EDD in June

[summertime]

Re: Preloved Medela single mini electric breastpump for sale

I am a jun 2011 mummy... My dear son is born on 18 June.... I was induced as I was suffering from preeclampsia....

Just want to share my experiences so far... And I want to say it is really not easy being a mother....

My dear husband and I tried hard for this baby and at one point, we were almost sure that we needed help... After months of trying, we were really excited for this baby... Before baby is born, we were convinced to try breastfeeding at all cost... And it seems so easy when we surf the net... It seems to come naturally for all women....I think I have never been so wrong....

I understood that natural birth is better for breast milk so I insisted to try natural birth even though I had past back injury and heart problem when I was young....in the end, due to preeclampsia, my gynae had to induce the birth... After 12 hours, there is still no dilation... So I had to go for c-sect but I was still keen to latch him on immediately so I asked for epidural c-sect even though my family members and dear husband were against it....

In the end, the doc poked 3 times into my back with no success... Had to go for GA....but I am persistent so my baby was delivered at 1plus but I am already awake and asking for my baby at 2plus....

Anyway, I went on total bf straight away.... However, I must say it is one of the most difficult and emotional thing I had done....I spend the next 4 weeks crying everyday.... During confinement, I was almost going into depression....

My ped told me that my baby has mild jaundice during the 2nd day and I insisted on feeding breast milk only....we were discharged on the 4th day and I was still so keen on bf that I tear my wound ( gynae sew it back as i went to him immediately after seeing so much blood) as I try to feed him on demand but my dear son did not poo and I called the ped who told me to go to her the very next day... That was the moment that I understood that he is
dehydrated and need formula... ( I gave water in between feeds but still no poo)

But it's too late... From mild jaundice, it has shot up and he needed to be admitted... I persisted on bf and admit myself with him and made it room in with me as I bf him then top up with fm.... Finally, I brought him home again.... My breast milk is still very low and I kept getting depressed that I caused my own son to suffer because of my own insistence...

Every week, I bring him to Polyclinic to check his jaundice level... As I took fenugreek and motilium to up my supply, I also pump every 2 hours or latch then pump, I feel very depressed that it is still very low.... Finally, at about 2 weeks, he refused to latch on and wanted the bottle... I worked harder by pumping every 2 hours and feeding him in between....

Finally, my hubby had enough of my emotional breakdowns and my sleepless zombie look and kept on asking me to give up bf... But I refused to listen..... He decide to bring me to a LC for help.... Her advice is to cut all formula and feed every 2 hours.... I explained to her that my boy had jaundice and I worry it might worsen his condition but she assured me that it will not so I decided to heed her advice....

Within 2 days, it was his weekly check at polyclinic and I went and his jaundice level has shot up again.... I panic and ran back to the ped.... She told me that my boy could be dehydrated again.... I broke down and once again, worsen him due to my own insistence... I went back to pumping every 2 hourly and did not force him to latch anymore...

Finally, during his 1st month check, the ped told me that my boy has breast milk jaundice but I still continue.... Even with all the medication and regular pumping, my supply is still very low, not even half of his requirement per feeding.... I got so demoralized till my family members were starting to get worried about me.....

I keep on feeling that I am a failure till I realized that there are many women like me.... Simply low supply.... And because there were so many success stories online that I kept bashing myself up for being a failure....

My dear husband and I reached an agreement to give breast milk till dear son is 6 weeks then I would stop and start to take care of myself.... But I cheated and only stopped now....

Maybe it's god's way of telling me that it's okay.... The day I had planned to stop, my menses came and my already low supply went lower and my boy seems to have a very hard time drinking the ebm for the past few days but has no issues with the formula....

I am just writing this not to encourage or discourage people from bf... But I would say that we ony saw the positive examples and never realized that there were so many mothers who had difficulty....

Hi

I can feel what you going through.. I juz give birth in june also.. Like u, I tot bf is easy only not so easy to latch on.. when i started to bf my son exclusively, it really emotional breakdown. My baby was also admitted 2 day in hospital due to jaundice after discharge I tot his breathing got problem i bring here n there to see doc. After that, his eyelid got so swollen almost need to go for surgery n all this happen within a mth.. Plus Lack of sleep due to bf (my bb latch on almost 1 hr each time), i cried almost every time i feed him. Once my bb is crying for milk but im so reluctant to feed him n just sit there look at him cry. Dat was when my hubby say no more bf till my emotion is better.

So I stop bf about 3 wk almost now not much milk but i back to trying as i more ready. Doc give me pill hopefully will help to make the milk come back..

BF is gd but juz that didnt expect so much thing come at the same time n didnt expect to be so tiring.

 

[hapimint]

Re: Preloved Medela single mini electric breastpump for sale

True.... And because it seems that everybody seem to be able to do it, I felt that I failed as a mummy....but if we look closely, 5 out of 6 mummy I spoke to had difficulty... But they never voice out coz we all felt that we were abnormal or we didn't try hard enough....

But the truth is, we really tried hard.... Now I stopped my pumping, my husband is happy that he got his wife back... My son got more attention from me... I no longer had to put him down or pass him to others as I do my pumping....

