between my daughter & him

[friendlypinky]

hi all

as above topic, single working mother, 9 year old daughter & him.

5 years relationship with him, planning to divorce his wife & married me later.
both of us love each other but my daughter dont accept him as her future stepfather.

when ever he comes over to stay, my daughter dont like it, she will show her temper.
lock herself inside the room, dont want come out for lunch or dinner even dont want to
talk to me later.

what should I do, between my daughter & him ?

 

[mo2xs]

hi...

i think u should find a time to have a chat with her, and ask what is the reason that she doesn't like your future husband?
try to talk with her as if she is an adult too...try to talk nicely, listen to what she wants to say....

hope it can work
good luck

 

[friendlypinky]

why she never accept him because her father pass away when she is still small, never have the feeling of father & daughter before,
also 1 of her classmate say her stepfather always treat her badly, always beat her mother, comes home drunk, etc.
told her not all stepfather is like that, some is good like uncle, both of them never "click" well too.