Jiayou piglim and xiongmao!
Piglim, its sad to hear our little ones sick .. Esp when they start cc i heard there's at least a gd 6 mths that they will keep falling sick to gain the library of antibodies... Guess maybe its a mixture of getting sick and new transition of having to adapt to meimei that makes ur son cranky and fussy? Sometimes they don't know how to express but to cry it out or just fuss to feel better? That explains why they get super sticky... Sigh hmm i don't really know how to advice, but maybe you can let ur son take a break? Go out for some playdates or a day out to the aquarium, just u n him? Just to relax? Or maybe u can consider letting him go for halfday cc for time being?
As for maid wise, i feel its a individual gut feeling.. If u feel your maid love ur kids, and can handle abit more.. At this moment i would encourage you to let ur maid handle #1 more.. Previously i also don't like the idea of letting maid touch my kids.. Now i'm in desperate need of help .. Struggling 1 week alone wih 2 bubs at home.. It has been insane.. I broke down to cry so many times.. My #1 refuse to listen and is so fussy at every little thing.. #2 cries to be carried alot at times and i can't split myself.. Esp times to put #1 to slp and feed.. #2 will cry at the same time.. Or when #2 finally can be put down and fell aslp.. #1 will suddenly drop a big toy in front of her or scream and wake her up.. There goes my efforts.. Repeat rocking and carryig again.. I still have to pump (now bottlefeed coz latchingr takes too long and bb likes to snack).. I still have to do laundry, prepare and cook lunch, wash dishes.. Etc etc.. Basically non stop, plus '#1 demands my attention all the time.. Sighh either they both cry at the same time, or take turns.. Its nv my turn.. I'm always multi tasking.. Pump, rock and jaga #1.. Or eat, feed and carry #2.. Crazy crazy. Esp when #1 decides to jump n refuse to slp.. #2 is in another rm slping and can wake anytime.. When #1 takes more than 30 mins to fall aslp.. #2 starts crying.. I get super frustrated with why #1 refuse to listen.. Well i trying to take it easy some days.. Let routines run loose.. Last tues, i didn't have time to prep lunch much as #2 will latching n latching.. And when i stepped into kitchen, #1 cry for me to come out.. Wah that day #1 n i only ate lunch near 2pm.. So hungry.. Sighh its taking a toll on me too .. My back aches and arms too.. #2 fights alot while taking the bottle.. Some weird behavior.. She wants to drink but she pushes it out.. Can fight and she will cry coz hungry but doesn't wanna take the teat.. Same with latching... I'm gonna hire a maid.. Despite how unwilling i am to have a stranger in my house and more worries.. But i just can't cope w all the housework.. Basically no time for them esp w 2 bubs! My hubby gonna be away for a month in aug! I'll be totally left alone at home w 2! What happens if i fall sick or 2 babies fall sick.. I won't be able to handle.. Esp emergencies , need to bring them to see doc etc.. Its better to have an extra pair of hands ard... I was thinking, if let maid do chores n cooking only, she'll still more free than me coz i need to juggle 2 kids.. Maybe i will let her learn to feed and bathe my #1.. Not sure how to let her put her to slp in my room.. But definitely not touch my #2.. Maybe u can think abt that? We can't do it all.. We'll go crazy..
Xiongmao, jiayou i also got severe aches on my back when i took care of #1.. Alot of posture for pumping n carrying, feeding needs to be reviewed.. But maybe after pregnancy n childbirth, our muscles are loose and hence we dun have the strength in our back.. We strain all day n night carrying our bb and hence get aches.. After confinement, i carry my #2 more too.. She also sometimes cry when i put her down and i gotta repeat the cycle of carrying and coaxing her.. I'm getting backache after afew days.. Do u wanna consider a sling or carrier? But its hot to use at home without aircon.. Try to lie down n rest more ? I don't have the luxury though.. Sigh wish some one can relieve me for awhile anytime anyday.. Do get some massage if u have time.. Helps to relieve stress.. Massage lady also v experienced.. U can ask if she xan massage ur bb too or tips on handling bb..
