hurtfulgirl
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this might be long winded.. but i need to pour out my feelings.. and seek advice...
i've been w my hb tgt for almost 8years. we had a 3yo daughter. he cheated me once when we were in our r/s 4 or 5 yrs back, i caught his msgs on phone and i confronted him. he insist that he didnt but there is proof. and he told me he wont do it again when i told him im leaving him. so i didnt suspect anything until few months ago, i was suspicious about him having an affair. as we didnt have much intimate moments (e.g. twice a month) which makes me feel very insecure. but i trusted him and i didnt ask him if he had an affair or so. but recently, my brother and his wife was having affair too, and i told my hb about it. he says to me that:" your brother is at no fault when he cheat on girl. maybe he just want to f and go, not like your sis-in-law having an affair for 3yrs outside. you shldn't blame your brother.." when i heard what he says... i started to get doubtful.. so on Sunday 27 Apr afternoon, when he is taking his nap , i secretly look at his phone. i saw this whatsapp msg from this girl msg him:"i'm home. going to slp now. nite!!" she send him the msg on 27 Apr morning 7.42am. the weird thing is that only this msg appears. and where is the rest of the msg? usually those junks msgs, he dont delete away in his whatsapp or messages. so i took a photo of it in case he delete away. and at night at 4am when he is asleep again. i took his phone and see if he really delete the msg. and yes he did! i keep telling myself, pls god dont let it be the truth that i want to know. and i try searching other social apps that he use. he was using this app call LINE. which most of the games that he play require this app to connect. and i was shock to see a msg from another girl:"Hey!. U r seriously for the fling with me? mean i am your fling? for currently. contact me if u back."
I breakdown and cry. i couldnt help. what she meant by that? Fling?!
he woke up and ask me what happened. i told him and he insist and say he didnt. he got upset and said that he didnt do anything. he dont know why she msg him. i ask him who is this girl? is it her colly? he say no. he say all these girls flew to him and want to fling with him but he didnt want to be w them or contact them. So i ask him den y is there a previous msg and only the girl send to him? he told me he doesnt want me to think too much so he delete the msg.. i breakdown and couldnt stop crying.. he told me and say what he wants me to do now. i told him to reply that girl:" what if im your fling" so i want to see what does the girl reply. but he didnt msg her what i said. he msg her:"i am not your fling" so he explain to me that he luvs me a lot and doesnt have anything do to with them. is all the girls wants to approach him. after the fight we back to sleep and i couldnt sleep at all.. i was going to work.. i couldnt trust him.. so i took his phone and see if the girls reply. and she did. she actually reply straight after my husband msg him that he is not her fling. i also check his call logs, they even chat on the phone when my hb is doing his night OT last week.
she reply:"hehe~ok. so we are friends only? can share more abt fling w me? i am curious. when u back? then i share my story with me. after i meet u, i have totally lose my voice until now. but see u want to share it or not. when next time we have chance to meet, will give u a good hug. that day really sorry, i am really not well, so no mood to hug and kiss"
wtf did i just saw?! so he did meet her and he even want to hug and kiss her? what if she was feeling well? that might in bed! i was very shock to death.. i got very weak heart.. my heart started to ache really painful and palpitation begin, i couldnt breathe. i woke him up and i told him im really disappointed w him what he have done to me. he say what happened. i show him the msg. he say y i go and look thru again? he told me he want to delete the Apps already. and say he shld have delete last night. i told him that this is not the problem now. problem is u had met w the girl and i really dont know what u have done. he keep says he did nothing wrong.. he didnt betrayed me.. i ask him if he have intention to hug and kiss her? he keep insist no! but the proof is there. he told me that he told me that doesnt know y the girl says these kind of things when the girl knows that he is married and got wife. i was like WTF, dont bullshit w me. in the end, he confess. he said he was playful. i ask him where he know this girl, he told me through LINE and i ask him how old, he say 20+. he say he loves me a lot and wont do things that betray me. and i told him, what if the girl she feeling well, you guys might in bed. and he told me that but he didnt do it! he keep saying he luvs me and my daughter a lot and wont such things.. he said im giving him stress now.. i told him stress? who is the fault now.. he ask me what he wants me to do. what can i say.. i told him pls dont do it again. i cant take such blow. i might just die. i told him pls for the sake of our daughter. i doesnt want her to have separated parents. he suddenly red eyes and rub his eyes. i could see his eyes fill with tears. he said to me that he of cos will think of our daughter and ask me dont talk about our daughter because he luv her a lot too.. he told me he is sorry and he promise he wont do it again.. he told me he just being playful and tts all.. i 4give him and i told him i will trust him again.. but in my heart it was really painful.. and i really dont know how to trust him again..
what should i do now, its really heartbreaking. although he delete his LINE app, but he still got her contact number. even if he delete everything, i got this feeling that the girl will msg him again.. I got this urge to look at his phone every now and then. and yesterday when he went to bathe, he carried his phone w him into the bathe room. and when we went out to at night, he put his phone at home to charge and he didnt bring out. and when he was asleep, he place his phone beside him even though his phone is low batt....
