Currently, my hubby & I are working & we hired a nanny to take care of our baby on 24 hours basics during weekdays then we will bring the baby back every weekends.
I have been thinking a lot. Whether to keep my job or quit & take care of my boy like when he's around 6 months, getting ready for solid food & all. This nanny we hired is highly experience just that:
1. I wanted her to help me quit my son's habit of sarong, she refused and said if we really want, we need to bring the baby back to take care by ourselves.
2. Every time, after my son spilt out his pacifier or he's awake & she will leave the pacifier somewhere on the table or hang it on the sarong hook & during my son's next round of sleep, she won't wash the pacifier & let my son eat it again.
3. She even feed my son honey because he can't poo or his poo is hard when we did give her fei zai shui so she can feed it to him if that happens. But yet, she feed him honey -.-
4. My son is only 4 months plus & I caught her ignoring my son twice, leaving him on the stroller and walk /play by himself. I wonder in total, how many times did he ignored my son. & his still so young. She agreed not to let him sit for a long duration as his bones are all not developed well and strong yet. I know. But.. Sigh ~
5. Whenever my son drip saliva or vomit milk, she will wipe his mouth using so much force. Baby's skin tends to be more tender and need to be taken well care of right? But why she's using so much force?
6. When my son falls asleep in the sarong already, she got that automatic sarong rocker but it seems like she's always turning the force to rock quite fast.
7. The husband always smokes in the house. There was once I went up to their house & son was sleeping inside their master bedroom & when I entered the room, it was filled with cigarette smell which pissed me off max. I asked the wife "Someone smoked inside the room ar" she diam diam, keep quiet. dont't want to reply me. SIGH. Seriously man..
8. The husband, again. Smoked inside the house but now, in the other room. But, the wife carries my son to that room & they started chatting in both my husband & my presence.
- We feel so paiseh to keep saying them over & over again & we dont even know how to even raise the topic as well.. :embarrassed: That's why, I feel like quitting my job to be a stay at home mum but I am also someone who has no patience, frustrated easily etc. During the weekends when I take care of my boy alone, I sometimes cnt take it as its too stressful coz son is very difficult to coax to sleep, & also a temperamental baby like mummy too =( So called, a high need baby. He also likes to be carried often & also likes to be carried sitting up. Its tiring cause sometimes, I just wished to lie on the bed to rest my body but son just dont't allows.
- I am earning on hourly basics & babysitter cost us = $800 a month.
Hubby pays around $500-$600 & I pay around $200-$250 (Depends)
I take home only around $800+ a month & hubby is around $1200+
Very short and lack of cash also.
If no babysitter, hubby still can save a lot & feed the both of us with no problems at all.
- I wanna quit because:
* For my own baby's good. Most importantly is his health as I dont wish that the second hand smoke will affect my young innocent son's health.
* Saves money, a lot of money in fact.
* Mother and son bonding.
- I am worried & dont wish to quit my job because:
* Sometimes, I cannot handle son's temper as he also got bad mood day.
* I got no patience, attitude problem, stubborn ~ whatever bad character you can name, mostly, I have it.
* Baby sleep, mummy should sleep too so that got energy to take care of son in the night. But, I am not those kind of people who can fall asleep very fast and not a deep sleeper. In fact, I am a super super light sleeper. Even a pin drops, I can hear. Very very sensitive ears.. Which I hate it so much :elvis:
Tell me, what should i do? I am seriously very very very very very lost.
Definitely, If I choose to take care of son myself, no one will help me only hubby & me.
Hubby needs to work so he's only free during his off days than that will be the only time he can help me out. Other than that, I am all alone.
My baby's currently going 5 months on 15/11/2011.
Can I know whether will baby behave better during their 6 months?
He's waking up in the night every 3 hours too. (3-4 times every night)
Maximum 5 hours that's the longest he can sleep but super seldom.
He's waking up so many times in the night does it mean he's ready for solid?
He can stick out his tongue now, head's strong, dripping a lot of saliva.
Interested in food whenever he sees us eating at home & wants to grab our food!
His next injection's coming soon, will seek nurse/doctor advice regarding this.
Is it advisable to mixed follow-on 6 months formula milk to his current below 12 months formula milk? Currently he's on Enfalac.
I really need very essential advice from experience 1st time/ mummies out there.
I wished to take care of him on my own very much but need to know will he turn out to be better during his 6 months or still need to wait till older a bit?
Though I strongly understand that every baby is different. But its okay for me. Just share it with me as I just need advice only..
It will also be good if any stay at home mum are living in Yishun so maybe we can meet up too!