Piglim, its sad to hear our little ones sick .. Esp when they start cc i heard there's at least a gd 6 mths that they will keep falling sick to gain the library of antibodies... Guess maybe its a mixture of getting sick and new transition of having to adapt to meimei that makes ur son cranky and fussy? Sometimes they don't know how to express but to cry it out or just fuss to feel better? That explains why they get super sticky... Sigh hmm i don't really know how to advice, but maybe you can let ur son take a break? Go out for some playdates or a day out to the aquarium, just u n him? Just to relax? Or maybe u can consider letting him go for halfday cc for time being?
As for maid wise, i feel its a individual gut feeling.. If u feel your maid love ur kids, and can handle abit more.. At this moment i would encourage you to let ur maid handle #1 more.. Previously i also don't like the idea of letting maid touch my kids.. Now i'm in desperate need of help .. Struggling 1 week alone wih 2 bubs at home.. It has been insane.. I broke down to cry so many times.. My #1 refuse to listen and is so fussy at every little thing.. #2 cries to be carried alot at times and i can't split myself.. Esp times to put #1 to slp and feed.. #2 will cry at the same time.. Or when #2 finally can be put down and fell aslp.. #1 will suddenly drop a big toy in front of her or scream and wake her up.. There goes my efforts.. Repeat rocking and carryig again.. I still have to pump (now bottlefeed coz latchingr takes too long and bb likes to snack).. I still have to do laundry, prepare and cook lunch, wash dishes.. Etc etc.. Basically non stop, plus '#1 demands my attention all the time.. Sighh either they both cry at the same time, or take turns.. Its nv my turn.. I'm always multi tasking.. Pump, rock and jaga #1.. Or eat, feed and carry #2.. Crazy crazy. Esp when #1 decides to jump n refuse to slp.. #2 is in another rm slping and can wake anytime.. When #1 takes more than 30 mins to fall aslp.. #2 starts crying.. I get super frustrated with why #1 refuse to listen.. Well i trying to take it easy some days.. Let routines run loose.. Last tues, i didn't have time to prep lunch much as #2 will latching n latching.. And when i stepped into kitchen, #1 cry for me to come out.. Wah that day #1 n i only ate lunch near 2pm.. So hungry.. Sighh its taking a toll on me too .. My back aches and arms too.. #2 fights alot while taking the bottle.. Some weird behavior.. She wants to drink but she pushes it out.. Can fight and she will cry coz hungry but doesn't wanna take the teat.. Same with latching... I'm gonna hire a maid.. Despite how unwilling i am to have a stranger in my house and more worries.. But i just can't cope w all the housework.. Basically no time for them esp w 2 bubs! My hubby gonna be away for a month in aug! I'll be totally left alone at home w 2! What happens if i fall sick or 2 babies fall sick.. I won't be able to handle.. Esp emergencies , need to bring them to see doc etc.. Its better to have an extra pair of hands ard... I was thinking, if let maid do chores n cooking only, she'll still more free than me coz i need to juggle 2 kids.. Maybe i will let her learn to feed and bathe my #1.. Not sure how to let her put her to slp in my room.. But definitely not touch my #2.. Maybe u can think abt that? We can't do it all.. We'll go crazy..
Xiongmao, jiayou i also got severe aches on my back when i took care of #1.. Alot of posture for pumping n carrying, feeding needs to be reviewed.. But maybe after pregnancy n childbirth, our muscles are loose and hence we dun have the strength in our back.. We strain all day n night carrying our bb and hence get aches.. After confinement, i carry my #2 more too.. She also sometimes cry when i put her down and i gotta repeat the cycle of carrying and coaxing her.. I'm getting backache after afew days.. Do u wanna consider a sling or carrier? But its hot to use at home without aircon.. Try to lie down n rest more ? I don't have the luxury though.. Sigh wish some one can relieve me for awhile anytime anyday.. Do get some massage if u have time.. Helps to relieve stress.. Massage lady also v experienced.. U can ask if she xan massage ur bb too or tips on handling bb..
