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Im a first-time mother - I desperately need advice from other mothers about their decision to be a working or SAHM.
My situation is quite unlike others - I resigned from my previous job as a manager to switch professional field only to discover within the same month that I was pregnant with our first child.
Initially, I was delighted and knew instantly that looking for a new job with a growing belly was out of the question. I also know that most companies would rather not hire preggies....? Anyway, throughout my pregnancy, I stayed at home and work part-time (1 - 2 hours) private teaching. As of today, I am at home 100%....private teaching didn't last long because I was asked to stop teaching in my third trimester. This means that I have zero income.
Now that our baby is born...my confinement period is over....and our baby is 4 months old....somehow I feel quite depress and lonely....for some reason, I even feel like as if my husband has taken me for granted....he's also complaining that he's tired and ask that we cut our expenses....which I thought we already did....
as the days go by, I feel more tired - I don't even feel like me anymore when I look into the mirror...like I lost my identity....and worse, I'm all alone taking care of our baby - my parents-in-law are actively working and due to some family matters, I don't trust my parents to be primary caregiver for our baby...when my husband and I go out with the baby....and I see young parents with domestic helper or their parents helping them....can't help but wish I have that kinda help and guidance....sigh, and recently I checked that infant care is expensive and need to be on the waiting list?? Only working mothers have $600 subsidy? Is it? Gosh! It just gets difficult!
Just wondering....if any mothers out there have any advises for me? Should I update my CV and just look for a job, study a course....or continue to be a SAHM? Then what about breastfeeding? Do companies allow me to pump (store breastmilk in the fridge)? Or should I look for infant care now without wasting time? I'm so new at this..it's making me depress and hopeless.
Pls don't get me wrong - I love my baby v much and i love being his mother...but just feel like something is missing...don't know what....
My situation is quite unlike others - I resigned from my previous job as a manager to switch professional field only to discover within the same month that I was pregnant with our first child.
Initially, I was delighted and knew instantly that looking for a new job with a growing belly was out of the question. I also know that most companies would rather not hire preggies....? Anyway, throughout my pregnancy, I stayed at home and work part-time (1 - 2 hours) private teaching. As of today, I am at home 100%....private teaching didn't last long because I was asked to stop teaching in my third trimester. This means that I have zero income.
Now that our baby is born...my confinement period is over....and our baby is 4 months old....somehow I feel quite depress and lonely....for some reason, I even feel like as if my husband has taken me for granted....he's also complaining that he's tired and ask that we cut our expenses....which I thought we already did....
as the days go by, I feel more tired - I don't even feel like me anymore when I look into the mirror...like I lost my identity....and worse, I'm all alone taking care of our baby - my parents-in-law are actively working and due to some family matters, I don't trust my parents to be primary caregiver for our baby...when my husband and I go out with the baby....and I see young parents with domestic helper or their parents helping them....can't help but wish I have that kinda help and guidance....sigh, and recently I checked that infant care is expensive and need to be on the waiting list?? Only working mothers have $600 subsidy? Is it? Gosh! It just gets difficult!
Just wondering....if any mothers out there have any advises for me? Should I update my CV and just look for a job, study a course....or continue to be a SAHM? Then what about breastfeeding? Do companies allow me to pump (store breastmilk in the fridge)? Or should I look for infant care now without wasting time? I'm so new at this..it's making me depress and hopeless.
Pls don't get me wrong - I love my baby v much and i love being his mother...but just feel like something is missing...don't know what....