I need advice to wean my baby off sarong too so bringing him out shopping/my mother's house will be a breeze ~
I really appreciate the help from all the mummies out here. Thanks in advance! :wong19:
I have been thinking a lot. Whether to keep my job or quit & take care of my boy like when he's around 6 months, getting ready for solid food & all. This nanny we hired is highly experience just that:
1. I wanted her to help me quit my son's habit of sarong, she refused and said if we really want, we need to bring the baby back to take care by ourselves.
2. Every time, after my son spilt out his pacifier or he's awake & she will leave the pacifier somewhere on the table or hang it on the sarong hook & during my son's next round of sleep, she won't wash the pacifier & let my son eat it again.
3. She even feed my son honey because he can't poo or his poo is hard when we did give her fei zai shui so she can feed it to him if that happens. But yet, she feed him honey -.-
4. My son is only 4 months plus & I caught her ignoring my son twice, leaving him on the stroller and walk /play by himself. I wonder in total, how many times did he ignored my son. & his still so young. She agreed not to let him sit for a long duration as his bones are all not developed well and strong yet. I know. But.. Sigh ~
5. Whenever my son drip saliva or vomit milk, she will wipe his mouth using so much force. Baby's skin tends to be more tender and need to be taken well care of right? But why she's using so much force?
6. When my son falls asleep in the sarong already, she got that automatic sarong rocker but it seems like she's always turning the force to rock quite fast.
7. The husband always smokes in the house. There was once I went up to their house & son was sleeping inside their master bedroom & when I entered the room, it was filled with cigarette smell which pissed me off max. I asked the wife "Someone smoked inside the room ar" she diam diam, keep quiet. dont't want to reply me. SIGH. Seriously man..
8. The husband, again. Smoked inside the house but now, in the other room. But, the wife carries my son to that room & they started chatting in both my husband & my presence.
- We feel so paiseh to keep saying them over & over again & we dont even know how to even raise the topic as well.. :embarrassed: That's why, I feel like quitting my job to be a stay at home mum but I am also someone who has no patience, frustrated easily etc. During the weekends when I take care of my boy alone, I sometimes cnt take it as its too stressful coz son is very difficult to coax to sleep, & also a temperamental baby like mummy too =( So called, a high need baby. He also likes to be carried often & also likes to be carried sitting up. Its tiring cause sometimes, I just wished to lie on the bed to rest my body but son just dont't allows.
- I am earning on hourly basics & babysitter cost us = $800 a month.
Hubby pays around $500-$600 & I pay around $200-$250 (Depends)
I take home only around $800+ a month & hubby is around $1200+
Very short and lack of cash also.
If no babysitter, hubby still can save a lot & feed the both of us with no problems at all.
- I wanna quit because:
* For my own baby's good. Most importantly is his health as I dont wish that the second hand smoke will affect my young innocent son's health.
* Saves money, a lot of money in fact.
* Mother and son bonding.
- I am worried & dont wish to quit my job because:
* Sometimes, I cannot handle son's temper as he also got bad mood day.
* I got no patience, attitude problem, stubborn ~ whatever bad character you can name, mostly, I have it.
* Baby sleep, mummy should sleep too so that got energy to take care of son in the night. But, I am not those kind of people who can fall asleep very fast and not a deep sleeper. In fact, I am a super super light sleeper. Even a pin drops, I can hear. Very very sensitive ears.. Which I hate it so much :elvis:
Tell me, what should i do? I am seriously very very very very very lost.
Definitely, If I choose to take care of son myself, no one will help me only hubby & me.
Hubby needs to work so he's only free during his off days than that will be the only time he can help me out. Other than that, I am all alone.
My baby's currently going 5 months on 15/11/2011.
Can I know whether will baby behave better during their 6 months?
He's waking up in the night every 3 hours too. (3-4 times every night)
Maximum 5 hours that's the longest he can sleep but super seldom.
He's waking up so many times in the night does it mean he's ready for solid?
He can stick out his tongue now, head's strong, dripping a lot of saliva.
Interested in food whenever he sees us eating at home & wants to grab our food!
His next injection's coming soon, will seek nurse/doctor advice regarding this.
Is it advisable to mixed follow-on 6 months formula milk to his current below 12 months formula milk? Currently he's on Enfalac.
I really need very essential advice from experience 1st time/ mummies out there.
I wished to take care of him on my own very much but need to know will he turn out to be better during his 6 months or still need to wait till older a bit?
Though I strongly understand that every baby is different. But its okay for me. Just share it with me as I just need advice only..
It will also be good if any stay at home mum are living in Yishun so maybe we can meet up too!
I need advice to wean my baby off sarong too so bringing him out shopping/my mother's house will be a breeze ~
I really appreciate the help from all the mummies out here. Thanks in advance! :wong19:
