Do you cane/ spank your kids?

Discussion in 'General Parenting Discussion' started by maycomom, May 25, 2016.

  1. maycomom

    maycomom New Member

    Do you cane/ spank your kids? If so, please explain why you think caning is necessary and the things you use to '' teach'' your kids!
  2. SophieLovesKitttens

    SophieLovesKitttens New Member

    I personally believe you should never resort to caning/spanking kids. It instills a deep-seated fear in them that will follow them even when they grow up. They will be afraid to do everything, and will achieve nothing.

    Tell them to ask for what they want, and they'll be scared to do it.

    Tell them to be themselves, and they'll be scared to do it.

    Imagine if you were the kid, you might change your behaviour, but you might not know the reason why you have to change it. You won't know how to apply morals to other things, you might stop doing one thing, and do 5 other bad things. Why do you think kids grow up to smoke even if they are in a 'good' family? You must teach the kids to think for themselves and what's

    It's better to build a kid up instead of tearing him down.
  3. mummiesBFF

    mummiesBFF New Member

    I think importantly is about explaining why you shouldn't do this and that, punishment need not be caning or spanking.
    it can hurt the child(unless you can really control your strength and how many of us can really do it even though we think we might?) and maybe he will think that its ok to hit people to get his way, cos parents also hit the child to get what they want from the child.
    but of cos not saying cannot, but it shouldn't be done in a fit of rage you really need to walk out and cool down and think if the child action really warrant a caning or spanking, even after the caning or spanking you should sit down and talk to your child on why and what he/she did and how he/she can do it better...
    but i know nowadays also hard to spend so much time to talk but hey its your child... not just anyone
  4. Dorothy Williams

    Dorothy Williams New Member

    I don't. I'm more of a go to your room and face the wall type of mom.

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