i feel that our son bond my family together. Like now i am staying with my PIL, they loves my son tho i am not in good term with my MIL, when i am quarrelling with my husband, looking at our son will calm us down.
Do you think a marriage must have kids?
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PinkDiamonds
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Marriage = husband + wife
Family = husband + wife + kids
So to answer the question, since marriage only consists of husband and wife then there probably isn't a need to have a child until they decide that they want a family.
I've always known I wanted children, so naturally for me we started a family.
I also realized that once we start a family, we may forget that besides the children we also need to work on our separate relationships with our spouse. Failure to continue to build the marriage will probably lead to a break down of the family.
I feel that you wouldn't know what you've been missing on until you get it. If you don't have children now, it may be easy to say, "my husband and I have decided not to have children and we're fine with it." One day *if* you decide to have children, you may realize that "hey, maybe this is what has been missing all along!"
there are marriages that last long without children too. If one party wants to have children and the other doesn't want to, then someone has to give in eventually.
Mandy, having a child takes sacrifice and life-long commitment, so I think it's normal for you to feel the jitters about having a child.
Family = husband + wife + kids
So to answer the question, since marriage only consists of husband and wife then there probably isn't a need to have a child until they decide that they want a family.
I've always known I wanted children, so naturally for me we started a family.
I also realized that once we start a family, we may forget that besides the children we also need to work on our separate relationships with our spouse. Failure to continue to build the marriage will probably lead to a break down of the family.
I feel that you wouldn't know what you've been missing on until you get it. If you don't have children now, it may be easy to say, "my husband and I have decided not to have children and we're fine with it." One day *if* you decide to have children, you may realize that "hey, maybe this is what has been missing all along!"
there are marriages that last long without children too. If one party wants to have children and the other doesn't want to, then someone has to give in eventually.
Mandy, having a child takes sacrifice and life-long commitment, so I think it's normal for you to feel the jitters about having a child.
Personally, if the couple are not willing to be responsible for bringing up and discipline the kids... It's best not to have kids. It might be nice to have kids but having cute kids that have large issues to everyone else in the society... Please be considerate.
If couple is willing to do their part as parents, it's okay to have kids but within their means. In recent generation, no parents can expect their kids to take care of them when they age as the kids are going through more hell than we were young. So parents do need to save up for themselves and not all money on kids. Parents can only try their best to make sure the kids grow up able to survive on their own.
If couple is willing to do their part as parents, it's okay to have kids but within their means. In recent generation, no parents can expect their kids to take care of them when they age as the kids are going through more hell than we were young. So parents do need to save up for themselves and not all money on kids. Parents can only try their best to make sure the kids grow up able to survive on their own.
