Hi, i'm a SPR and i have met the married man since 2006. He conned me that he is going to divorce his wife at the time and i also not going to accept him at first. The longer i know him then realised that he has the tendency of violence. He will torturing himself if i never listen to him. I'm so helpless then i accepted him. On 2008 we have our son. After the delivered of son, he has shown me his true color. He did not torturing himself anymore. He started to use violence on me. Even a small issue like feeding baby he also can pick up a quarrel. On 2012, i then have another girl. Although we have endless quarrel, but he still love his children. He provides us a house which is requested by my parents. He will always pick up my son after school.
Recently, his temper has changed from bad to worst. On 26 dec 2013 he has kicked me from my back while i'm feeding my girl. Although the kick was painful and has frighten my girl, but i did not defence and i carry on to feed my girl. After finished her dinner, i walked to the room. He carry the girl and push me from behind then started slapping me. To defence i pull his shirt and kick him. I then call the police.
After the incident, he come to apologize and i told him i have decided to leave him forever. He can't accept it and threatening me and my sister.
On 1/1/2014, he come to my house to pick up his stuff then he carry away my girl. I made police report on the spot but the police told me they can't do anything as the father's name is in the birth cert.
Currently my 18months old girl was being hid in his condo (THE WARREN) and i was unable to go into the condo. He asked the guard not to allow me to enter the CONDO.
I employed a lawyer to get back the child, at the beginning the lawyer was very confident can get the child back immediately.
With the COURT SUMMON, even police also can't get him. He knows that as long as he don't appear and they can't do anything to him.
I have waiting endlessly. Now my girl was staying in a strange place with strangers. I'm really useless mom to let her encounter such situation.
I have the court mediation last two days which all the agreement seems siding him. I want to leave him. I don't wish to carry on the relationship anymore.
If i can't protect myself, how am i going to protect my children if i carry on to stay there.
Now I really dunno whether to carry on to fight for the custody or to hold everything as my lawyer told me the most possibilities are we both got each child. This was what happening now. I'm holding on the boy and he is holding on the girl.
If this is the only possibility then i will not fight for it anymore. it is impossible for me to go back to previous as I really can't place my children in dangerous places.
I really need advice. If you have encounter such situation before, please give me some advice. Really appreciated. from Sad mummy.
Recently, his temper has changed from bad to worst. On 26 dec 2013 he has kicked me from my back while i'm feeding my girl. Although the kick was painful and has frighten my girl, but i did not defence and i carry on to feed my girl. After finished her dinner, i walked to the room. He carry the girl and push me from behind then started slapping me. To defence i pull his shirt and kick him. I then call the police.
After the incident, he come to apologize and i told him i have decided to leave him forever. He can't accept it and threatening me and my sister.
On 1/1/2014, he come to my house to pick up his stuff then he carry away my girl. I made police report on the spot but the police told me they can't do anything as the father's name is in the birth cert.
Currently my 18months old girl was being hid in his condo (THE WARREN) and i was unable to go into the condo. He asked the guard not to allow me to enter the CONDO.
I employed a lawyer to get back the child, at the beginning the lawyer was very confident can get the child back immediately.
With the COURT SUMMON, even police also can't get him. He knows that as long as he don't appear and they can't do anything to him.
I have waiting endlessly. Now my girl was staying in a strange place with strangers. I'm really useless mom to let her encounter such situation.
I have the court mediation last two days which all the agreement seems siding him. I want to leave him. I don't wish to carry on the relationship anymore.
If i can't protect myself, how am i going to protect my children if i carry on to stay there.
Now I really dunno whether to carry on to fight for the custody or to hold everything as my lawyer told me the most possibilities are we both got each child. This was what happening now. I'm holding on the boy and he is holding on the girl.
If this is the only possibility then i will not fight for it anymore. it is impossible for me to go back to previous as I really can't place my children in dangerous places.
I really need advice. If you have encounter such situation before, please give me some advice. Really appreciated. from Sad mummy.