shi_san_yee
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Sorry abt your loss... It really sucks to be forced into a decision. Forcing myself into getting married was depressing too, especially into one that was doomed to fail. I'm so glad I didn't marry him in the end; I can think of more ways than 1 how miserable I'd be. I was toldnid be on my own too, and that because of my future, I must abort. Our own parents will never leave us to die, and which grandparent will not love their own grandchild? My parents now adore my child even though he has no father. That being said, my mum did give me hell, but I think I know where she's coming from. She'll never act pissed in front of my ex, she didn't when he came to see my son during my confinement. She thinks he was being responsible for his actions.
My ex's parents take it as a given that they have a right to see my son regularly because of his DNA. what is DNA, other than a sperm? I cannot deny he's my son's father, but he's definitely not his dad; fatherhood is not as simple as a DNA input. It's very maddening to be pestered by him to see the child regularly 'to watch him play and grow up' what bullshit is that?! For someone who told me to abort, he has no moral rights to even see my son, too bad it's not the same for legal rights. I don't wish for my son to know about how his father handled the situation, and I need to think of how to tell him about it, I can't bring myself to look at my baby and tell him his father didn't want him just because I didn't marry him.
I sometimes think about what could have been; if I married him, and I see a life of difficulty, unhappiness, more stress and how miserable I'll be in a stuck situation. Of course all the issues would be solved if I had aborted my child, but now that I have him, I would not have changed a thing. He is everything to me, my every decision is made with him in mind, my life revolved around him, and I wouldn't give that up for anything.
Now all I want is for him to leave us alone for good. I don't need him to ruin my life or my son's. No man is ever worth it if he disregards a life, doesn't matter if he changes his mind later. Once an action is done, so is the damage.
My ex's parents take it as a given that they have a right to see my son regularly because of his DNA. what is DNA, other than a sperm? I cannot deny he's my son's father, but he's definitely not his dad; fatherhood is not as simple as a DNA input. It's very maddening to be pestered by him to see the child regularly 'to watch him play and grow up' what bullshit is that?! For someone who told me to abort, he has no moral rights to even see my son, too bad it's not the same for legal rights. I don't wish for my son to know about how his father handled the situation, and I need to think of how to tell him about it, I can't bring myself to look at my baby and tell him his father didn't want him just because I didn't marry him.
I sometimes think about what could have been; if I married him, and I see a life of difficulty, unhappiness, more stress and how miserable I'll be in a stuck situation. Of course all the issues would be solved if I had aborted my child, but now that I have him, I would not have changed a thing. He is everything to me, my every decision is made with him in mind, my life revolved around him, and I wouldn't give that up for anything.
Now all I want is for him to leave us alone for good. I don't need him to ruin my life or my son's. No man is ever worth it if he disregards a life, doesn't matter if he changes his mind later. Once an action is done, so is the damage.