really scary! How did you come across the bad confinement lady?!
It was recommended to me. I’ve seen worse stories on newspaper, like dropping the baby while walking downstairs and baby ended up hospitalised. o_Oo_O I don’t know how I would’ve reacted. Lucky my baby is safe and sound.
 
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