i've been w my hb tgt for almost 8years. we had a 3yo daughter. he cheated me once when we were in our r/s 4 or 5 yrs back, i caught his msgs on phone and i confronted him. he insist that he didnt but there is proof. and he told me he wont do it again when i told him im leaving him. so i didnt suspect anything until few months ago, i was suspicious about him having an affair. as we didnt have much intimate moments (e.g. twice a month) which makes me feel very insecure. but i trusted him and i didnt ask him if he had an affair or so. but recently, my brother and his wife was having affair too, and i told my hb about it. he says to me that:" your brother is at no fault when he cheat on girl. maybe he just want to f and go, not like your sis-in-law having an affair for 3yrs outside. you shldn't blame your brother.." when i heard what he says... i started to get doubtful.. so on Sunday 27 Apr afternoon, when he is taking his nap , i secretly look at his phone. i saw this whatsapp msg from this girl msg him:"i'm home. going to slp now. nite!!" she send him the msg on 27 Apr morning 7.42am. the weird thing is that only this msg appears. and where is the rest of the msg? usually those junks msgs, he dont delete away in his whatsapp or messages. so i took a photo of it in case he delete away. and at night at 4am when he is asleep again. i took his phone and see if he really delete the msg. and yes he did! i keep telling myself, pls god dont let it be the truth that i want to know. and i try searching other social apps that he use. he was using this app call LINE. which most of the games that he play require this app to connect. and i was shock to see a msg from another girl:"Hey!. U r seriously for the fling with me? mean i am your fling? for currently. contact me if u back."
I breakdown and cry. i couldnt help. what she meant by that? Fling?!
he woke up and ask me what happened. i told him and he insist and say he didnt. he got upset and said that he didnt do anything. he dont know why she msg him. i ask him who is this girl? is it her colly? he say no. he say all these girls flew to him and want to fling with him but he didnt want to be w them or contact them. So i ask him den y is there a previous msg and only the girl send to him? he told me he doesnt want me to think too much so he delete the msg.. i breakdown and couldnt stop crying.. he told me and say what he wants me to do now. i told him to reply that girl:" what if im your fling" so i want to see what does the girl reply. but he didnt msg her what i said. he msg her:"i am not your fling" so he explain to me that he luvs me a lot and doesnt have anything do to with them. is all the girls wants to approach him. after the fight we back to sleep and i couldnt sleep at all.. i was going to work.. i couldnt trust him.. so i took his phone and see if the girls reply. and she did. she actually reply straight after my husband msg him that he is not her fling. i also check his call logs, they even chat on the phone when my hb is doing his night OT last week.
she reply:"hehe~ok. so we are friends only? can share more abt fling w me? i am curious. when u back? then i share my story with me. after i meet u, i have totally lose my voice until now. but see u want to share it or not. when next time we have chance to meet, will give u a good hug. that day really sorry, i am really not well, so no mood to hug and kiss"
wtf did i just saw?! so he did meet her and he even want to hug and kiss her? what if she was feeling well? that might in bed! i was very shock to death.. i got very weak heart.. my heart started to ache really painful and palpitation begin, i couldnt breathe. i woke him up and i told him im really disappointed w him what he have done to me. he say what happened. i show him the msg. he say y i go and look thru again? he told me he want to delete the Apps already. and say he shld have delete last night. i told him that this is not the problem now. problem is u had met w the girl and i really dont know what u have done. he keep says he did nothing wrong.. he didnt betrayed me.. i ask him if he have intention to hug and kiss her? he keep insist no! but the proof is there. he told me that he told me that doesnt know y the girl says these kind of things when the girl knows that he is married and got wife. i was like WTF, dont bullshit w me. in the end, he confess. he said he was playful. i ask him where he know this girl, he told me through LINE and i ask him how old, he say 20+. he say he loves me a lot and wont do things that betray me. and i told him, what if the girl she feeling well, you guys might in bed. and he told me that but he didnt do it! he keep saying he luvs me and my daughter a lot and wont such things.. he said im giving him stress now.. i told him stress? who is the fault now.. he ask me what he wants me to do. what can i say.. i told him pls dont do it again. i cant take such blow. i might just die. i told him pls for the sake of our daughter. i doesnt want her to have separated parents. he suddenly red eyes and rub his eyes. i could see his eyes fill with tears. he said to me that he of cos will think of our daughter and ask me dont talk about our daughter because he luv her a lot too.. he told me he is sorry and he promise he wont do it again.. he told me he just being playful and tts all.. i 4give him and i told him i will trust him again.. but in my heart it was really painful.. and i really dont know how to trust him again..
what should i do now, its really heartbreaking. although he delete his LINE app, but he still got her contact number. even if he delete everything, i got this feeling that the girl will msg him again.. I got this urge to look at his phone every now and then. and yesterday when he went to bathe, he carried his phone w him into the bathe room. and when we went out to at night, he put his phone at home to charge and he didnt bring out. and when he was asleep, he place his phone beside him even though his phone is low batt....