 

[XenXuan]

I had problems with BF too with my 2kids. When I had my son 2yrs back,I was so keen on BF-ing him,we even bought the $400 breastpump to think it will be a long term BF-ing(6mths at least),despite our low financial status.i TBF him till 1mth old at almost every 45mins-2hrs interval,din have time to pump at all as I wasn't even having enough sleep n not eating much.as a 1st time mom,i didn't know have such fenugreek supplements n didn't drink any lactating formula to help,I was low on supply n started worrying my son not having enough milk. We started giving him formula milk at 6weeks old after I started pumping n realized I had such low supply(40ml).eventually my milk supply ceased at 2mths n had to give my son full formula. My hubby scolded me for not pumping n latching on when baby needs milk,he thinks as long as there is demand there will be supply.my body was v weak back then,wasn't eating much(2meals per day,less than 1/2 the portion),was looking after baby most of time myself as need to BF him. After milk stopped then we learnt tat nutrition,good rest n stress-free are the key to success BF.some moms naturally have lesser supply too.

For my #2 baby girl,we started with BF(express n latch) n formula,with all the fenugreek n lactating formula to help me get more supply.had my mom to help look after my girl more so tat I can have more rest n express out. All seems well till 2weeks old when she starts to refuse latch on n wanted the bottle instead.I had no choice but to keep pumping n let her drink from bottle.it was hard feeding a baby on bottle,having bad leaking engorgement n a hyperactive toddler around.I went into a emotion breakdown once again,tis time hubby suggested juz let her be on formula,I can stop my supply n rest my health.I was reluctant to stop as I already felt guilty for what happened during my son's.I even wanted to see if there is extra supply for my son to have my milk.when my girl turns 1mth,I had gave up trying to latch,only pumping as milk is still there.I got so tired from everything,pain n both kids crying,I was in depression symptoms.tats when my hubby n I decided I should stop my milk. I stopped all supplements n was only expressing when engorgement is bad,only managed to stop milk after baby 9weeks old.now coming 3rd mth,I realized I still have milk leakage now n then.we learnt tat Bottle intro was too early for #2 hence the latching failed.

It's not easy BF ESP during the 1st 2mths,supply is still building up,many common mistakes will caused failures,many moms made it but not all moms can go thru it.I keep telling myself I tried my best to BF my kids.me n my family did not blame any1 / anything. Breast milk is best for baby but if not,formula is next in line. Try ur best to BF ur baby,but if it's really time to stop,giving up can be a better option for u,baby n family.failed BF doesn't means failed as a mom,this job has more than juz BF.take care n jia you all mummies. ^^

 

[summertime]

For me i feel abit gulity cos my bb can latch on so easily even introduce bottle but im unable to bf him now. when Im trying get my "supply" back, I Bf him for 15 mins (not enough milk) then give formula so he will be full and everytime he still no problem a latch on... Now my milk has totally stop, kind of miss BF him

 

[XenXuan]

I felt guilty too when I had my son n milk juz stopped by itself.but after seeing him growing so well on the formula milk(normal cow's milk formula + goat's milk formula) in compared to the days I TBF him,I start to feel relieve n release myself from guilt.miss the closeness n bonding when BF my kids too,but it's still close when I bottle feed them.

 

[hapimint]

I think as mothers, we expect alot from ourselves and when we didn't do just as well, we torture ourselves with guilt.... I finally learn that a happy and healthy mummy equals a happy and healthy child.... A depressed mummy means a moody child so please dun bash yourself up.... ( or myself up)

We are not lesser of a mother just because we are unable to do certain things....

 

[ecym]

Hi,

sorry to barge but I have some items to sell which you may be interested...

Self Collect at Simei/Upper Changi Road East

1) Fisher Price Walker-to-Wagon

Newly open in Jul 2011, used for less than 5x.
Comes with original FP box
Condition 9.5/10.
Letting go at $30

2) Preloved Baby Walker/rocker

Mint Condition, not for fussy
Yellow colour. Pooh Bear Design
Music workable. No box and no net beneath.
Letting go at $10

3) Mini Assorted bubbles

left with about 20 bottles, ordered from US
Below picture is only for illustration.
Not able to choose designs, size varies.
Great to include in party bags for young children
letting go at $0.80 each. if take all 20, will let go all of $15.
Prior arrangement to meet up in Raffles Place/Suntec area is possible for this item.

4) preloved FP Kick and Play Piano

Mint Condition. Not for Fussy
No box.
Workable Music.
letting go at SGD 10

5) Preloved FP Activity Table

Mint Condition. Not for Fussy
No box.
Workable Music.
letting go at SGD 15

If taking 2 or more items, pm me for better price.

 

[Malunggay Tea]

Malunggay Tea - Proven to Support Breast Milk Production:red:
Hi Mummies :wong19:

Fret about breastmilk production? Malunggay Herb Tea is here to save the day !

See my business listing :

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More information about the Malunggay Herb Tea is available on this website :

Welcome to Sun Angel Malunggay

As nursing mums need an intake of 3-4 litres of fluids daily and trustworthy nutritional support to maintain good health during breastfeeding, Malunggay Herb Tea is highly recommended. This product is approved by HSA.

It is all natural, no caffeine and proven to support breastmilk production. Malunggay leaves are full of essential nutrients and vitamns A. B, C and E. It is high in anti-oxidants and contains minerals like protein, calcium, iron and potassium, just to name a few.

I have many returning customers, so it definitely works as well as it looks

Please bookmark the above for future needs.
Thank you for your kind attention ancing_tongue:

 

[quesmama]

Hi,

I would like to order 2 boxes to try out. Please PM me payment method. By the way, how much is advisable to drink in order to boost supply? Thanks.

 

[Malunggay Tea]

Hi quesmama

Can I have your email so I can send you more info as how to drink the tea?

Thanks

Regards
Yumi