FrustratedDIL
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Hey mummies out there, anyone with the same feelings as me? Like your in laws really don't care wat the hell is happening to their daughter in law (you) as long as they have their grandchild? Like you are the child bearer machine of the family? My in laws and their sons are a closely knitted family, but somehow I cannot help feeling like a stranger whenever i am with them. When I was pregnant n so excited about telling them, their expressions and reactions disappointed me to the max. They were like "oh, we sort of guessed". Then throughout the entire pregnancy, no words of concern, not a dress or item from them in appreciation of me bearing their grandchild. I remembered very clearly one time, my hubby n I made it very clear to the entire family that I am very strongly "allergic" to onions, if I had onions in my food, I would throw up terribly after. Only my hubby bothered to ask the food seller if the food had onions in them and which dish comes with onions so we won't order them. When the food still came with onions in them, the rest of the family just carried on eating happily despite me not being able to eat them at all.. Ended up out of 5 dishes I had only 3 which I could eat. They didn't seem to care if the onions bothered me or if I had enough to feed me and my baby in my womb... A closely knitted family my ass, they only care about their sons! This is only the strongest memory that made me feel they don't give a shit.
Then on the day I gave birth, all of them wanted to come down to see the baby, wanted to carry her, as if they've always loved her... Hypocrites... Now they keep insisting my hubby go back every weekend to visit them, daughter in law need to work never mind, bring yourself and the baby can already. Ho
W can I help feeling like a child bearing machine? If you don't give a shit during my pregnancy, who are you all to want the baby to love you? I really wish I can disconnect myself from my hubby's family. I don't wish my hubby to be unfilial, but how can I love them when I can't feel they love me?
Any daughter in laws in the same shoe?
Then on the day I gave birth, all of them wanted to come down to see the baby, wanted to carry her, as if they've always loved her... Hypocrites... Now they keep insisting my hubby go back every weekend to visit them, daughter in law need to work never mind, bring yourself and the baby can already. Ho
W can I help feeling like a child bearing machine? If you don't give a shit during my pregnancy, who are you all to want the baby to love you? I really wish I can disconnect myself from my hubby's family. I don't wish my hubby to be unfilial, but how can I love them when I can't feel they love me?
Any daughter in laws in the same shoe?