Is my child gifted?

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Darren

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My daughter is 19 months old. She can identify most of the colours, can count to 20, knows the sequence of all the alphabets and can identify any of them at random. She can also sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star on her own.

Is she gifted? If she is then I should push her to learn even more.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
 
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lyra

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I once came across a mummy's sharing on early developers and late developers as children. Early developers are actually quite poor thing as they can be thought as gifted and forced to go through stressful tests and curriculum. And later, suffer low self esteem when the late developers catch up and suddenly, the early developers does not seem to be as smart as they used to be, but actually its not that they are not doing well, but because relative to their peers, they are now average.

My son is 17 months and like your daughter, he developed very early and very fast in verbal abilities and has good memory. He can sing nursery rhymes after me, name one to ten in mandarin, identify transport vehicles, colours, many household objects, etc and communicate what he wants in words clearly, etc. But after reading what the mummy shared I think its best to hold back on determining whether a child is gifted or not at this stage. Now, developing them emotionally and morally is more important than academically. I intend to enrol him in music lessons, and maybe some phonics lessons when he's older, most importantly he have fun and learn stuff in the process. Even if he's really gifted, he doesn't need to get into the competitive rat race too early. Let him enjoy childhood, play, and all the fun in life. All these will build a good foundation for him emotionally and psychologically. If he really is gifted, he will naturally excel in whatever things he choose to do later.

Thats just my opinion... maybe if u go kiasuparents forum, the kiasu parents there will offer more kiasu advices for u. haha
 
Qookie

Qookie

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Agree with Lyra! :) I guess it's more to strike an intricate balance between being kiasu versus not bothered about your child's so-called 'giftedness'.

I reckon it's also important to challenge your child so that she will not be bored. Yet not succumb to temptation and put her in those early 'tuition' classes or gifted programmes. Kids need to be kids.

Push her, yes. But in which direction? Through giving her toys for slightly older kids, so that she can expand her knowledge and learn through play...? Hmm...

And yes, very clever girl you got there by the way! ;)
 
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lasery2k

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erm....like the rest of the mummies....she is consider clever with good memories...if u read about development of girls n boys..girls tend to develop faster in speech and also their memories..where as boys are more into motor skills development first..

a gifted child have a high IQ where the child will show signs of early development like getting interested in a particular subject and can stay focus with it for a very long time. gifted child are also diferent in a way they love to explore and learn to questions at a very young age. for example. at a age of 18 - 30mths they start to ask questions like why do the stars glow? why does the the moon esclipes? and they will want to find out more about the subject and will keep asking questions coz they are able to focus.

gifted child also excel in different areas...like this particular child excels in music, some in acadamic, some in languages and some in arts...it really differs..

you can read up more on gifted children online by googling it...

alternatively u can bring yr child for IQ test which cost 600buckz at those gifted school to test out how high is her IQ and how fast she can learn so you can cater to her needs in learning..
 
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pumpkin2011

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Darren, I would say that your girl are bright! Kudos to you mummy..

I'm a mother of a 24 month old gal who says her first understandable word at 9 months, read simple words, knows her colours alphabets and shapes at 11 months.. She knows flags of the world, thanks to the Olympic telecast last year August.. Now at 2, she's reading level 1 books.. She love to research about the life cycle of sea turtle and robins, that there's a period that only books about life cycle are the only books she'll read..She love marine life such as sea anemone, jellyfish and corals.. Curious about nature especially about plants, dandelions is her favorite .. Last week, she just ask why there's lots of circle in the tree trunks.. This week, she's into atoms and molecules, and each time she drank water, she would say 'I'm drinking oxygen and hydrogen!' And yes, I get people raising their eyebrow as if I'm one of those pushy mummies who teaches such subjects.. She learn reading on her own.. i dont even know phonics, btw she hates phonics too..Frankly, I know nuts about all this.. I'm just a stay home mum with a secondary qualification.. I'm learning from my daughter..

If I were to tell my friends or family about my daughter's development , they would think that I'm just over exaggerating and bragging.. It's frustrating pretending that my child is just as normal as her peers each time I bring her out to play dates.. Yes, parenting jealousy exist no matter how close you are to each other.. I had people telling me that I'm a pushy mother but the truth is, I'm pushed by my daughter.. I wish I've got more energy that what I've got now..

Who doesn't want a bright child? But there's lots of challenges raising one.. Me and my daughter is in the research study about maternal health outcomes with Kandang Kerbau Hospital since my first trimester.. She had been tested by Kandang Kerbau Hospital neurocognitive using bayley scales of infant development last month to test her cognitive and motor skills.. She was found to have the cognitive of a 4 year old, but im still waiting for the overall result anytime soon.. They found very interesting finding about her that NUS are interested to do a launguage study with her.. It would bring joy to any parents but the test it gave me understanding of her frustration and behavior problem that I'm facing.. She's asynchronous.. Imagine a 4 years old in a 2 years old body.. How frustrating can it get when your body give you limitation to do what's your brain tells you..

