Hi, I'm not entirely sure I'll get any response from the forum community here but hopefully I can.
My wife recently gave birth to my cute baby boy. He is really something I've to say. Can't believe what a simpleton he can make me. Unfortunately, things are not going well between me and my wife. It seems to have started right after she came back from the hospital. She became very argumentative, always finding fault and criticising me. Not sure why this is happening. She was doing great when she was still pregnant but after giving birth I don't know what hit her. Some examples which left my head spinning!
1. Saying that I am money faced because I've started saving for the baby's education and putting money into his Mighty Saver's Account or something like. When I said what the hell, she said something like I saved too much and blah blah blah and the reason is because I am money faced!
2. Giving me the "eye" for picking up the baby when he started crying at night. I picked him up because I couldn't stand seeing him cry. Pitiful! She just sit there and didn't do anything. When I feed the baby and ask her to turn on the TV. My god. All hell broke loose. But kudos to Usain Bolt.
3. And did I say the mother-in-law is the confinement lady? She and my wife always gang up and make fun of me on the way I hold the baby, the way I feed him, try to burp him and change his diaper. At least I'm learning. My wife doesn't even bother to learn all these!
4. When I came back from work, I didn't smile at them! WTF?!
5. Criticised for caring too much about how much the baby is drinking, on stocking up on formula, on sterilising the bottles, on keeping enough both warm and room temperature water, on keeping the floor dust free, on the need to call the doctor for rashes, blocked nose, on buying new bottles for the baby, on asking whether the baby should drink a bit of water so that his mouth is not that dry, etc, etc.
6. And the best. Just this morning, I was been criticised for the way I clean the house and the bathrooms. Too clean she says. Her mother-in-law joined in the fun. Saying that if I continue cleaning I'll get obsessive compulsive disorder. I've been doing this for years even before I met her like what 10 years ago?! Didn't even ask her to use a broom or mop all these years! I clean the house all the time and I didn't even tell her to do anything! I really find this really really insulting. I understand they have one weird auntie who is OCD but she is mad. I am not!!!
I don't know man. This is all I can think of. This morning's incident really floored me. It became ugly and there was a shouting match much to the chagrin of my in-laws. Fireworks and everything. I was thinking maybe she got post-natal or something. But no man. She's okay and she's going back to work end of this month. I do not dare to imagine what will happen then. Taking care of the baby and working is really hard work. I found that out first hand. But really why the change all of the sudden? I just remembered that she even has issues with me keeping the kitchen basin clean! I really have no idea what is going on. Just five minutes ago I was reading about separation and divorce procedures.
Am I going nuts?!!! I thought I am doing fine as a husband and father. Come to think about it. Every insult, criticism and anything from her on has always something to do with the illogical concept that I am a bad and terrible father. Oh man. This is sick.
Looking forward to some suggestions on tackling this or at least keep my sanity.
My wife recently gave birth to my cute baby boy. He is really something I've to say. Can't believe what a simpleton he can make me. Unfortunately, things are not going well between me and my wife. It seems to have started right after she came back from the hospital. She became very argumentative, always finding fault and criticising me. Not sure why this is happening. She was doing great when she was still pregnant but after giving birth I don't know what hit her. Some examples which left my head spinning!
1. Saying that I am money faced because I've started saving for the baby's education and putting money into his Mighty Saver's Account or something like. When I said what the hell, she said something like I saved too much and blah blah blah and the reason is because I am money faced!
2. Giving me the "eye" for picking up the baby when he started crying at night. I picked him up because I couldn't stand seeing him cry. Pitiful! She just sit there and didn't do anything. When I feed the baby and ask her to turn on the TV. My god. All hell broke loose. But kudos to Usain Bolt.
3. And did I say the mother-in-law is the confinement lady? She and my wife always gang up and make fun of me on the way I hold the baby, the way I feed him, try to burp him and change his diaper. At least I'm learning. My wife doesn't even bother to learn all these!
4. When I came back from work, I didn't smile at them! WTF?!
5. Criticised for caring too much about how much the baby is drinking, on stocking up on formula, on sterilising the bottles, on keeping enough both warm and room temperature water, on keeping the floor dust free, on the need to call the doctor for rashes, blocked nose, on buying new bottles for the baby, on asking whether the baby should drink a bit of water so that his mouth is not that dry, etc, etc.
6. And the best. Just this morning, I was been criticised for the way I clean the house and the bathrooms. Too clean she says. Her mother-in-law joined in the fun. Saying that if I continue cleaning I'll get obsessive compulsive disorder. I've been doing this for years even before I met her like what 10 years ago?! Didn't even ask her to use a broom or mop all these years! I clean the house all the time and I didn't even tell her to do anything! I really find this really really insulting. I understand they have one weird auntie who is OCD but she is mad. I am not!!!
I don't know man. This is all I can think of. This morning's incident really floored me. It became ugly and there was a shouting match much to the chagrin of my in-laws. Fireworks and everything. I was thinking maybe she got post-natal or something. But no man. She's okay and she's going back to work end of this month. I do not dare to imagine what will happen then. Taking care of the baby and working is really hard work. I found that out first hand. But really why the change all of the sudden? I just remembered that she even has issues with me keeping the kitchen basin clean! I really have no idea what is going on. Just five minutes ago I was reading about separation and divorce procedures.
Am I going nuts?!!! I thought I am doing fine as a husband and father. Come to think about it. Every insult, criticism and anything from her on has always something to do with the illogical concept that I am a bad and terrible father. Oh man. This is sick.
Looking forward to some suggestions on tackling this or at least keep my sanity.