Hi, I am a first time mummy to a boy of 12 weeks... I stay on our own with my parents when they are in Singapore ... Sometimes they will stay over my sis place and they spend almost half a year overseas... ( hubby invited them to stay when we moved)
Point is, from the day I gave birth, my in laws have been wanting to see my son on a daily basis.... Unless they go Malaysia or busy... Sometimes even 2 times a day.... I feel very stressed and overwhelmed by their extreme love for my boy.... In fact, I felt emotional n mental stress and worse, I feel suffocated....
They have our keys so they just walk over, uninformed, open the door n knock on my bedroom door... Sometimes bb still sleeping, they will insist On waking him just to play.... I am very unhappy as we could have a difficult night before and we need the rest but they simply wake him for their fun.... Even when he just had vaccine, I put him to bed to rest early to prevent fever... They came over n insist on carrying him out of bed to play.....
Moreover they recently developed a habit of bringing bb out without informing me... I would give them bb as I go do my things so that they won't feel restricted... But I could come out from toilet n noticed them gone... With bb.... They would bring out without even telling me as though it's their child.... I felt that I nOt being respected as the mummy... More like a maid
Furthermore, they have been talking about their plans almost everyday ... Things like, wAit bb 3 months, they will bring home to stay... 6 months then bring back where....
I am a first time mum but I felt I am taking a test daily as my mil comment about my boy development... I tried explaining to my husband On the pressure I face but his conclusion is that this is normal and it's just my feeling problem.... And they coming everyday n so on is okay.... I am at my wits end... I am only so close to running away with bb...
Just to add on, my parents do not play or carry bb unless I ask for help n would not come into the room to disturb me or bb when we resting....they left most decision to me but with in laws , it's I leave bb with them and I cannot go close so they can play..... Am I normal to feel upset? Or this is normal? Daily visits and all?
Point is, from the day I gave birth, my in laws have been wanting to see my son on a daily basis.... Unless they go Malaysia or busy... Sometimes even 2 times a day.... I feel very stressed and overwhelmed by their extreme love for my boy.... In fact, I felt emotional n mental stress and worse, I feel suffocated....
They have our keys so they just walk over, uninformed, open the door n knock on my bedroom door... Sometimes bb still sleeping, they will insist On waking him just to play.... I am very unhappy as we could have a difficult night before and we need the rest but they simply wake him for their fun.... Even when he just had vaccine, I put him to bed to rest early to prevent fever... They came over n insist on carrying him out of bed to play.....
Moreover they recently developed a habit of bringing bb out without informing me... I would give them bb as I go do my things so that they won't feel restricted... But I could come out from toilet n noticed them gone... With bb.... They would bring out without even telling me as though it's their child.... I felt that I nOt being respected as the mummy... More like a maid
Furthermore, they have been talking about their plans almost everyday ... Things like, wAit bb 3 months, they will bring home to stay... 6 months then bring back where....
I am a first time mum but I felt I am taking a test daily as my mil comment about my boy development... I tried explaining to my husband On the pressure I face but his conclusion is that this is normal and it's just my feeling problem.... And they coming everyday n so on is okay.... I am at my wits end... I am only so close to running away with bb...
Just to add on, my parents do not play or carry bb unless I ask for help n would not come into the room to disturb me or bb when we resting....they left most decision to me but with in laws , it's I leave bb with them and I cannot go close so they can play..... Am I normal to feel upset? Or this is normal? Daily visits and all?