Talking about behavior problems, my daughter are seeing a specialist from Kandang Kerbau Hospital child developement due to her over sensitivities towards materials and sounds which is one of autism signs.. They found that she have got some social behavior problems too.. She refuse to play with other children, but she will do great with adult..she even told one of the researcher that she hates the playground because it's crowded and she only love the library.. I've tried going to parent and child classes like kindermusik but the only thing she did was to cling with me refusing to play with other children, so I stop attending.. She hates our weekly play dates with my mummies friends and their babies, so I make our play date as simple with 2 mummies the most than our usual 5.. Reasoning is one of her best forte, she will only listen if it sound logical to her.. It's very challenging to make her simple tasks without debating..

Almost all of her friends are in play group.. Some even sent their kids to shichida, gymnacademics, kindermusik and etc on top their playgroup.. I've been to lots of centers checking out and all are teaching phonics which she hates and she dont't need to learn reading when she's already a reader.. So here I am, with my little girl at home.. I have no intention of pushing her into any programmes especially 'gifted' programmes or tuitions.. She learns on her own with lots nurturing from me and hubby.. The world is her classroom, which she loves exploring..
 
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Darren

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pumpkin2011 said:
Darren, I would say that your girl are bright! Kudos to you mummy..

I'm a mother of a 24 month old gal who says her first understandable word at 9 months, read simple words, knows her colours alphabets and shapes at 11 months.. She knows flags of the world, thanks to the Olympic telecast last year August.. Now at 2, she's reading level 1 books.. She love to research about the life cycle of sea turtle and robins, that there's a period that only books about life cycle are the only books she'll read..She love marine life such as sea anemone, jellyfish and corals.. Curious about nature especially about plants, dandelions is her favorite .. Last week, she just ask why there's lots of circle in the tree trunks.. This week, she's into atoms and molecules, and each time she drank water, she would say 'I'm drinking oxygen and hydrogen!' And yes, I get people raising their eyebrow as if I'm one of those pushy mummies who teaches such subjects.. She learn reading on her own.. i dont even know phonics, btw she hates phonics too..Frankly, I know nuts about all this.. I'm just a stay home mum with a secondary qualification.. I'm learning from my daughter..

If I were to tell my friends or family about my daughter's development , they would think that I'm just over exaggerating and bragging.. It's frustrating pretending that my child is just as normal as her peers each time I bring her out to play dates.. Yes, parenting jealousy exist no matter how close you are to each other.. I had people telling me that I'm a pushy mother but the truth is, I'm pushed by my daughter.. I wish I've got more energy that what I've got now..

Who doesn't want a bright child? But there's lots of challenges raising one.. Me and my daughter is in the research study about maternal health outcomes with Kandang Kerbau Hospital since my first trimester.. She had been tested by Kandang Kerbau Hospital neurocognitive using bayley scales of infant development last month to test her cognitive and motor skills.. She was found to have the cognitive of a 4 year old, but im still waiting for the overall result anytime soon.. They found very interesting finding about her that NUS are interested to do a launguage study with her.. It would bring joy to any parents but the test it gave me understanding of her frustration and behavior problem that I'm facing.. She's asynchronous.. Imagine a 4 years old in a 2 years old body.. How frustrating can it get when your body give you limitation to do what's your brain tells you..

Talking about behavior problems, my daughter are seeing a specialist from Kandang Kerbau Hospital child developement due to her over sensitivities towards materials and sounds which is one of autism signs.. They found that she have got some social behavior problems too.. She refuse to play with other children, but she will do great with adult..she even told one of the researcher that she hates the playground because it's crowded and she only love the library.. I've tried going to parent and child classes like kindermusik but the only thing she did was to cling with me refusing to play with other children, so I stop attending.. She hates our weekly play dates with my mummies friends and their babies, so I make our play date as simple with 2 mummies the most than our usual 5.. Reasoning is one of her best forte, she will only listen if it sound logical to her.. It's very challenging to make her simple tasks without debating..

Almost all of her friends are in play group.. Some even sent their kids to shichida, gymnacademics, kindermusik and etc on top their playgroup.. I've been to lots of centers checking out and all are teaching phonics which she hates and she dont't need to learn reading when she's already a reader.. So here I am, with my little girl at home.. I have no intention of pushing her into any programmes especially 'gifted' programmes or tuitions.. She learns on her own with lots nurturing from me and hubby.. The world is her classroom, which she loves exploring..
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Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope your daughter is adjusting well.

Some updates on Amber, who will turn 2 in Aug. She is now speaking in sentences and can tell us, "I don't want to get wet" when we bring her into the shower. She has a cheeky sense of reasoning and responded "I have no hands" when we asked her to wave goodbye (she was holding on to some toys). She is able to sing whole nursery rhymes on her own. What is perhaps more impressive is that she can change the words of songs while still keeping to the original tune. We would like to think she's gifted.

But what do you think? Thanks.
 
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ast0212

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Agree totally with lyra.

I reckon, just enjoy them. Challenge them, let them keep learning. All the testing can come later. Over here in Australia I think the testing age is around 4 years old. Bright, gifted or normal they are still kids and don't need labels :)
 
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