megtan
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I witnessed an incident at a playground today and was wondering what should I do if such incidents happen to my son next time?
A 4-5 year old girl (A) was hit by another similar age girl (B). Girl A cried loudly, while Girl B appeared nonchalent. The father of Girl A was there and shouted angrily, "You should hit her back! Why you never hit her back?", and even when the girl calmed down, the father still repeatedly said, "Next time people hit you must hit back!". Meanwhile, another father (believed to be a friend) shouted angrily at Girl B and demanded to see her parents. I think Girl B was taken care of by a maid who was not at the scene and some distance away. Not sure what transpired thereafter.
I didn't really notice what happened between Girl A and B before the hitting incident, did Girl A provoke Girl B or not?
Anyway, my husband's opinion is parents should not interfere in such incidents as children need to fend for themselves so that they will learn how to do so as they grow up, cannot always protect them. So if they fight/hit back each other, so be it.
If you are the parent of Girl A, what would you do or what would you teach the kid to do? Personally, I don't think it's right to teach the kid to hit back, coz the kid might be at fault in the first place.
A 4-5 year old girl (A) was hit by another similar age girl (B). Girl A cried loudly, while Girl B appeared nonchalent. The father of Girl A was there and shouted angrily, "You should hit her back! Why you never hit her back?", and even when the girl calmed down, the father still repeatedly said, "Next time people hit you must hit back!". Meanwhile, another father (believed to be a friend) shouted angrily at Girl B and demanded to see her parents. I think Girl B was taken care of by a maid who was not at the scene and some distance away. Not sure what transpired thereafter.
I didn't really notice what happened between Girl A and B before the hitting incident, did Girl A provoke Girl B or not?
Anyway, my husband's opinion is parents should not interfere in such incidents as children need to fend for themselves so that they will learn how to do so as they grow up, cannot always protect them. So if they fight/hit back each other, so be it.
If you are the parent of Girl A, what would you do or what would you teach the kid to do? Personally, I don't think it's right to teach the kid to hit back, coz the kid might be at fault in the first place.